Class of '18 nervously waiting.

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They've left college, now we are trying not to think about a certain date.

Thanks all. I am aiming for the ostrich. I sort of wish I had put off the appointment til after my holiday but then I would have been into results week and hospital results! Might have a little worry about it today and then try to not think about it then til after the holiday.

marmite hope the holiday is a good distraction for you.

Oh Marmite. Hope you can really enjoy your holiday.

DS has just phoned, he made it to my Dad's. He cut about 30 miles yesterday due to the heat, but has still cycled about 140 miles with his bike fully laden with tent, clothes etc. Very proud of him!

marmite - sorry you're going through this. Fingers crossed it's nothing sinister. I'm so crap when hearing this type of news - I never know what the right thing is to say.

Enjoy your holiday the best you can. Wine. Wine will help for the moment.

Thanks Starfleet. Yes was thinking gin!! Lots of gin!

Marmite. I have everything crossed for you x

I am in A&E with DS's girlfriend who attempted suicide today. Im so pleased he told me she had taken an over dose, so that's what I've been doing since 2pm. She has to stay on a drip overnight, so parents are coming down ( she wasnt happy about that!). But ffs. What an ffing couple of days.

Knitting I hope you've heard from your DS now and he's having a ball

derek it just keeps on getting worse for you. As you say, what an effing couple of days.

He's let me know when to pick him up, he's finished the day rather than bailing. It would appear that he's got himself into a happier place at some point which is good, it would have been better if he could share the happy in the same way that he shared the misery. I've had a rotten day (all sunshine and flowers compared to yours though) worrying about him and checking my phone every five minutes. I went to Zumba though, I never gave him a moment's thought as all my concentration was on which way I should be going and keeping the sweat out of my eyes.

Let's hope that tomorrow is a good news day for us as a group, we could do with some.

Thank goodness he told you what she's done Derek.

Sending good wishes to those waiting for medical test results:

These are stressful time without any extras.

Sorry that your days have been so crappy and scarey - marmite and Derek.

I will keep you both in my thoughts.

OMG derek how awful is she going to be ok?

Oh no Derek. I am sorry. How stressful for you. I hope her parents have turned up now. These poor young people are under such stress.

I've had a bit of a cry and a large bar of chocolate. Feel a bit better now.

Also. Thank you everyone for the kind words. You don't know how much it means!

Oh goodness Derek.

Panda that is some mega cycling!

FFS Derek what a shit time.

I think you needed that Marmite.

Knitting, your ds is stronger than he realises.

It's a full on week here, not on the scale of others here though.

and all round.

Hello!
I've just finished my exams and I'm really worried about the results day, even though I'm predicted good grades and I have an unconditional, could I join for some sage advice?

of course :) what is it that's worrying you?

Quite a few things that all essentially boil down to me not getting the grades. I'm kind of a perfectionist so I want really good grades anyway, but also I had some really rough patches while I was at college and my teachers have been so supportive, I kind of want to prove I was worth the trouble.
Also, my university offers a grant if students get AAA or above, and I could really use the money, but I haven't told my parents in case I don't get it and they get their hopes up over nothing.
Since I've done very well all things considered, and my unconditional makes my position pretty secure compared to most, anyone I try to talk to pretty much says "you've got an unconditional, stop worrying", which just kind of makes things worse and I start to think about all the times I was making myself eat before exams or getting early nights which I know was the smart thing to do because I wasn't eating or sleeping much my second year and it came back to bite me in the mocks, but I still feel I should have been revising and then I wouldn't be so worried.
Sorry, that post became very rambly

Which exams have you taken? A levels or degree?

You sound like a very conscientious student. All of us have children waiting for results so we understand how hard A levels are and how much work you have to do. The waiting seems endless and I am sure it does for your parents too. I expect they are just trying to reassure you and want you to achieve the best grades. Don't be too hard on yourself. I think all of the kids on here have had blips over the past two years. I know that my daughter has.

marmite I would recommend the full ostrich and just enjoy your holiday. I work in diagnostic radiography and whilst I'm wary of posting as such because of the regulations on social media and my job I have to say that 99% of the time it's a lovely and boring job because it's so unusual that anything is actually wrong. The amount of people we investigate for thoroughness vs the amount of people who need further treatment is skewed massively in favour of the perfectly fine but needed to be looked at to make sure.

Derek I'm so sorry you are having to shoulder such a scary burden but it's amazing that you can be there for her. I hope you have an amazing holiday in Tenerife.

Panda chapeau to your DS, mine cycles too and that is a brilliant journey to do alone.

DS1 has gone on holiday with his mates in the UK and I HATE it, can't believe we have to chill out and let them be away from us forever soon. He's going to be driving on motorways and everything at the weekend. How I wish he was still terrorising me as a 7 year old again!

Welcome DrPeppers, we are all worrying too just one step removed, just remember it's not the be all and end all, whatever grades you get there is a whole big world out there and wherever you end up will be very lucky to have you.

DrP it sounds like you did the right thing before your exams. It is a worry for everyone and the problem with reassurances is this 'yes but you don't know voice' that we all have running in our heads when ever someone says it will be fine.

Sometimes agreeing with yourself that you can postpone the worry can help. That's useful when there's nothing that worry can change. So perhaps you can agree with yourself that you are going to enjoy this week and weekend, then revisit the worry on Monday to see if you need to have a little worry then. It would be sad not to enjoy this lovely summer because of your little what if voice.

Something that might help is imagining that little what if voice as a mini little person. In your head take them by the hand and march them firmly over to a weeny little sofa in front of a teeny little telly. Turn the telly on to your favourite program and tell them sternly that they need to watch that til Monday when you will return to them to see how they are. Leave them mental little snacks. Then in your head close the door firmly to that room, knowing that they are ok and you can check in on them if you need to.

I have to just share what is likely to be the funniest thing to happen in our house today. DD2 is away. DD1 is staying in bed all morning partly out of fear/anxiety/teenagerness and partly because she knows that when she gets to uni she will be on 9am starts every day. DD3 doesn’t usually get to spend any time 1:1 with DD1. No big reason, it is just the way that school/clubs etc works out. DD3 is desperate to be grown up and independent like she thinks DD1 is. Obviously everyone here knows that is not the case.

Anyway, we recently got a new cleaner. She arrives at 8.30 and does the girls rooms and bathrooms first. Last night I said they had to choose between getting out of bed to let the cleaner in, or doing it themselves later in the day. DD1 (tiny and very tidy room) immediately says she’ll stay in bed and do it herself later. DD3 then chips in “me too, I like really want to sleep too”. I pointed out this would mean cleaning her bathroom and hoovering too. “Yeah, me and DD1 just need more sleep”.

8.30. Cleaner arrives. 8.31 DD3 arrives downstairs dressed and says that she’s decided to go out in her bike before it gets too hot.

Actually writing it down it doesn’t sound as funny, but it really made me laugh. The younger ones just can’t wait to grow up, and the older ones are terrified now they know what it means.

That's hilarious Hardwick! That's some motivation.