Class of '18 nervously waiting.

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They've left college, now we are trying not to think about a certain date.

Had a chat with DD2 today to see how she wanted to play things on The Day Which Must Not Be Mentioned. Current thinking is as follows:

If she has her place then she will walk to school to get her results. She will help friends if needed. She will then come home to celebrate with us then go out with friends in the evening.

If she hasnt got her place then one of us will drive her in to get results then come straight home to start the search for a place.

She isnt planning to resit even if results are disappointing. She feels (and we agree) that she couldnt have worked harder.

So, that is the current plan.

Post I know couples who have done similar who have had long happy lives together. I wish your dd well :) When do you go into hospital.

Ursula all I know about breakfast is that it won't be a cooked by Mum one. Cereal I reckon.

That sounds like a good plan Gnome. It's good to know what to do in case of minor panic.

dds plan is to go to a party on Wednesday, then stay over night with friends so they can support each other. They will go into college together and I'll meet her there either for a quick hug, or a longer hug, depending on what is needed. She isn't sure whether track will open before they need to set off, so I could have a long wait on the Thursday before I know.

I feel a bit weird that I won't be there with her when she finds out, but you know, if it means that she has the kind of support that she wants, then that's the important thing. It's her moment in life. I really hope it's ok though.

I had a similar thought to kitten just this morning. Next month? How can it be only next month?? Waiting for the day that must not be named has been taking ages, but next month for hopefully setting off to uni really doesn't seem possible .

Re breakfast - where will she keep her butter? And in what? I was musing on this this morning as I internally raged at the toast crumbs in the butter. She is partial to a toasted currant tea cake or a cinnamon bagel but both require copious amounts of good quality salted butter. It's the kitchen sharing that may cause the issues.

In the winter on the outside of her windowsill Ursula, in the summer, in a plastic bag in her loo cistern if she has ensuite

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at butter in the cistern!!

at toilet cistern. That’s good that plans are starting to form for the day that shall not be mentioned. Hospital is Tuesday Kitten, hopefully only for a night.

In my day milk was kept on the window sill. Butter became a treat only enjoyed at home.

Like carpets then.

It's the biggest sensory memory I have of coming home from college. Deep pile carpets underfoot.

I'd forgotten about the carrier bag dangling outside the window with the milk in. There was no butter nor need for butter as the electrics would not have coped with a toaster. The old hall next door had tiny gas fires in the rooms and they quickly go sorted with toasting forks.

Today I'd have one of those earthernware pots with saucers that cool by evaporation. I didn't know they existed at the time and of course back then there was no internet to tell you what you didn't know.

just seen this thread.
10 days to go!
DD unsure of future plans currently so we are in very much limbo

There's plenty of room on the limbo bench Slartybartfast, we'll all scoot up. I'm lucky in that DS is holding an offer of EE but it's still a conditional one. Pans and bedding are on hold until he knows whether he's looking at an induction hob and what size his bed will be. There will be plenty of time later, it's just that I would have liked to have been doing something in this waiting period.

Feeling I know nothing about induction hobs! Was planning on sending DD off with my old pans and getting some new ones for me . But how do I know if they have induction hobs? And how do I know if my pans will work on them?

Nice to think about some trivial stuff for a while rather than what if she doesn't get the grades!

If a magnet sticks to the base of the pan it's fine. You've hit it right on the head, this is me concentrating on something that doesn't really matter to avoid the main issue. "Let's choose a duvet cover" is far safer than "let's talk about your career path".

You are so right about the focussing on something (duvet covers, pans, anything) as a displacement activity whilst trying to ignore the really big thing!

Thanks! Now I can find some magnets and see what my saucepans do

DD has opted for full on ostrich so there is no displacement activity here.

It's displacement activity for us too. But we are starting to fit in more fun stuff now which feels much nicer.

OK so i now know how to tell if my tatty old saucepans will work on an induction hob (thanks knitting) but how do i know (per adrink) if they have induction hobs - i'm sure they don't give that level of detail in the accommodation notes!!

(Adrink, i had the same plan re old/new saucepans!)

Poor DD has a nasty sickness bug
I was woken up in the middle of the night by a sad, scared little voice calling "mummy" - it was like a flashback to 15 years ago!
I then spent a few hours holding her hair back, bringing glasses of water etc, and then slept in the chair next to her bed holding her hand because she didn't want me to leave.
I haven't been needed for that level of "mummying" for a very long time!

My big independent grown up seemed suddenly very young again and I just looked at her little face thinking how on earth can she possibly be about to move away?

lobster scary for you really. I hope dd feels better soon.

You poor old sausages Lobster and Lobsterdd. That sounds really mean. I hope she feels well soon.

So sorry your daughter feels so sick. Hope she feels better soon.

Your post Brings it home that they will be leaving home next month and we won’t be there to look after them (gulp).

I can't remember the last time I was mummied. Poor thing, being ill in the night is horrible, the night goes on and on forever.