When do you give up on a child you are fostering?

[Roshbegosh]

We are having a terrible time with a 12yo child that has been with us for a few years now. One thing after another and he smoked some weed this week, was in a fight, had a school exclusion etc. we love him but he is making us miserable all the time. The SWs don't exist basically, so shite, that is another story. If we give up on this boy he will end up in a childrens home and most likely go downhill fast. Horrible dilemma. Don't say ask LA for support, have done, no response AGAIN. Feel torn, stressed, miserable and knackered.

You’re not a failure, the problem isn’t you. Sounds like you’re doing you’re best for her, unfortunately she’s not understanding this.
You can only do your best.
It’s a very unusual time at the moment and it’s hard for everyone.
Have you got a carers support group? Your Sw may be able to help you with this, having someone to talk to who understands can help.
Hopefully when you have your meeting they can put some support in for you.
Let us know how you get on. X