grrr.... playdate has just declared - he hates my dinner offering and will not eat it.

[TracyK]

I gave him a list to choose from and he took spaghetti - but not bolognese - just 'sauce'. I used a home made smooth tomato type sauce - no meat or cheese (he hates cheese!). and he's turned his nose up at it.
Now ds says he hates it too - although he eats it happily any other time. They are 5yo.
Do I offer them something else - I've said there isn't anything else - do I reverse?

Don't bother, he'll just refuse that too. Give him a yoghurt and a banana.

He wanted sketti from a tin of course.

nope - go with sparkly's idea. bet he is not as much of a pita at home

Oh, God. I am dreading all this!

Def don't give him something else - just tell his Mum that he didn't want his tea and she can feed him when he gets home.

Have learned not to stress about what dds friends eat - i cook a meal and they either eat it or they don't

Hold your ground. You can do it.

Big Tip for you - NEVER ask playdates what they want to eat !!! I do ask dd what she would like to eat - the morning before and that is what they get ! I no longer discuss food with small visitors - I just nmake it and put it on the table - they can eat or not eat - if they don't like it I will give them a slice of braed and butter or they can wait until they get home ! I always tell their mum if they hav refused my food too !

agree with scatterbrain

except I make them something else if they are clearly struggling

Ooh I had similar.

Mum said she only didn't like fish.

I ask in the car if she likes spaghetti - yes. So I cook, from scratch, spag bol.

Ate about 3 mouthfuls.

I think she also meant tinned... never occurred to me!

Agh Enid - you are a pushover !

I made a playdate guest just eat the plain pasta when he siad he wanted pasta then refused ity because the sauce wasn't right...ie just ketchup!!!

He ate it though.

it never happens though as I always do roast chicken and they all love it

he's a negative little shit - he 'hates' everything. Thats why I gave him a choice - of just what I had in the fridge tho. omlette, spaghetti, beefburgers, pakora or scotch pies. I usually give him cheese dreams - but thought I'd try something new this time.

Little shit.

He eats chicken at home - but I didn't have much in - he was a surprise playdate.
I did say it wasn't hoops from a tin - but straight ones from a packet and he said that was ok.
Surley they don't eat it with tomato ketchup?

Tracey he is just a little boy FGS there is no need to call him names

Offer him a piece of toast and just chill

make sandwiches next time

Blimey.

I'd offer him a sandwich TBH.

His mum is coming for him soon - he can get fed at home.

How old is he?

He's 5 and a half.

I'd say have plain pasta then, or offer a piece of bread. If you dislike him so much don't invite him again!

God I hate playdates !! if it's not the squabbling and sulking it's the food !!! Too stressful by half !

give him some bread and butter

I always do picnics to avoid this problem. Either a picnic in the garden if it's fine or a picnic on a rug on the living room floor if it's wet or cold. I just do lots of little bits - sandwiches, fruit, cheese, etc. Little amounts so it doesn't get wasted and things that I know my DSs will eat. I've never had a child over yet who didn't find something he/she liked.