grrr.... playdate has just declared - he hates my dinner offering and will not eat it.

[TracyK]

I gave him a list to choose from and he took spaghetti - but not bolognese - just 'sauce'. I used a home made smooth tomato type sauce - no meat or cheese (he hates cheese!). and he's turned his nose up at it.
Now ds says he hates it too - although he eats it happily any other time. They are 5yo.
Do I offer them something else - I've said there isn't anything else - do I reverse?

I give them pizza or sausage and chips, followed by ice cream, sprinkles & sauce.
I am v.popular.

My standard playdate food is chicken wraps for them to make themselves - wrap on plate - bowl of chopped tomatoes, bowl of cucumber matchsticks, bowl of chopped up breaded chicken breast and a bottle of ketchup and mayo - then I leave them to it !! Sometimes give them a bowl of red pepper too if I have it - and have been known to add celery !

They seem to like the interactive element of the DIY wrap ! Haevn't had a total food disater since introducing this regime !

Oh come on Morningpaper - ease up on TraceyK and calling him 'Little shit' how many times have we all thought that of our DC playdates.

I have - then they were not invited back

I once had someone round who complained that her icecream was too cold - after a moment of I offered to heat it up in the oven for her as a joke (cos obviously cold is the whole point of icecream surely?) and seh meekly handed over the bowl and said yes please. Cue gobsmacked SV and DD1.

Oh my DH always microwaves hsi ice cream otherwise it is too cold ! Ridiculous !

One of DS1's friends - NEVER eats anything that I cook so i have stopped stressing. It is a bit of a running joke now, luckily I am good friends with his mum

'he's a negative little shit - he 'hates' everything. Thats why I gave him a choice - of just what I had in the fridge tho. omlette, spaghetti, beefburgers, pakora or scotch pies. I usually give him cheese dreams - but thought I'd try something new this time.

Little shit. '

I actually find that really sad. Why would you want to call a child a 'little shit' just because they don't like your choice of meal? My 5 yr old DS is quite fussy, but he certainly isn't a little shit! I would be very upset if any of his friends mums thought that about him just because of his eating habits.

FWIW if DS goes to someones house for tea, I tell them he is fussy, I give them a general idea of what he will and won't eat (I think it makes life easier for the mum) and I say not to worry if he doesn't eat it.

Don't have him back for tea if he is that irritating!

And what on earth are cheese dreams?

it's fine to say "he didn't want any tea"
I would offer toast or a sandwich instead - don't make a huge deal of it

what franny said

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yes what are cheese dreams [runs off to google]

If they don't like my meal the first time, I do homemade soup the next time.

That'll learn 'em!

Exactly Cod, it's a playdate (gawd I hate that word ) It's supposed to be fun! DS wouldn't make a fuss if he didn't like something, he'd just say no thankyou. I do 'children food' when children come to play, it's not like they have friends back for tea often.

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My DS eats hardly anything, lives on fresh air.

Threads like this put me off sending him on playdates - the thought of somebody bitching about him behind his back because he doesn't eat.

How vile to call a 5 yr old a "little shit" - that's appalling. How would you like it if that was your child?

mine are usually offered some combination of sausage/chicken goujons/beefburgers/pizza

and chip/mash/garlic bread

It's never a problem

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it's very easy to have the wrong sort of sausages - there's a huge variety of flavours and textures out there

Oh come on ladies - get off your high horses - how many times have you seen another child at toddler group, playgroup, school etc and at its behaviour and THOUGHT terrible things about it.

I would never call a child a terrible name to kids face but have thought it many a time and MN is like letting your thoughts free

Ah yes. DS has one friend who doesn't like my (posh ) sausages. I give him spaghetti instead. Honestly, I can't get heated about small children being fussy in my house. I prefer that they eat something they like, even if it's just a jam sandwich.