grrr.... playdate has just declared - he hates my dinner offering and will not eat it.

[TracyK]

I gave him a list to choose from and he took spaghetti - but not bolognese - just 'sauce'. I used a home made smooth tomato type sauce - no meat or cheese (he hates cheese!). and he's turned his nose up at it.
Now ds says he hates it too - although he eats it happily any other time. They are 5yo.
Do I offer them something else - I've said there isn't anything else - do I reverse?

Offer toast and forget about it. Other people's children's food 'issues' are not your problem. Presumably he can have some food when he gets home if he is hungry.

I would be far more concerned by your attitude. Feed him, don't feed him - just don't call a 5 year old a shit.

"how many times have you seen another child at toddler group, playgroup, school etc and at its behaviour and THOUGHT terrible things about it."

Ummm - never - they are children.

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they are children and sometimes their behaviour is awful and therefore you can think terrible things about it.

Playdates are good for some people and bad for others - let the OP express her feelings here rather than at the child !

cod, is this you?

LOL at cod's school window .

Blimey Cod and you a Magistrate - tut tut

bread and butter, toast or piece of fruit if they won't eat what's on offer. I used to stress about play-dates - now I usually do pasta for smaller ones or maybe something like tortillas/wraps and salad for teens. If they don't like it, they'll eat at home.

I'd offer bread abd butter, yoghurt, fruit, biscuit.

Small children often don't like food that tastes differnet to what they get at home. That's why most people make fish fingers and boiled potatoes etc for small visitors.

[Actually I think you can only use 'MP' to refer to Morning Paper if we are on the same thread. I think she has seniority to me - unless you were actually referring to her post - I'll get my coat.]

what on earth is the problem here?

the kid didn't like the food

I'd offer maybe toast or fruit or something. They are, after all, a guest.

but fgs, it is absolutely not worth stressing over. The absolute worst case scenario here is that this kid goes home a bit hungry. Yes, do mention it to his mother, if it was my child I'd want to know

But kids behave differently, often intolerantly, when they are in a pack, and some kids find "strange" food very hard, or strange eating surroundings very hard. And you DON'T really know how your own child behaves at friends' houses (oh of course they will SAY he is lovely etc etc - but really, you don't know)

biscuit?

sorry that's like a reward in our house

fruit, yoghurt @ a push

I once fed a visiting child a pot of Nutella for lunch, in desperation.

She was very happy

and agree with mp here, btw

fgs at language

Anna

it might be seen as a reward in some strange houses () but then I don't want to punish a child for not eating something

And I can honestly say that I have NEVER thought a young child was a "little shit".

Never

They are just little kids doing little kid things, fgs

[Wasn't flouncing - just feel I a bit of an imposter as MP - nothing to do with the thread , and I stand by my opinion]

Well I teach 5 and 6 year olds and am afraid I'm with Cod on this one - mostly, I think all the kids I come into contact are great but every now and then, you get one child who does something so horrid to another, or is such a pain in the arse for weeks/months on end that sometimes you do end up thinking 'you little .....'

Not for disliking super though

supper even [sigh, its been a long day emoticon]

My DS, who has AS, is a fussy eater, if he doesn't like the taste/texture/smell nothing will induce him to eat it.
Hope other mums don't think he is a 'little shit'.