Eatbetterers part 3 -gather around healthy people !

[DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen]

Third thread of healthy eating, no calorie counting just good, healthy food for us and our families.

Blimey Holmes! What a shock! How is he? I've been up all night bad news on secondary school for dd. so if nothing else you have given me perspective

Sorry Holmes- realise that was a stupid question. I kind of meant how's he feeling and hoping it'll be as straight forward as possible.

Oh no Holmes - poor you (and poor DS)! That's the sort of thing I am always worrying about with my DDs as they shin up trees and generally behave like monkeys... Typical that it was while your DH was away too.

Still in bathroom refit hell here - the shower that was put in a week or so ago and just really doesn't work, is coming out this morning.... One the worst day in the middle of last week, my stress responses led to a massive vat of vegetable soup and a big batch of banana & maple syrup muffins though, so it's not all bad! It's really impacting my excercise levels though as I can't get out first thing as I'm waiting for them to arrive, and somehow it never seems to happen later on.

We got home from hospital last night. Ds is ok - not in much pain now, and happily sitting on the sofa with umpteen magazines, books etc that people have sent him! The hard thing is moving him around, but wheelchair is arriving the day after tomorrow.

That's good that he is home. Fingers crossed he mends quickly. Were they clean breaks?

Yes, clean breaks - the tibia and fibula snapped right in the middle, but there was a bit of displacement so he had to go to theatre to have them manipulated back into line (under anaesthetic obvs). At least he didn't have to have rods put in though - otherwise we'd probably still be in hospital.

Well, if there is such a thing as a good break, then a clean break is it. Hopefully it won't be too long until he's up and about again.

And how are you Holmes?

Dunno actually, Still. I feel a bit as though I skipped the part where I let myself freak out about the accident, because at the time I just had to get on with it. I suppose it's always a bit like that in those kind of situations though. I keep re - living the bit where I heard the crash and him screaming. And I keep thinking God it could have hit his head.

I suppose it would be odd if you did not feel like that after an accident - its shock or something. I hope those feelings fade. Although dd has broken lots of bones - there was no screaming and so I don't have enough experience to be of any comfort. Is your DH any good at listening - does it help to talk about what happened? The only experience of that kind of 'flashback' was when I was attacked - after a few weeks I stopped looking over my shoulder so much and the whole thing stopped creeping up on me. It eased off. The thing about being a parent is that family life while challenging, keeps you moving forward. In other words when something major happens you still have to wash pants the next day and (eventually) scrub the loo. its a strange therapy really.

Yes, you're right! I'm feeling a bit better today actually - some therapeutic Lego - building with ds, an early dog walk on the shore before dh went to work, and the prospect of my parents -in - law coming this afternoon for 4 days, which will give me a bit of a break. I was going a bit stir - crazy yesterday!

Oh Holmes how awful. So sorry to hear that.

Hi, I am posting here for the first time. I would love to eat healthily, consistently but have trouble saying no. I have an awful habit of buying cake/buns just to eat the icing. Today is a new day.

So far I have had:
Breakfast: home made honey, oat and peanut butter bar, and honey dew and yoghurt
Lunch: home made butter chicken
Tea: cauliflower sushi with salad on the side
Snacks: rhubarb and strawberry smoothie, roast rhubarb with yoghurt and pink finger bun

Hi, I am posting here for the first time. I would love to eat healthily, consistently but have trouble saying no. I have an awful habit of buying cake/buns just to eat the icing. Today is a new day.

So far I have had:
Breakfast: home made honey, oat and peanut butter bar, and honey dew and yoghurt
Lunch: home made butter chicken
Tea: cauliflower sushi with salad on the side
Snacks: rhubarb and strawberry smoothie, roast rhubarb with yoghurt and pink finger bun

Goldopals - we have been most rude!! Welcome. we have been a bit quiet for a while but hang around because when we are on it- we are ace actually. Cauliflower sushi - tell me about that, please.

There was a prog on radio 4 tonight about fat (i think, only caught some of it) and health ie is fat ok now and what about heart attacks etc. The bit i heard was annoying as it did not come to any conclusion or advice. This is why I like the Marc David approach - I do better by listening to my body.

Welcome Gold. Goodness it's quiet on here. I had run out of home made soup and hoped to be starting on lovely salads and nibbly bits for lunch but now the weather's back to being horrendous!

Ive been eating quite well generally but must admit I'm very much looking forward to my Easter egg on Sunday!

How is everyone? How's the wee lad Holmes?

Hi all. Well, my dd (10) has shown me this diet from you tube that she wants to do. I think it is called 3 day military diet. She hates her sticking out tummy - it does stick out but she is fit and toned absolutely everywhere else. I am at a loss as to what to do with her. My ex-ED mum is good at this stuff but my dad's in hospital with an operation (will be fine) and I dont want to blather on about me to her.

She eats well as it happens. I did notice a few weeks ago that she was not eating dinner but I am hoping I managed to nip it in the bud.. I have explained that those diets are not good for all sorts of reasons and reminded her of those poor girls who end up infertile because of restricting calories in early teens. It looks like a lowish cal high protein diet. She is very active and so I am thinking of going with it a bit but telling her she will need more calories than an overweight grown up? God even that sounds bad now I have written it down. You are supposed to do it for only 3 days so she will learn that its unlikely to have a lasting effect - but what if she takes that as a sign that she should do it all the time. I want to tell her not to diet at all, but I am so worried that if I dont engage with some sort of plan then she will do it behind my back. (hysterics over!!)

Ah Still that's really tough. No advice sorry as i don't have kids but it's a minefield isn't it?

Shot I am jealous of your easter egg!! I'm going to try to put it off a bit with dd if possible. It is a minefield. Instead I'm going to reiterate all the good stuff she's managed to get a decent handle on already like how some food and using her body makes her feel good. and hope its a flash in the pan.

Hi everyone, sorry for my absence (again ) and Holmes so sorry for your DS, how are you both now?

I was about to direct someone here from another thread so came to find you. Looks like Easter is working it's usual magic on 'eating better' .

still your DD must be a worry, it's pretty impossible to fight teens when it comes to food, but it may be worth showing her the TED talk why dieting doesn't work and also introducing her to a young woman Maddy Moon who, after being a bikini category (bodybuilding) competitor now is very anti-diet and coaches people the same way I do. Hers is a cautionary story wrt to diets .

She also did a before/after body shot that went vital because it illustrates how what you see online/in the media is rarely the truth, her very different photos, even without Photoshop, were taken 10 minutes apart...will try and find it and link. Maybe the two of you could just agree on how to tweak meals, plan a menu together for the week, with more protein less sugar and processed carbs with emphasis on how this is much more enjoyable and sustainable?

I take it back, it wasn't Maddy who did the before/after pics, it was a blogger called Mel V, here is article about it. Most women, even very fit ones, have tummies

Hi sleep. Thanks I think like most parenting I need to play the long game here and kind of accept I will continue to worry about it.

In an unexpected twist dd has done her first cheerleading comp (may out me). You would expect it to be all crop tops and fake tan. It is a bit but there are some big strong and athletic girls there too and she is inspired by this. so that is good. Deep down she does have some faith in herself but I do think you tube etc is having quite an effect on people, especially teens.

I think the before and after blog may be useful had forgotten about that!
How are things with you?

Hello there, everyone! I thought the thread had trailed off and died - glad to see you all here again! Thanks for asking after ds. The collarbone is Al better and his cast is coming off a week on Wednesday. It's been pretty rubbish, but the end is in sight. He's ditched the wheelchair and the walking frame and is now hobbling around unaided!

I'm having a mixed time healthiness and food-wise. On the one hand I've been eating good, nutritious stuff at meal times and am (belatedly, due to having to be on call for ds) trying to build up my running in the hope I can still make it to my half marathon in June.

On the downside I'm still having real trouble resisting sugary snacks - the siren call of the chocolate is too hard to resist . And it has such a drug - like effect on me - one mouthful and I want to eat the whole lot!

Stillearnin - it's a minefield, this parenting lark, isn't it! Hope the cheerleading has a positive effect. My dd (10) is skinny atm, but I wonder if she'll stay that way (it's not typical for the female side of my family!). I'm just trying to encourage plenty of exercise etc to set up good habits, but she is a real carb queen with a sweet tooth!

Holmes - me too

Have slipped massively, main meals are good but my goodness anything sugary is not safe around me

So today was good-

Porridge

Avocado on pumpkin cracker with tomato and a crumble of feta.

Melon

Mustard chicken and leeks with brown rice

Greek yoghurt,almonds and chopped Apple

My skin is shit and energy is really low and this is solely because of sugar intake, I feel so much better without it, if I can get to day 3 without sugar then it's easier from experience.

How is everyone? I'm glad this is still going

A friend was saying she's joining WW and I was tempted to go with her but I think my home is here