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I couldn't agree more, I know you feel vulnerable atm shaky but she can't get away with this, awful women.

Hope your feeling better today xx

Can't believe I'm finally here, almost at the end of this pregnancy, 8th dec last year we lost a baby at 13wks and I felt so low, so it makes this all extra special. This one seems determined to give me nothing to worry about, big two were petite babys and measured small, this ones 2wks ahead roughly!

Im so excited for you State

I finally got my act together and have washed up, brushed and mopped the floors, cleaned the kitchen, put some washing in, had a shower and did my hair. THEN I made a fimo Barney for ds birthday cake for his party on Sunday, he is cooking in the oven as we speak. His head is a bit wonky and flat at the back but I'm sure ds won't mind. His pic is on fb.

I feel much better for getting moving and actually achieving something

Stop the presses. LittleTee is not in Hey Ewe. He is in the preschool play, cleverly entitled A Christmas Story.

Who he is playing I do not know. Apparently more details are to follow.

I saw those Shaky! Very cute little Barney.

Whoot State!

I love your barney shaky my dd loves him and keeps asking for a singing one, but after dp was tricked into seeing the purple dinosaur live it may tip him over the edge.

OOooh State exciting! Not long to wait until we find out that I am right

Shaky your barney is ace! Is it fimo? I need to find a mario or something for ds's cake! Glad your feeling better! x

I'm trying to suss out how too make a new type of bracelet. I think i may have cracked it but still

Tee A christmas story? Original! I bet he's a mouse! Theres always a mouse!

Oh and my heating is back! Yay!

Yay everybody!

Shaky, what Brian said. Definitely. And the Barney's great.

Has anyone reported the song post to HQ yet?

state hugs - what a difference a year makes eh?

which brings me back round to Shaky I never thougth I would be feeling normal again (nor feeling a jiggly baby...but I digress) after what i have been through this past 2 years, but you will get there I promise.

I know you don't like confrontation but in this case, you will keep getting set backs if you allow her to be such a fuck-wit to you.

I also know that you must be trying to back away from what you have to do to fix this (I remember the feeling well ). Ultimately, you can't right now as you aren't up to it. So the most simple thing to do is draft a letter to her manager, explaining that she is causing you a lot of anxiety/stress and you need her to back off. Then sit back safe in the knowledge that the brown stuff will hit the fan big time and she will be in trouble.

If you want help - I am more than happy to write it for you (as long as I know the key things that need to go in it) and then you can copy and paste. PM me, I am not just trying to be nice, I can not stress enough that I know how you feel - and as I say, I never had the added pressure of a fuck-wit boss!

Once that is done, you can sit back and try and enjoy the weekend and feel good that you have faced the issue.

Next week you can start to think about what needs to be said to the union rep, and again - I am more than happy to help. My mum is a District Nurse and was a rep for one of the unions for years, she only gave it up recently. I can put the feelers out if you like as to what help you can get.

x

LittleTee finally admitted that using the toilet scares him. Perhaps a break through?

He uses a potty at home but I wonder if pooing in even that scares him.

Cheers for Brian and for LittleTee.

Tee - I have very faint memories of using the toilet when I was a toddler and ending up in it. I think I must have tried to do it without either the seat or the safety seat.

Could it be something like that, he's worried about falling in?

Tee I told you about my DD being 4.5 before she would poo anywhere other than her nappy. I believe it was a fear born of being told off by her CM for doing a poo in her nappy when I was just introducing the potty 2 years earlier. So I really do sympathise with you.

This is what I did (oh god the memories!)

DD helped me do a poo chart, this entertained her endlessly as we had crayoned poo's on the chart and it was stuck next to the toilet. I didnt push the chart, I just said that when she did a poo she could have a sticker and if she got 2 stickers she could have a treat.

Then, she would need a poo so I would encourage her to sit on the toilet. I told her that I would read her a story, so I would sit on the floor and read a story. This was beyond tedious and laborious but it got her relaxed and sat on the loo!

Then I had the ingenious idea of a puppet show with her favourite soft toys.

you now think I am insane...

I would hide one side of the door and the toys would tell her a story. Sometimes this went on for 15+ minutes!

Basically it changed the toilet environment from being scary to being a place she could relax.

It took a while, probably 2 months from start to finish (but she had major issues to start with and I was not going to pressure her) and my god I hated those bloody story/puppet sessions, but ultimately it worked.

Can you think of ways to make it fun so he can relax? Would he respond to drawing a big poo on an A3 sheet of neon pink paper? Does he like pot-cat ornaments from the pound shop? (DD's first reward, her request)

I agree with what was said the other day on your thread - back off at the moment for both your sakes, remove the issue altogether and then start afresh.

if after reading my confession anybody wants to take the piss, please do, but be gentle with me

Brian, I think that's lovely!

I remember reading somewhere about an idiotic DH who, just after his toddler DD had become confident using the toilet by herself, bought a poster of a monster jumping out of the toilet bowl and stuck it up on the back of the door.

You can imagine the consequences......

BonkeyBoy also had a stage where he was scared of the toilet!

We went down the star chart route and story-telling/games/general stupidness in the bathroom much like Brian, I hate to admit . All of the above combined worked in about 6 weeks!

I think his came from seeing a spider in the bathroom and the dh stupid arse that he is put it in the loo and flushed it! Of course, to a 3yo this says a bloody great spider is going to creep up the toilet into your bum .
For a while we had to go to the bathroom with him every bloody time, but then one day it all sorted itself!

No problems now!

Empress I am shit scared of ds doing that! Put him off for life!

what a hideous arse hole!!! Poor little girl

I have to say I was at the end of my tether with DD and school was looming so drastic times called for mummy to turn into a CBeebies presenter

That's the thing. I've done all that. Stories, reading on the loo, well, not a puppet show . Stickers, rewards, the whole 9 yards. He will look you in the eye and say 'I don't need a poo' even while he's pooing in his pants.

I know he'll get there. Hopefully before uni.

My ds had poo issues too, he was dry in 24hrs but would wait until bedtime for a pull-up to poo, he didn't want it near him in a potty but the toilet seemed huge he said, a buzz lightyear training seat and hugging him whilst he sat there helped, slowly.

Fecking arsewit thinks I'm selfish and unreasonable for saying I do NOT want anyone in my house when I get home from hospital with the baby, I'm very anxious about settling the children in with a new sibling and I want to start as we mean to go on, ds and dd are in for a huge change and I don't want them to struggle. The ils appeared with overnight cases when I arrived home with pfb, after 2 weeks in hospital and him in nicu I was very fragile, and ended up at my mums sobbing, with dd we got a weeks peace before they again decided to come and stay, I do NOT want that this time.

Leave him there until he understands! I would be the same!

I'm quite lucky in that my family and dh's are'nt really close , they popped round for a few visits and that was it! I loved it! I needed it!

Tell your in laws to fuck off!

Later on once the time has passed with your new baby and quiet time at home with your dcs..... apologise and blame the hormones

I had DD on 23rd Dec. I lived with my parents at the time, went home on xmas day.

On Boxing Day my nan, grandad, aunt and cousin came to visit/stay. Any other time I would have loved it as I adore them all, but 3 days post birth I was a mess and ended up sobbing inconsolably in my room with my mum trying and failing to soothe me!

Off for my bath, may be back later (unless I start knitting)

Oh and we were mid-renovation, had no kitchen/hot water/washing machine and a bare and dusty floor.

(builders had let us down massively, should have been finished mid November!)

::kicks State's DP::

I would have killed my inlaws if they'd done that. My mom was here pretty quick after LittleTee's birth, but we had planned that and agreed as she's actually helpful. He was actually still in SCBU when she got here. But with my mom, I didn't lift a finger for the whole two weeks, other than to pick up LittleTee!

Oh Brian, thank you.
That is so kind of you

Bitch boss didn't phone today (phew) although I did tell her that I would let her know how I got on at occ health.
I genuinely think that she has no comprehension of how she has manipulated me and the consequences of her actions. I really think she would me mortified if she knew how I felt. I may tell her when I have calmed down, in a calm, professional way.

dp in the eye on way past the twat bench>

Yes Bonkey the Barney is made from fimo. I made some Xmas tree decks from it last year, they were quite cute. I might make some more.

State at least you will be in hospital for a few days so you can get the visitors over and done with before you come home I think it's important that you have some space when you come home to get settled.

at the abuse StateDH is getting ....

Shaky You nosey mare!

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