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I am fed up of being made to feel like a bad mother...

383 replies

fedupofgoody2shoes · 24/10/2005 16:00

on MN. Most of the time I oove it but recently there have been far too many gasps and rolling eyes (well if we could see each others eyes that is).

Yes - I breastfed and will do again
I use disposable nappies
I used a mixture of homemade food and jars when weaning
I have a freezer with readymeals in it as well as home made meals
My kids have crisps and biscuits

I will never use washable nappies (I have a life)
I will never breastfeed and my bottle fed kids are healthier than some kids I know who were breastfed until they were 2.5. My kids have no allergies at all and that includes ezcema, asthma etc.

Please - give us mums who choose alternative ways a break and stop all this goody 2 shoes attitude with people. there is no need to look down your noses. Not everyone has time to spend washing nappies and cooking all day. Some of us have full time jobs, school runs, house to keep, dancing and swimming lessons, and some people don't take to breastfeeding. If powder milk was so bad they wouldn't sell it!

Please stop making people feel so judged (not all of MN is like this but there are a select few!)

OP posts:
puff · 24/10/2005 20:48

rofl franny re beating the nappies with stones!!

doormat · 24/10/2005 20:48

rofl franny

moondog · 24/10/2005 20:48

Well I laughed mp!!

Enid · 24/10/2005 20:48

hmmmm

motherpeculiar · 24/10/2005 20:49

OMG - you HANDWASH them? I am chastened. I feel inadequate. I thank all that is mighty for my washing machine.

puff · 24/10/2005 20:49

ladies, my pelvic floor is not up to this !

milward · 24/10/2005 20:49

yes - but who has had a lotus birth!!!??? all of us who haven't go to the bad mummies corner!

read about this on mnet! - ahhhhhhh

spidermama · 24/10/2005 20:49

Come on ladies. Life's too short for guilt.

ducks

SenoraPostrophe · 24/10/2005 20:52
RottenRhubarbWitch · 24/10/2005 20:53

Can I join the bad mother club?

There was a thread on, probably still going, about leaving your kids alone in a locked car, etc. Well I have done this, still do and will do it again! So report me!

I have 'lost' dd in the supermarket when she was a baby.

I have parked the kids (when they were babies) in a dark corner of the local beer garden asleep in their prams whilst me and dh got a few pints in - but we could see them at all times!

I have used the controlled crying technique.

I have used Gina Ford

I've sworn in front of them.

I smacked dd once.

There are loads more! But fedupofgoody2shoes, just remember that no-one on Mumsnet is perfect, everyone has done something wrong at some time or another, they just don't admit to it! The adament breast-feeders would never admit to having sneaked in a bit of formula in an emergency, the Delia Smiths would never tell that they once fed their kids frozen pizza because they were fed up. At the end of the day, if we were such bad mothers, we wouldn't be wasting our time discussing our little ones on a website called Mumsnet, would we?

SenoraPostrophe · 24/10/2005 20:54

actually what I meant to post was "bollocks I missed a fight"

Enid · 24/10/2005 20:54

frozen pizza!

SenoraPostrophe · 24/10/2005 20:55

most of us have done at least some of those things, Rhubarb. But there's no need to sanctimoniously go on about how sanctimonious everyone else is. because they aren't. well, maybe one is.

doormat · 24/10/2005 20:56

there nice enid
ham and pineapple especially and pepperoni

RottenRhubarbWitch · 24/10/2005 20:57

Actually I was just lying to maker her feel better. I'm your perfect mother who still breastfeeds her children, makes soup and casseroles from home grown vegetables, and shared my placenta with everyone lightly fried with a little garlic - it's just soooo the right thing to do!

Enid · 24/10/2005 21:00

I am fecking sanctimonious and I'll deck anyone who says otherwise

RottenRhubarbWitch · 24/10/2005 21:01

I'm more so Enid - you feed your kids frozen pizza, you just said so! Heathen!

spidermama · 24/10/2005 21:03

Yeah ... but does anyone's dh make beds with reclaimed wood? Eh?
Jesus was a carpenter. Oh yes.

motherpeculiar · 24/10/2005 21:04

now now, let's all just calm down. Meditate, you know you want to. Think of empty space and a pretty colour.

No more Ms. Sanctimonious on MN .

and when we are done we'll all meet round at WickedRhubarbs for a tasty piece of placenta pizza (please excuse the alliteration). All together now, Yum.

motherpeculiar · 24/10/2005 21:05

RottenRhubarbWitchs I meant. For the pizza.

motherpeculiar · 24/10/2005 21:05

witch's, even

puff · 24/10/2005 21:05

spidermama - that is bloody funny pmsl and sorry for swearing !!!!!!!!

RottenRhubarbWitch · 24/10/2005 21:11

I'm a born-again virgin!

Nightynight · 24/10/2005 21:45

Enid! surely you freeze your own homemade pizzas?

I can make pizzas from scratch to table in 1 hour [proud emoticon] And my children sometimes eat them!

Nightynight · 24/10/2005 21:46

oh god it is getting too late....I just understood that spidermama is married to jesus?