I thought I was tougher than this, but I am so tearful

[YouOldSlag]

Right away I know I am pathetic. I love Mumsnet and its a big part of my life. many posters have given me a spring in my step just by agreeing with me or quoting me, or just by being wise or kind. Or making me laugh until tears flow. Or outlining an opinion I hadn't considered before.

However, and I know this is stupid, but I am being fucking macerated over the manner of how I got engaged on the "People who plan to "Get engaged" thread.

I cannot believe how nasty it has got. I have got really good at hiding threads that upset me in the past, but this one has actually made me go shaky.

I just feel stupid and thought I was better at holding my own, but I feel outnumbered over something so silly. DH and I went to Paris to "get engaged" and that very act has been labelled pathetic and meaningless. It was such a lovely memory for us and it's had me in tears that it has been called "meaningless" and "pathetic".

I'll have to leave as it's actually made me jumpy and lose confidence about posting. Not flouncing, just feel so shaken and daft to even feel that way.

[usualsuspect]

Hide flouncers corner then,you won't get annoyed by it if you can't see it.

[scottishmummy]

But flouncer corner is wanky,it's a big ego massage and pleas of don go hun
That's why folks do it of course,the reassurance the awwww hun
It clearly fulfilf a need

[Lizzylou]

Op, please don't be upset or worried about what others do. Blimey. I don't agree with loads on Mumsnet, prob 80% of the comments in all honesty.

Apparently DH was going to propose to me when we were at the Taj Mahal. Unfortunately he has a weak constitution and so was doubled over with Delhi Belly and the hordes of pickpockets and drug dealers somewhat put him off in his delicate state (think he thought it would be like that Diana photo, all uncrowded and dreamy, erm. NO). I'd had no idea of his plan tbh. Was just enjoying the holiday, with my stomach of iron.

So, over a cup of tea when we were back home just before I dashed to work it was

[usualsuspect]

Don't be bitter SM,just because cannot dumped you for me.

[usualsuspect]

Fanjo*

[scottishmummy]

Right so we all sorted then?the perennial truth is mn is meant to be fun
Its birds wi laptops,iPads,tablets battering out opinions.thats all
If it hurts,distresses,or isn't safe it's time to log off.that's your line in sand

[fanjoforthemammaries7850]

Welcome to dumpsville sm..population you

[Lizzylou]

You just have to realise that MN is full of internet warriors.
If you met most of them at a coffee morning/soft play/dinner party you'd be charmed.
On MN some feel that they can unleash their inner beast and be quite vile.

[scottishmummy]

Sounds mighty fine after my stay in badmuthaville, I will sashay over pronto

[Pan]

Nooo Don't get rid of Flouncers Corner! It serves a purpose. Not sure exactly what that is, as yet, but at least we get to mock posters for their egotisms, surely?

[steppemum]

wish my dh had taken me to Paris to ask me - I wouldn't have cared if I knew in advance or not

[scottishmummy]

But mn is v cunty,no point pretending it's all engagement rings and love ya hun
And face it thats why we are all here,it's fast funny,and bit of a car crash at times
If it was all mwaw mwaw twinkley signatures and youse so right it'd be awful

[Pan]

Well, that could be an uphill struggle for some, BTP.....

[Pan]

yeeess, I'm getting the beetle, and the Dante references, but not the 'thankless' aspect. But yes for MN at least, the are a tiny number of 'vipers' who are best avoided, but make a lot of noise. I think it was WelshBoris, a long time ago, who couched the 'nest of vipers' tag, and she had a point.

[Pan]

I was proposed to once. By a very very drunk ex in a pub in Liverpool.

I said 'You've got to be kidding'. She wasn't. . As it happens she inherited a fortune ( 2 million squid) from her father's farm business a few years later. Damn.

[BOF]

You fool, Pan

[AnnieLobeseder]

OP, that's just Mumsnet. FWIW I agree with the sentiment of that thread, but that's no reason to point and laugh at other people. A little tact and discretion goes a long way. Shake it off, ignore them, it's just the internet, which is full of fools. Life would be boring if we were all the same.

[Pan]

Well, yes and no BOF. I would have felt like a v well paid prostitute.

Those bastard principles just keep getting in the effing way.

[Branleuse]

they would all LAP it up if their dhs had proposed to them like that. Every bloody one of them.
It sounds lovely and romantic

[Pan]

oh sure, Bran - if any women went to the bother of whisking me off to Paris to propose, the answer would be 'yes'. I'm that easy.