Right away I know I am pathetic. I love Mumsnet and its a big part of my life. many posters have given me a spring in my step just by agreeing with me or quoting me, or just by being wise or kind. Or making me laugh until tears flow. Or outlining an opinion I hadn't considered before.
However, and I know this is stupid, but I am being fucking macerated over the manner of how I got engaged on the "People who plan to "Get engaged" thread.
I cannot believe how nasty it has got. I have got really good at hiding threads that upset me in the past, but this one has actually made me go shaky.
I just feel stupid and thought I was better at holding my own, but I feel outnumbered over something so silly. DH and I went to Paris to "get engaged" and that very act has been labelled pathetic and meaningless. It was such a lovely memory for us and it's had me in tears that it has been called "meaningless" and "pathetic".
I'll have to leave as it's actually made me jumpy and lose confidence about posting. Not flouncing, just feel so shaken and daft to even feel that way.
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YouOldSlag · 20/02/2013 19:35
That thread is horrible and sneery. OP FWIW your DH sounds really considerate, and your engagement sounds perfect.
I got engaged in the way those sneery posters think is ok. He proposed, in a grotty little club where we were having a late drink. We went and chose a ring together, and it had to be resized, so we picked it up a few days later. He took me for a coffee and put it on my finger. The whole thing was a bit meh. I was glad to be engaged of course but it was a bit of an anticlimax.
I'd rather have planned it with him and gone to Paris. 
Growlithe that sounds like my engagement actually.
He's not from Crewe is he? 
I got engaged in a blaze of anti-depressants, whilst recovering from a breakdown, having known him for 2 weeks. Was surprised when the relationship didn't last more than 6 weeks....after I made an utter tit of myself in front of all my friends and family who stood back with permanent 
faces, as their normally ordinary, sensible friend/relative acted like an alien!
I can laugh about it now......
I think they'd chew me up and spit me out over on that thread, Dh proposed on the orient express, and I loved it, and him for doing that, he knew I'd always wanted to go on it, like murder on the orient 
Stuff em, they're just jealous.
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I mentioned oop thread that we got engaged in Paris. It was 24 years ago and my significant memory is more to do with humour than romance.
I didn't know anything about the trip that DH had booked or his plans to propose
He was going to propose over a champagne meal
He had booked a table at the LIDO!! He swore he had never heard of the Bluebell Girls. We had a front row table and rather too much of a view of the titties & bumcracks.
He was
He "forgot" to propose.
Next day - he was going to propose at the top of the Eiffel Tower.
He thought it was Too Busy.
Long story short. We were in Paris for 3 days and he finally proposed in the park at the foot of the Eiffel Tower ONE HOUR before we were getting on the plane back.
We celebrated with a can of lager and a sandwich.
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Nah Brian he's from the Wirral. The ironic thing is we'd been to Paris that year, and had another fabulous holiday planned for later in the year, and he still picked that grotty little club.
He went to the bar to ask if they had some champagne. The barman said 'You are having a laugh aren't you?' and he came back with a couple of Baileys.
I'd known him longer than two weeks though, and we are still married. Never have been back to that grotty club.
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