I thought I was tougher than this, but I am so tearful

[YouOldSlag]

Right away I know I am pathetic. I love Mumsnet and its a big part of my life. many posters have given me a spring in my step just by agreeing with me or quoting me, or just by being wise or kind. Or making me laugh until tears flow. Or outlining an opinion I hadn't considered before.

However, and I know this is stupid, but I am being fucking macerated over the manner of how I got engaged on the "People who plan to "Get engaged" thread.

I cannot believe how nasty it has got. I have got really good at hiding threads that upset me in the past, but this one has actually made me go shaky.

I just feel stupid and thought I was better at holding my own, but I feel outnumbered over something so silly. DH and I went to Paris to "get engaged" and that very act has been labelled pathetic and meaningless. It was such a lovely memory for us and it's had me in tears that it has been called "meaningless" and "pathetic".

I'll have to leave as it's actually made me jumpy and lose confidence about posting. Not flouncing, just feel so shaken and daft to even feel that way.

[TheFallenNinja]

Never give up
Never surrender

[lljkk]

I haven't even read the Getting Engaged thread. Still not even tempted.

Yes it is amazing how a barney can blow up over nothing online. It's amazing we aren't all at each others constantly IRL.

[Pan]

I think they do ask for pressies,sm, or at least it's implied. My reaction is 'oh, good for you. Hope you'll be happy.' But me buying them a kitchen utensil won't contribute to their happiness, so I usually don't.

[MrsDoomsPatterson]

Blimey, no wonder you're feeling a bit got at youold.

There are a few angry pieces over on the other fred and you seem to have copped it rather.

[saycheeeeeese]

Just read ut, some very sad, bitter abd probably secretly jealous people on an extremely stupid thread.

YouOldSlag don't leave, I think how you got engaged sounds lovely and is actually very normal around my neck if the woods (I got engaged in front of a waterfall and I knew he was going to do it because we picked the ring together).

Just pick yourself up and move on.

[scottishmummy]

Indeed I'm disinclined to fork out for engagement pressie and wedding pressie
Unrelated thread was told no man would marry after I'd given away the milk
Apparently if you give away your dairy based assets no man will buy the cow

[usualsuspect]

We got engaged 30 odd years ago,never did get round to getting married though.

[fanjoforthemammaries7850]

Thanks BeerTricks

[scottishmummy]

They're not jealous in least,nor are they in denial,or projecting.they think it's silly
But if it makes mn more bearable to use any of the jealous/denial/projecting off you go
On other hand,just think naw you're talkin out arse and don't get so het up

[Foggles]

Your bottom drawer must be overflowing usual

[Yama]

Dd spoiled the surprise by running into the kitchen wailing 'Daddy won't let me give you the ring!'

She was only 3. I was chopping onions. Lovely memory.

Don't let a bunch of dicks ruin yours.

[Pan]

i've heard it said, Foggles..

[claudedebussy]

i do think some people might be jealous of youoldslag for having such a lovely, thoughtful, romantic dp.

and also, i've noticed that when someone's bares a bit on mn, leaves themselves open to ridicule, then there's often someone to stick the knife in. not pretty.

it's easy to make fun of anything really. but to what end? and what purpose?

what's the bloody point? isn't life hard enough? pah

[scottishmummy]

Cracking double entendre

[Wewereherefirst]

I hope you've been able to tell them to Fuck off YOS. The nest of vipers can be awful, but the good still outweigh the bad. Time out and IRL can help make it better.

My DH proposed in a motel room fwiw. He'd found out I was pregnant a week or two earlier. DH is so romantic Your engagement sounds lovely!

[claudedebussy]

bleurgh

[pashapasta]

Wow, I've read that thread and the abuse you got was outrageous. People with axes to grind or bitter/jealous? I got engaged in Paris too!

[pashapasta]

Wow, I've read that thread and the abuse you got was outrageous. People with axes to grind or bitter/jealous? I got engaged in Paris too!

[claudedebussy]

ah but lockets, it wasn't just ANY food hall...

[scottishmummy]

Some folks clearly think engagement is joyful etc.to others it's boaky schmaltz
Haven't read all thread,but if it's your significant memory it can't be altered by another pov
I think to do mn you need to rub along,accept different pov and no mn grudges,I never recall who said what anyhow