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Some posters are more equal on here than others...

113 replies

poshsinglemum · 25/02/2011 20:06

And I'm not one of them.

Yesterday I posted a problem that was virtually identical to another posters problem. While she got support and bumlicky pukey love, I got vilified and told I was desperate etc.

I've got the hump.

So I'm offski (until I come back with my tail between my legs.)Or not.

OP posts:
Alibabaandthe40nappies · 26/02/2011 20:30

psm - if you don't want advice then don't post asking for it.

hymie - are you psm under a namechange?

PaperView · 26/02/2011 20:36

IF you are going to flounce every time you get the "wrong" advice then i suggest you leave. This is MN - yu get blunt,frank honest replies usually.

earwicga · 26/02/2011 21:46

lysithia - I wasn't on the original thread. But have been on the very similar ones before. Please get your criticisms correct.

lysithia · 26/02/2011 23:05

your posts here have been quite nasty earwicga, that's enough for me. So unless you want to genuinely help the OP why don't you go and take your nasty remarks elsewhere

And same goes for the others who dress up their snide comments as 'constructive criticism'. Heard that all before and had the well worn t-shirt. No she is an easy target for some of you, so beat it. Don't use someone vulnerable to practice your so called witty repertoire on.

Anyone annoyed or fed up with the OP, just do the courteous thing and don't respond to her posts.

For those who are genuinely concerned about the OP and her dd well I am sure you can be humane and sympathetic.

earwicga · 26/02/2011 23:12

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lysithia · 26/02/2011 23:38

well neither do you really because she is an anonymous poster Hmm

its not like she is your best friend to whom you can offer frank advice because you have a good relationship. Leave her alone and if she annoys you so much just drop it.

But she is easy prey for you isn't she?

BitOfFun · 26/02/2011 23:44

Well, we only know anybody here from their posts. And PSM does come across as rather sensitive.

earwicga · 26/02/2011 23:46

'lysithia Sat 26-Feb-11 20:13:45

PSM I don't know you or your history so I can't really offer advice ... '

You are talking out your arse. Are you new on MN or are you another namechanger?

lysithia · 26/02/2011 23:50

well maybe she is sensitive! So what? All the more reason to leave her be or be more gentle with her. I searched her name and she did mention she was bullied in the past and it has affected her. It isn't going to help her by being nasty to her.

I just can't believe how typical it is to use someone's sensitivity to prove you are not being that nasty after all. Come on just leave her alone guys and if you are pissed off she hasn't taken your positive advice well don't give it anymore. But don't resort to the vile things I read that were posted on her latest thread

belledechocchipcookie · 26/02/2011 23:53

Ok, I'll admit that some of what I read was harsh but there are numerous threads like that (not that I'm justifying people's words). There are a great many who lack the ability to be subtle on here. Posh has been on mumsnet for a while, she should know this.

lysithia · 26/02/2011 23:55

I am not in the least bit offended by you earwicga. your nasty tactics make me yawn tbh

No I don't know her situation well enough to offer advice but I am entitled to defend someone I feel is being uneccesarily harassed

I read her latest thread and what as been written here. That is enough for me because after all if she is so offencive to you (and I can only imagine she must have been for you to be so vile) why can't you just sod off and find someone of more of a match for you to pick on?

What does it matter if I am new or a namechanger? That information isn't relevant to you

dittany · 26/02/2011 23:56

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lysithia · 26/02/2011 23:56

offensive rather

lysithia · 27/02/2011 00:00

dittany - I agree.

If someone is needy and co-dependent (not assuming you are PSM but that has been suggested by others) then there will be reasons and a long history to that. She mentioned she has been bullied and I suspect men have been the problem in the past?

Have you tried counselling? If I am way off the mark, then do say so.

SueWhite · 27/02/2011 00:00

I also think people were way too harsh, maybe BECAUSE PSM comes across as sensitive - easy target. All the remarks about damaging her child are unnecessary. The kid is 2 or 3. Children of that age get 'attached' to someone new or fun quickly, and cry when they are denied attention from that person. It doesn't mean they're 'damaged'. Surely if you put your child in a nursery, different key workers will arrive and leave within a period of a few which may upset the child temporarily - are they damaged then? I don't think so.

I think PSM need to learn to put a higher value on herself, but people aren't exactly encouraging that by harshly telling her she's a desperate loser. Of course she isn't going to come back, and why should she? The rude comments outnumbered the supportive ones.

SueWhite · 27/02/2011 00:01
  • a few months
belledechocchipcookie · 27/02/2011 00:03

I think posters were harsh because of the previous threads sue. Whenever I've read a thread started by the OP they have always had the same theme; men & relationships that she's desperate to have.

lysithia · 27/02/2011 00:03

exactly SueWhite

sadly an easy target for bullies because she has been conditioned that way?

they exist on here, like anywhere, and some people are vulnerable. Sad and Angry

lysithia · 27/02/2011 00:04

yes and why is that belle? because she is vulnerable and maybe lonely or damaged by her past? I am only speculating but for god sake show some compassion

lysithia · 27/02/2011 00:06

come back PSM - you are most certainly not a loser. You may just need to work on your self esteem? Start by ignoring some of the arses on here

SueWhite · 27/02/2011 00:06

I actually think it's a positive thing that she has left/de-regged or whatever. Maybe she is learning to take confidence in her own decisions instead of asking other people to decide what she should do.

lysithia · 27/02/2011 00:07

also true SueWhite

belledechocchipcookie · 27/02/2011 00:09

There's more then a few people on here who need to do the same thing Sue. Sad

I have compassion Iysithia, I think Posh needs some support to help her but MN isn't the place for this. Posters on here are blunt and some forget about the person on the other side.

Udderly · 27/02/2011 00:13
Biscuit

My very first one.

OP comes across as terribly immature, with a rather obvious chip on her shoulder against one particular poster, who gave her sound advice IMO. That poster has since been personally attacked from what I can see, based on her lifestyle choices which have no bearing on the matter at hand, or in any way diminishes the effectiveness of the advice offered.

If you are going to flounce, then do so with a bit of dignity.

BitOfFun · 27/02/2011 00:17

I have certainly never suggested that PSM's daughter is anything less than loved and cared for, and I wouldn't presume to comment on that. But I do think that Posh needs more confidence and self-esteem, and I don't think that she gets that here, perhaps because of how she posts, which always strikes people as lacking in taking responsibility for herself, so it rankles with people. But I sincerely hope that she does some work on all that and emerges happier. The real world is the best way to do that, I suspect, so good luck to her.