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Feminism: chat

Those opposed to surrogacy, what are your views on egg donation?

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wholeeverything · 02/04/2026 08:55

I'm a gender critical woman with a high degree of skepticism about commercial surrogacy. I'm also facing the possibility of never having my own child.

Thinking hard about egg donation, I am conflicted about my own views about the ethics of it, from the point of view of the egg donor. What are your views? I am particularly interested in the views of those opposed to surrogacy. Do you see it as the same issue?

I feel like I cannot think objectively because of my own fertility issues. I am personally fine with the ethics of the child's rights, in that I would view it as similar to adoption with a child having the right to know their biological origins, and that then being something for me to decide if I am OK with at a personal level. Where there is full transparency, I don't see it as violating the child's rights.

But what about the young women selling eggs? Is it invasive, dangerous? Should it be viewed like surrogacy or selling an organ? Is it only considered by women in financial hardship, i.e. effectively coerced?

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VarioPerfect · 03/05/2026 11:05

RedToothBrush · 03/05/2026 09:50

Mean to rich affluent adults.

It isn't about whether it's mean to them. It's about whether it's ethical and whether there are consequences to all other parties involved.

Even your comment is entirely focused on them.

There is no reflection on how it might be 'mean' to a surrogate or to any potential siblings of this child. Or long term consequences to the child themselves.

This is what's frustrating. The invisibility of others and how focused we are on rich affluent and privileged individuals.

It's about being able to buy everything.

Saying no to these type of people isn't mean. It's just a reflection on how their decision might have deep and significant 'mean' implications for many, many others.

This includes the principle of when you say yes to one couple, how do you say no to others who really are unsuitable and aren't lovely and nice and 'deserving'.

The narrative of the 'deserving' poor couple is one which chooses to ignore the rather more haunting reality of the nefarious.

100% this. People do not have a right to a child, however rich or nice they are.

Arran2024 · 03/05/2026 14:54

I take my heritage really seriously. I wouldn't want to give my dna to strangers to be brought up by them. I accept that some people don't care about this. But genese are important. I have two adopted children and they are nothing like me or my husband. They have a superficial veneer which comes from living with us but honestly it is minimal. They would be largely the same people if they had stayed with their birth parents (though their circumstances would be very different). Nature is the predominant issue, not nurture.

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