Im not suggesting we start a cult. But, like a cult?

[CallmeJim]

Besides the sexual, child, financial abuse and fanatical aspects of a cult?

Discussion over brunch with friends yesterday who are either single by choice or miserable in LTRs turned to if we knew in our 20s what you do in your 40s, what would you have done?
After much discussion it was decided that many of our group (Im the outlier as Im happy with DH) would have happily lived somewhere such as a female only caravan park, somewhere full of a community feel, owning the land and property that you live on and a feeling of safety and community. Women only bar on site, dancing and drinks without fear of spiking or walking home
to be attacked, early morning walks with no man behind you shuffling and keeping you on edge.
We decided it did sound cult like, but not quite the end of the world, doomsday type, more of a nice woman only commune to live.

(Just think, if munsnetters had their own one, we could rear chickens and it would feed us all for years 😂)

So you kick your sons out at 13 leaving them to fend for themselves?

It would be so lovely to be able to go out of an evening without a care for safety.

So many times I'd like to go for a run, walk or just sit in the starlight alone and just don't dare.

@Bbq1 not at all, they wouldn’t live there anyway, simply stop them from visiting after 12.

Well l'm appalled to hear that but it just adds to my feeling - similar to yours - that we NEED women-only spaces to get away from men, but no way do they need the equivalent.

Agree. All women groups tend to get on much worse than all men groups. Cliquey behaviour, passive aggressiveness, etc. A society excluding those on the sexual offenders register or one that vets inhabitants would be better. I quite like having a male partner.

You don't seem to like women very much.

I mean, why do you think women overwhelmingly vote in favour of having male bosses? There's loads of research showing that women collaborate less well than men and won't help another women the greater the seniority between them at work is.

God no. Women have caused far more problems in my life than men.

Luckily then no one is going to force you to live in an all female set up

i love DH to bits but I’d happily not try and find another man if (when) dies

I’m also bored beyond belief of working with men who surround themselves with handmaids who get paid less & do all the actual work for which the boss then takes all the credit

I just don't understand people that drive but are terrified of being murdered. Unless they live in a really bad area. I'm much more worried about getting run over by something onsite and tbh I'm not too worried about that.

Do they really? How weird. All my female bosses have been brilliant and had my back, as I’ve had theirs.

So who would babies and children be living with from birth? You'd only keep female babies? Sounds creepily cult like..

@Bbq1 i wouldn’t keep any children there.

It’s far more likely that if any resident was the mother of a boy she’d leave long before he was 12, so the issue wouldn’t arise.

I got the distinct impression the op was suggesting this idea for women who would like and enjoy it.
Some posters seem to think it's the start of a compulsory new world order. 😂

If the women in your group are in relationships with such awful men, why don't they leave? Or do they need I a man in their life?

No, sounds really weird. No children, all women. No boys allowed to visit post 12. I wouldn't want to live in a female only community. Men aren't the enemy but being treated as outcasts. Some people obviously think it's an amazing idea. If there are no kid s allowed, what happens when the women age and die and aren't reolaced? Or if women get pregnant off site are they excluded from the cult?

I was surprised too. There's a fair few studies linked in the below thread. What I found most weird is that men generally seem more receptive to having a female boss than women do.

I don't know if the trend is changing however as that was a few years back. Internet stuff often doesn't give the full story IMO because only those that feel strongly tend to post. Like, a woman who has had bad experience with other women won't probably post on a sisterhood type thread. It's an interesting read the thread below. A lot of women mention being bullied at work by other women and it seems the legal sector is particularly bad.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/womensrights/3080265-Women-prefer-working-for-male-bosses

Yes, what a good thing all the women who are saying how awful it sounds wouldn’t have to live there!

Sounds lovely. I'm in.

I think it would be rather like a secular "convent" without all the prayer and repression.

I read about the founding of Lacock Abbey by Countess Ela of Salisbury in the 13th century who, after her husband had died, became an Abbess (at age 51) and created a place of retreat where women could focus of creativity and spiritual growth without menfolk, and it sounded like a perfect place.

I'd like a design where the central buildings (with various sizes of flats so some women can live solo and others might choose to live in 2s/3s/4s) and grounds with plenty of space for croquet and yoga as well as communal leisure facilities, could be surrounded by a wall in which a number of half-and-half dwellings were embedded, some of which might be guest-houses where the menfolk attached to resident women might stay occasionally, and some where there might be permanent mixed-sex residents including families but the menfolk in such dwellings could only leave those properties by the front door (unless there's a fire) - they wouldn't be allowed within the enclosed area but the women who wanted to keep a man in their life could have viable options.

'would have happily lived somewhere such as a female only caravan park, somewhere full of a community feel, owning the land and property that you live on and a feeling of safety and community. Women only bar on site, dancing and drinks'

I couldn't think of anything worse!

Gives me Greenham Common vibes.

Well said. Give them Canvey Island and block off the only road in and out.

Exactly! I imagine a bunch of female hippies all sitting cross legged, singing around a fire! As for being partnered with a female for dancing just no!

Ok. Its very clear that you two don’t like the idea, @Bbq1 & @GeorgianaM. But why are you getting so worked up about it when you’d be completely unaffected by it if the OP & her friends set it up?

I'm not worked up, about t!! Just fascinated by the idea women would do this . It just sounds weird and unnatural. Sort of handmaid's tale in reverse! Fining men unless they leave their house via the front door ?! I mean...