Women being expected to have no boundaries

[beautyisthefaceisee]

Sorry if this is the wrong place - just looking for genuine opinions and potentially affirmation I've not lost the plot.

I am a pretty kind human being with my time - I support people, I give a lot, I do a lot for people etc. But today I found myself in a situation , not for the first time, and it's really made me question a lot.

I texted a neighbour in our close about an incident within the close. I have zero friendship with this man, hes about 20 years older than me and your classic "I'm not racist" but, and we don't speak other than in passing.

Since this message, which didn't require a response, I've had numerous texts and phone calls. All above board and friendly, but generally just a bit much, given that I didn't respond to any. I asked him to stop contacting me as I was finding it a bit too much and was treated to an essay, amongst other things, about how hes "just friendly", "a good man with manners" and hes "disappointed in me" and will "learn a lesson from this as he was very surprised" - WTF - he doesn't even know me!His last text said he will never be communicating wiht me again and I have upset him.

I'm now starting to feel quite guilty - maybe the guy is lonely and I've been unecessarily harsh?

The only thing I would disagree with from DPotter post is when you see him I would give him a friendly wave and a smile.

If you don't, you are proving him right about you. I love giving these types some back but a passive ag wave and a smile here would (hopefully) make him ashamed of himself.

"The only thing I would disagree with from DPotter post is when you see him I would give him a friendly wave and a smile"

No, no, no, no, no
whilst this is a polite thing to do, for this type of person, it means you like them and 'gives' them permission to continue to contact you. A curt nod of the head, if you have to acknowledge his existence, but definitely no a friendly wave and smile

This is just another man expecting women to accommodate him. Saying no is offensive to such men. They really are not all like that but I have met many who are. its tiresome at best and alarming at worst. You owe this man nothing. Don't pander to him. He will be likely to continue to think you're a bitch for not being grateful for his attention. So be it. That's just the way some men think.

Ageist? Or are you in your eighties!

It's a tried and tested strategy of Nice Guys.

He wanted you to feel guilty, when you actually should be proud for standing your ground. He probably gets rejected by women lot and has discovered he can get some women to apologize for their "mistreatment" of him. Then he's got them in another conversation with a him that they don't want to be in.

He sounds creepy - He doesn't respect your boundaries. If you completely ignore him there's a good chance he'll pop back up and maybe even apologize to you. Just ignore him no matter what he says, is my advice.