One night out in Liverpool, this is what I witnessed men do!

[DumpedByText]

Five women on a weekend away in Liverpool, age range from 30's to early 50's. We went to the pubs, and I just despair at some men's behavior.

I watched a man buy some Jagerbombs off a girl who had her hands full with a tray of them. He grabbed her head and snogged her, and wouldn't let her go. She told him no and got away from him, I checked on her and told her to get him chucked out and she said 'I'm used to it' but thanks for checking on me, why the hell should she accept that when she's working.

One woman was dancing with a man, she was clearly drunk but seemed OK. He was all over her, grabbing her bottom, pushing his dick into her, then he grabbed her breast and pulled it out of her top. She was absolutely horrified and walked off.

A man kept approaching us and putting his arms around us, telling us to smile. We politely ignored him, then his mate came over, pulled his pants down and tried to twerk his bare arse on us. WTAF is wrong with them!

Everytime we go out as a group we see this shit happen, and I just despair at this still happening 😕

[Veryverysadandold]

Men are disgusting. That is all.

[CupOfNiceTea]

Because men are horrible creatures.

[PunsDontKillPeople]

Because they're disgusting vile pricks.

I just don't go out any more, for mainly this reason.

Pretty much nobody challenges them on it, because either they are just inured to it or because they know there will be no support forthcoming and they'll have to take the backlash on their own. It's awful.

[Bohomie]

I honestly think it depends on where you go. Mainstream pubs and clubs I've encountered this on every occasion I've been out.
Rock clubs, never! And I've been going to them for 25 years.

[Eightiesfan]

Some men just don’t or refuse to understand the concept of consent, they see a woman and think she must be gagging for whatever he has to offer. I’m making bloody sure my two boys understand that “No” is not an invitation or a word to be ignored.

[burnthur5t]

I've never seen behaviour like that. Were you in places that sell cheap drinks?

In my local town certain establishments keep the prices high to keep the scum out, seems to work

[Horological]

@burnthur5t so the situation OP describes is not really a problem because she could choose to go somewhere else? That's like saying its her fault for picking the wrong place. Why shift attention to what the women could do better? What about the behaviour of the men?

Men should not be behaving like this anywhere. Even in cheap, crappy places. Even if really drunk. Or are they helpless to control themselves?

[Theunamedcat]

@burnthur5t

I've never seen behaviour like that. Were you in places that sell cheap drinks?

In my local town certain establishments keep the prices high to keep the scum out, seems to work

Ahh yes its clearly the OPs fault we can hardly blame MEN for behaviour now can we that would be ridiculous

[KeeG8181]

It's disgusting, it's literally like every single man really does assume we women are gonna fall at their feet. they make me sick

[SJFarter]

Some men just don’t or refuse to understand the concept of consent, they see a woman and think she must be gagging for whatever he has to offer.

Yep. I don't go out anymore but I am OLD. There are some vile creatures on there. They get angry when I knock them back. At least I'm safe at home.

[SpinsForGin]

@burnthur5t

I've never seen behaviour like that. Were you in places that sell cheap drinks?

In my local town certain establishments keep the prices high to keep the scum out, seems to work

So it's the OPs fault for choosing the wrong type of bar?

Unfortunately, in my experience, the price of drinks does not stop this type of behaviour.

Don't be so judgemental

[Unsure33]

@Theunamedcat

The poster called the men scum . I don’t think that is excusing their behaviour.

[M1212]

Are you sure this was Liverpool OP?
It's just as a Liverpudlian female myself , I've never encountered anything like this 🥴

[shaneTwane]

@M1212

Are you sure this was Liverpool OP?
It's just as a Liverpudlian female myself , I've never encountered anything like this 🥴

Really?! I live in Liverpool and encounter this every single time I am out in Matthew street, the docks and concert square ...

[shaneTwane]

@burnthur5t

I've never seen behaviour like that. Were you in places that sell cheap drinks?

In my local town certain establishments keep the prices high to keep the scum out, seems to work

Ah so only poor women should be accepting of this?

[whataballbag]

@Eightiesfan

Some men just don’t or refuse to understand the concept of consent, they see a woman and think she must be gagging for whatever he has to offer. I’m making bloody sure my two boys understand that “No” is not an invitation or a word to be ignored.

This

Trying my best to raise men that women don't need to be afraid of.

[DumpedByText]

@M1212

Are you sure this was Liverpool OP?
It's just as a Liverpudlian female myself , I've never encountered anything like this 🥴

@M1212 it's was Mathew Street, it has to be said every single local person we encountered were amazing, hotel staff to people out for the night. I don't know if these men were local or not, it was very busy. We love Liverpool and its our favourite place to go for a night out! 😊 Sorry if you feel I directed this to Liverpudlians, not my intention x

[ClariceQuiff]

Entitlement. To those men, women exist purely for gratification and should have been delighted that they were favoured with their 'attentions'.

[deydododatdodontdeydo]

Awful behaviour! How do they think they can get away with it, especially in this day and age.
Probably the kind who defend footballers accused of rape, too.

[VelvetChairGirl]

other men dont call it out, no one does anything, boys will be boys and all that shit.

no one stops being a twat until they are sternly made aware they are being a twat and its unacceptable.

[tinkywinkyshandbag]

I despair I really do

[UsernameNotAvailableHmm]

The men who behave like this are disgusting. I don't know any woman who hasn't encountered, or seen, a similar thing when they've been out, or at work. Many of us have encountered it many times.
A female friend used to work in a shop where men would walk in simply to talk dirty to her or other female staff.
Whilst working at the shop, it was more than once that a man would press an envelope into her hand. Inside the envelope was a little pair of scissors.
Looking puzzled at the man, he explained that he wished her to go to the toilet and cut off some pubic hair for him, put it in the envelope.
The latest 'gentlemanly behaviour' recalled was from a friend's daughter, who needed the ladies toilet when she was out somewhere.
In she went, only to find a man standing there, with the door open, urinating all over the place.
Nasty lot

[ChaToilLeam]

There are some bloody vile men about. And until establishments show zero tolerance, until there are prosecutions, until men themselves refuse to associate with others that display this horrible behaviour, nothing will change.

It enrages me that the cops come round to a woman’s house to “check her thinking” while blatant incidents of assault and indecent exposure by men go absolutely unaddressed.

[dipdye]

Were you at the Razz?

[Campfirewood]

I agree Op, I went out recently and a man 20 years older than me, fat and balding decided to keep putting his arms around me! The fact he thought I could have been interested was the bit that I found so very strange. Also, very persistent and then the minute you tell them to go away, they turn nasty.
I have never seen a woman act like this. Most (even very drunk) women when told no will back off.