If you have a partner, do you watch porn?

[Youaremysunshine09]

Interested to know other peoples views on watching porn when they have a partner...

[alreadytaken]

No.

[Tinysalmonswimminginastream]

@Susie477

Yes, I have a partner and we sometimes watch porn together.

Porn is an interesting example of an industry in which women get paid significantly more than men for doing exactly the same job. Source: The Independent.

They don't do 'exactly the same job' though do they - for fucks sake, are people really this thick or just plain misogynist?

[WhatyoutalkingaboutWillis]

I used to for a few years with a boyfriend who only wanted to watch girl on girl. It was novel and I quite enjoyed it BUT after a while He stopped enjoying it and the thrill of his gf being cool with watching with him seemed to put him right off it. Work that one out!!

[Rosesareyellow]

I have a fully functioning imagination so don't need to watch people who are at best bored and at worst exploited grinding and grunting for money. About as erotic and stimulating as old repeats of Emmerdale on one of the backwater freeview channels.

@Beowulfa maybe you’ve just been watching the wrong kind of porn? You sound incredibly smug about not ‘needing’ porn. Most people don’t ‘need’ porn - needing it is an addiction problem. Many people - men and women, sometimes together, enjoy it. I would also say ‘thou doth protest too much’. If I hear someone talk like you I presume they actually watch a lot of porn and feel ashamed about it...

[Keepemguessing]

No. It's a disgusting and exploitative industry.

[unlimiteddilutingjuice]

I used to. Then I learned more about the industry and came to understand how damaging it is to women. So now I don't.

[MoonlightApple]

My DH has no interest in porn so no we don’t. I think I would feel weird watching it together when we could you know just do it ourselves

[Wallpapering]

@Rosesareyellow

Beowulfa maybe you’ve just been watching the wrong kind of porn?

There’s a right kind of porn?

If I hear someone talk like you I presume they actually watch a lot of porn and feel ashamed about it...

You can’t understand that someone with morals & values that understands the harms porn does to women and girls doesn’t watch it. Yeah I can see why those who watch it would feel ashamed.

[Beowulfa]

@Rosesareyellow

I have a fully functioning imagination so don't need to watch people who are at best bored and at worst exploited grinding and grunting for money. About as erotic and stimulating as old repeats of Emmerdale on one of the backwater freeview channels.

*@Beowulfa* maybe you’ve just been watching the wrong kind of porn? You sound incredibly smug about not ‘needing’ porn. Most people don’t ‘need’ porn - needing it is an addiction problem. Many people - men and women, sometimes together, enjoy it. I would also say ‘thou doth protest too much’. If I hear someone talk like you I presume they actually watch a lot of porn and feel ashamed about it...

Certainly didn't intend to sound smug. I am genuinely baffled as to why I would bother watching something so limited by physical constraints eg budget, schedule, pool of male actors (are male porn stars really recruited for their stunning looks, or is it their ability to maintain erections?), scriptwriting talent and directorial mission (presumably to make it as commercial as possible to the core paying audience- men) when I could use my imagination, which has no boundaries and is tailored specifically to my taste. And also exploits nobody.

[GrolliffetheDragon]

I've seen porn in the past and always found it a complete turn off, far too male gazey for me with the women generally looking uncomfortable or at best bored.

It's possible there's ethical lesbian porn aimed at women out there, but finding it would probably involve wading through at least some of the ghastly stuff aimed at men so no thanks.

So no, I don't watch porn. It makes me feel uncomfortable for a number of reasons.

[NiceGerbil]

OP why ask on feminism board?

You won't get a representative answer.

If you ask on chat or relationships (and many have!) you will get a broader picture.