If you have a partner, do you watch porn?

[Youaremysunshine09]

Interested to know other peoples views on watching porn when they have a partner...

[TrainedByCats]

No

[HecatesCatsInFancyHats]

In addition to the high numbers of schoolgirls reporting harassment, OFSTED also found that more than 40 cases of sexual abuse among primary school children had been reported among the 2000 and said that it was "bleeding down" from older children.

"Amanda Spielman, the head of Ofsted, said the regulator had not done such extensive research into primary schools and that their main concerns were still for older children.

She added: “But they are very definitely the same issues bleeding down into schools, into primary schools from the top down where we had clear concerns about the same kinds of issues that older children were reporting cropping up.”

Ofsted’s report found evidence that children at primary schools had access to pornography or were sharing inappropriate images and videos online."

Six-year-olds tell of abuse by classmates

https://www.thetimes.co.uk/article/5c1701ee-ca1c-11eb-b6f5-fed739e7c1ca?shareToken=8c68f38c6962ea0a663a17629268b3d3


The impact of online porn on children and young people isn't new, it's just worse, it's been talked about for years:

https://www.bbc.com/news/education-36527681

[HecatesCatsInFancyHats]

IMHO it should be banned for access below a certain age and there should be restrictions on adults who do use it. It never used to be this easy to access porn - you had to pay for it in the newsagent or video store: it's not a human right to get off at someone else's expense. ESP not given the impact it's having on a generation of YP & children.

[AnnaMagnani]

No. Asked my DH once and he replied 'Why would I want to watch someone else having sex?'

Always knew he was a keeper.

[ThePankhurstConnection]

No. Not with a partner or without one and it is a deal breaker for me - I would rather be alone than with a man who uses porn regularly.

I have researched porn and in that way I have seen a variety from light to the very, very dark and now I hate it and my deeper understanding of it has only led me to detest it more.

I do not and will never support the commodification of women's bodies. Its issues aren't limited to the performers and participants it has a ripple effect which affects ALL women and young girls adversely. In doing this it also adversely affects men and young boys it has significantly altered society and created a plethora of problems particularly for females.

[IsThePopeCatholic]

No. I hate it, and I would hate any partner to watch it.

[OhHolyJesus]

No, neither of us do.

[Kindlynow]

Yes, Bellesa in particular does good content.

[334bu]

As a first time poster you may be unaware that this is a discussion board and I would like to know why you posted this question.
Do you want us to validate your use of porn?
Do you want to discuss the ethics of porn?
Do you want to encourage people to divulge information about their sex life?
What is the purpose of your post please?

[RufustheBadgeringReindeer]

Yeah what 334b

[HecatesCatsInFancyHats]

Any thread on porn is a good opportunity to share tips for wider reading, I'd highly recommend Pornland: How Porn Has Hijacked our Sexuality by Gail Dines:

"In Pornland—the culmination of her life's work—Dines takes an unflinching look at porn and its affect on our lives. Astonishingly, the average age of first viewing porn is now 11.5 years for boys, and with the advent of the Internet, it's no surprise that young people are consuming more porn than ever. But, as Dines shows, today's porn is strikingly different from yesterday's Playboy. As porn culture has become absorbed into pop culture, a new wave of entrepreneurs are creating porn that is even more hard-core, violent, sexist, and racist. To differentiate their products in a glutted market, producers have created profitable niche products—like teen sex, torture porn, and gonzo—in order to entice a generation of desensitized users."

www.goodreads.com/book/show/7621071-pornland

[Youaremysunshine09]

No I do not watch it and it is something I have never been interested in doing, with or without a partner. However my friends dh watches it all the time & she doesn't bat an eyelid, I personally find that strange, I know it's each to their own but was just wondering how common it is.

[RufustheBadgeringReindeer]

@RufustheBadgeringReindeer

Yeah what 334b

Said

What 334b said

Obviously

[Callixte]

No.

I'm not inherently against sexual images or text, but in the world we live in, pornography is institutionally sexist. It glorifies rape, which is wildly disproportionately enacted by men upon women. It humilates, weakens, disarms, and destroys women. It tells men and boys it is OK and good and great to go out and do that. So I am not OK with it, I would not tolerate a partner who's OK with it, and I speak up when people defend it.

In a hypothetical future/fictional world where women are equal to men - sure, go for it. But we are nowhere near that world in any country of this world today. And we're getting further from it every day.

[ElaborateSalad]

Yes

[MrsWooster]

I used to, when I was a ‘cool girl’ aka unthinking libfem idiot. Then I became a woman and realised that women are hurt and exploited and the porn industry is now something that disgusts me and its impact on our society -especially young people- terrifies me.

[FourTurnings]

No

[EishetChayil]

No.

Why would I want to watch women being abused?

[heathspeedwell]

Nope and neither does my partner. The idea that women in porn do 'exactly the same job' as men is hilarious.

[Holothane]

No I have no interest unless I fancy the bloke, sex scenes do nothing for me.

[TabbyStar]

Only when I was with a partner who was abusive to me, I didn't want to but he wore me down and the sex got more and more extreme but never really felt like it was anything to do with me, he always wanted me to act out some fantasy that definitely wasn't me. I finally ended it one night when I thought he was going to kill me. It was basically a year of being sexually assaulted most nights. God knows why I stayed so long (well other than growing up with domestic abuse and it being normal...) but I'd say porn drove his expectations. I would never look at it again.

[Chunkymenrock]

No, it's revolting.

[Metabigot]

I don't like trad porn but arty erotica stills, if that is porn, kinda on the border of pirn and art I do have time for.

Too mild for most men tho.

[Sunshine4you]

We sometimes watch it together

[Caramellatteplease]

Never

However

I fully believe most men do. Even the ones who say they don't. The amount of content alone suggests it is ubiquitous.

I absolutely would if I believed Ethical porn existed. But I dont, or at least cant be sure, so I don't watch it.

I also believe the discussion itself heavily censors female sexuality. I frequently hear "no woman likes ....." and I think "well I absolutely do!!!". I do worry that some of the anti porn movement is in itself a product of a society where female gaze and expression is repressed.