If you have a partner, do you watch porn?

[Youaremysunshine09]

Interested to know other peoples views on watching porn when they have a partner...

[Slub]

No

[Articus]

Is this the kind of thread that people didn’t dare to post before they split the chat on gender and sex board?

Such an improvement in the conversation 🤷🏻‍♀️

[RunningFromInsanity]

I don’t think you are going to get an unbiased answer to that question in the Feminism board.

But yes, I mainly watch when I am single but have done whilst in a relationship.
Interestingly we don’t watch it together though.

[Caramellatteplease]

Such an improvement in the conversation

You dont think porn should be a feminist concern?

[Ineedtogotobednowplease]

No.

But I do still find other men and women sexually attractive and I will still masturbate as well as have a healthy and fulfilling sex life with my spouse.

I do not believe that sexual attraction to others is a reflection on your feelings towards your partner.

[Articus]

Porn is a feminist issue as others have posted here and in previous threads, it is linked heavily to women and girls abuse from school age onwards. The government missed an opportunity last year to make it illegal for children under 12 to watch.

It is the tone of the question? Are you (presumably a woman as this is MN) and your partner (presumably male as they are the main consumers) make use of porn (presumably for sexual gratification of some nature). Next... let’s share tips on which are your favourites porn actors, themes, etc

I might have a grumpy morning and might have misread the tone, but really it made my eyes roll!

[AssassinatedBeauty]

@RunningFromInsanity

I don’t think you are going to get an unbiased answer to that question in the Feminism board.

But yes, I mainly watch when I am single but have done whilst in a relationship.
Interestingly we don’t watch it together though.

What would an "unbiased" answer to a specific question about individuals use of porn or not, look like? The question from the OP was "if you have a partner, do you watch porn". That's pretty specific, and generally has been answered with yes or no, then an explanation. I presume they asked on a feminist board because they were interested in what women who might say they are feminist would respond.

[Whoarethewho]

Yes and I'm pretty sure they do too.

[Wallpapering]

@Articus

Is this the kind of thread that people didn’t dare to post before they split the chat on gender and sex board?

Such an improvement in the conversation 🤷🏻‍♀️

No this comes up every so often and not just over here.

I think that is good to ask such because there are some who no nothing about what actually goes on in their edited porn material they watch nor the harm porn does to women and girls.

Here is one campaigner that has taken on one biggest players mindgeek/pornhub.

twitter.com/lailamickelwait/status/1277959297784115207?s=21

I am very anti porn for obvious reasons but I do wonder if those that watch it ever have moment where the wonder how the person in the material got there?

[NeedNewKnees]

Hell no. Seeing other women exploited and abused is not my idea of a good time.

[Beowulfa]

No. Not when single either.

I have a fully functioning imagination so don't need to watch people who are at best bored and at worst exploited grinding and grunting for money. About as erotic and stimulating as old repeats of Emmerdale on one of the backwater freeview channels.

[MedusasBadHairDay]

@EishetChayil

No.

Why would I want to watch women being abused?

This

[aibubaby]

Yes. We have a subscription to Crashpad (diverse, queer-friendly) that we watch together.

[chickenyhead]

I have in the past but to be honest the eyes tell me it isn't wanted. So it made me intensely uncomfortable.

In my more enlightened years I have seen real life exposure to it's affect on society. What men now expect women to "perform."

What horrified me the most is that things like choking and biting, watersports etc are becoming more mainstream and as such are becoming expectations from a certain type of man.

What abuser wouldn't love to piss on a woman he is abusing (from experience). So no. I don't watch porn. I don't condone abuse and I think it does nothing for the future of our society. Women are not nymphomaniac, performing seals and men are not entitled to use them.

[VroomVrooom]

@Susie477

Yes, I have a partner and we sometimes watch porn together.

Porn is an interesting example of an industry in which women get paid significantly more than men for doing exactly the same job. Source: The Independent.

How much would you accept in payment to do it?

It’s not a job most women want to do.

[Sophoclesthefox]

No.

If you watch porn, then it’s a near certainty that you have at some point watched a woman be raped while you have a wank.

I don’t find that in the least erotic.

Your defence will be “of course I haven’t! I only watch nice porn and I pay for it!”. Thats like eating sausages and insisting that your sausages definitely don’t have bits of brain and arsehole in them. They do. You either accept it, or you don’t eat sausages.

There’s nothing edgy, or subversive or daring about watching porn. It’s as tediously mainstream and conformist as can be.

[somethinginoffensive]

I remember trying to watch a Louis Theroux programme about the people in porn videos some years ago. He started off with a "nice" company who made more "romantic" style videos.

Even in the first few minutes of that he was interviewing an 18 year old woman who was new to it and saying she was happy to do anal. Then the young man was obviously on drugs just to get through the day.

I couldn't watch any more, that was about as pleasant as it was going to get

Pornography is a horrific industry.

[OverTheRubicon]

@Caramellatteplease

Never

However

I fully believe most men do. Even the ones who say they don't. The amount of content alone suggests it is ubiquitous.

I absolutely would if I believed Ethical porn existed. But I dont, or at least cant be sure, so I don't watch it.

I also believe the discussion itself heavily censors female sexuality. I frequently hear "no woman likes ....." and I think "well I absolutely do!!!". I do worry that some of the anti porn movement is in itself a product of a society where female gaze and expression is repressed.

Agree with all of this. All these saintly MN husbands are, statistically speaking, either a group massive outliers or of total liars.

Also on the female agency. I disagree with porn and prostitution as industries because even fully believing that some women may choose it, think that the exploitation inherent in the industry is too high. But do wonder where some of these pps would stand on, say, anime porn - okay because no real women? What about if it's rough? But what about if it's gentle, and drawn by a woman? Not all porn is inherently exploitative.

[vdbfamily]

No, and neither does partner.

[powershowerforanhour]

No.

I don't watch porn. I don't condone abuse and I think it does nothing for the future of our society. Women are not nymphomaniac, performing seals and men are not entitled to use them.
+1

[SirVixofVixHall]

@Sophoclesthefox

No.

If you watch porn, then it’s a near certainty that you have at some point watched a woman be raped while you have a wank.

I don’t find that in the least erotic.

Your defence will be “of course I haven’t! I only watch nice porn and I pay for it!”. Thats like eating sausages and insisting that your sausages definitely don’t have bits of brain and arsehole in them. They do. You either accept it, or you don’t eat sausages.

There’s nothing edgy, or subversive or daring about watching porn. It’s as tediously mainstream and conformist as can be.

Agree.

[Majorfluff]

Yes, regularly. We enjoy it.

[Wallpapering]

@Majorfluff

Yes, regularly. We enjoy it.

You regularly enjoy watching material that involves your family and friends

Or do you have some other magical source for your ‘ethical’ porn that doesn’t/hasn’t involve abuse of women or girls

[ProudExclu]

We both love porn. One of my favourite things about my partner however, is the fact that most porn turns him off because of how the women are treated. He doesn’t treat women that way so why would it turn him on watching other people do it?

So we have issues with pre recorded porn where people have profited and would rather get to know people online and share content that way. We also go on chat sites for swingers where there are webcam rooms etc.

[DeeCeeCherry]

No. DP isn't interested in porn. I don't mind a bit of erotica, more so reading than watching, but that's about it. We have a good sex life.

Ive worked in a library previously and loads of men would come in to use public PCs trying to access porn, or looking up women on Twitter etc and harassing them. No doubt telling their wives or girlfriends that they go to the library to 'get their work done in peace'. Absolute scum.