I get so low sometimes!

[yabbs]

Hi I am a new member I hope someone could help I liev in holland my husband is in the army and I have a 10 month old son. I have no real close friends over here and I get days were i get so down. I feel ok today but I get some days where I just cry.I wish I had someone to talk to.

Sending you a big hug. I have to walk the children now but I shall be about later to talk. There always someone on here to cheer you up.

Hi Yabbs, sorry you are feeling like this.
Its so hard isnt it?
You sound like you feel isolated and lonely.
What is there on offer there in terms of mother & toddler etc?

Update. Me and my husband have been arguing alot recenty and we have decided to split.I go back to england on saturday. Today is a really bad day last night just cryed some much. I am really hurting.trying to be strong for my little one.

Yabbs - sounds like you are doing the best thing for yourself and your baby. New life and fresh start. You should be proud of yourself and there is nothing wrong with a good cry. You should say to yourself 'Well today I am going to stay in my pyjamas and I am going to cry alot but tomorrow I am going to stop feeling sorry for myself and concentrate on my beautiful son'. Where will you be moving to? Will you have family nearby to support you? Hope all goes well and keep us posted.

I will be back home with my parents I need some space of my own so hopefully I will be able to have my own place. I'm so down it can't belive I feel this way. I just need someone to tell me everything will be alright. it hurts so much.

It will get better I promise just not right away. When you are back home with your parents and you are settled things will look better. You are alot better of than some people. You have your parents to love you and not forgetting your son who couldn't live without you. Some people have no-one to love and no-one to love them back either. Give yourself a break and don't beat yourself up about wanting to cry. It's a woman's porogative!!!

Hi all
Me and my husband are trying to work things out so that a good thing today is a ok day hoping to get out of the house at somepoint thankyou for all you messages

Hello Yabbs. I'm really sorry I didn't get back to you sooner. DD has had bad tummy bug and was in quite a state. I hope everything works out well for you and your little one. If you have access to internet when you come home please let us know how you are getting on.

Hi mememum
Me and my husband have been talking and trying to work things out it seam to be going ok. The last couple of days haven't been to bad which is good. Sorry to here your little one had a tummy bug. My little one is having a nap. He is so good bless him.

Hello, I am a new member and I am looking for someone to talk to. I am a 22yr old housewife, looking after my 3 step children, 8,6 and (nearly)4. My partner works long hours and I am suffering from depression. I have recntly finished College and don't have many friends or family around to talk to. We are in the middle of a custody battle and its soo messy. I really don't feel like I'm coping. Can anyone help?

Sorry Yabbs need to improve my skim reading! DD is alot better! With Grandma today. I am meant to be working!
StressedStepmum - big welcome to you! It must be hard for all of you going through a custody battle. It is difficult when your partner works long hours as well. Theres always somenone here to talk to. Whereabouts are you? The meet up threads are always good for getting to know new people!

mememum - I am in North Wales, not exactly the most accessible of areas though! It is nice to know that there is a support network here though.Thanks

I am a bit to far away stressedstepmum but you can always use mumsnet to talk to people and I am sure there is someone near by.

It is surprising how far mn can reach. Are you able to get out and about SS? I'm stuck in the middle of nowhere in the wilds of norfolk and can't drive. A problem I am trying to rectify! Although based on my driving in the lesson I have just done I don't forsee being put in for my test until 2010!
Yabbs, how are things going? Forgive me for being thick but do the army have a mothers and children group thing you can go to?

They do but its so far away and I dont drive which is a bit of a pain. I managed to go a cuople of time a lady gave me and lift then she stopped going so it's a bit of a nightmare.

mememum and Yabbs, yes I do drive but its always taking that first step and going out and meeting people that's hard isn't it. Plus I live in quite a small community where pretty much everyone in born and dies in this same village and can be funny towards outsiders. Plus being as I am only a stepmum, some of the parents know the kids' real mum and that causes issues also. Sorry, that sounds really negative doesn't it. Where are you now Yabbs, did you move to your parents? (Apoligies if I am being daft and the answer is above!)

Nope me and my husband are working things out so I am still in Holland.

Stressedstepmum thats a big responsibility at a young age to care for your partners children. I'm 23 with 2 young children and I know at times it can be a bit daunting looking after children. I know that you are depressed but are you entirely happy with your situation as being a stay at home mum? I know this might sound a bit out of place but would you like to do something else and this is the reason you are depressed or are you doing it whole heartedly because you love doing it. Its just a thought as you are young.

I see your point but I am only a stay at home mum temporarily as I start my degree next Sept. It wasn't really an option for me to stay at work once the holidays arrived as my partner was earning far more than I, and childcare around here is shocking and I would be working to pay for that, which seems daft. It has been harder than I expected, especially when there is not much n this area to keep them entertained. But I just keep next Sept in my head.

I agree Stressed it is that first step that is difficult. It must also be hard if the other carers etc know the childrens mum. Is she making life difficult for you? I used to live in a village where no one accepted you until you had lived there 25 years, absolutely shocking. What degree will you be doing?
Yabbs, how are things? What is it like in Holland?

Holland is a lovely coutry really where we live there is not alot to do though. Miss home sometimes. I am fine its been a ok day we have friends coming to see us tommorrow which is good.

Stressedstepmum, have a look at the step parenting section on MN, there are lots of us step mums out there and we all have good advice to give and we do all support each other through difficult times. Talk to you there sometime...

mememum Yes she is making it very difficult for me. I was not the cause of the marital breakdown and all I am doing is supporting my partner in his fight for custody, but still I am the evil woman and yes, lots of the other mums etc. either know her or know of her, so it makes life difficult.

Oh yeah and I'm doing Child Nursing

Having a down day today just felt like laying in bed this morning and not getting up. I did because of my little one if it wasnt for him I would have gone mad by now!