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COULD YOU LEAVE YOUR DH IF HE WAS AN ALCOHOLIC SUFFERING FROM DEPRESSION

54 replies

usedtobehappy · 23/03/2010 20:46

I really want to. things have been getting steadily worse over the past 6 months. He is on AD's (fluoxitine) but continues to drink to excess starting in the morning. Usually around 3 - 4 botrles of wine per day though he doesn't acknowledge that I know! He is currently off work as they became aware of his ever increasingly odd behaviour. We have two children. His behaviour at home is totallly unacceptable. He shuffles around in his dressing gown, diong SFA all day. I firmly believe that his depressions is all down to the drinking not the other way round. he has seen a doctr and specialist but still rubbishes them about his drinking. I cannot adequatelly describe the tension and putrid atmosphere in the hosue. We hvae had issues in teh past (him not be) which has resulted in me now being totally unable to support him as I despise what he has done.is doing to me and our children now.
there is a part of me that cannot leave because of his depressin but i realy feel that even if he was well again I wouldn't want to be here. What do i do?

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SolidGoldBrass · 31/03/2010 22:27

Ok, consult a solicitor, tell the solicitor he's an alcoholic and you want him out. While it is (and quite rightly) not possible to force someone to leave their home (while you continue living there) just because you no longer want to be in a relationship with them, if the person is abusive then you can get them out but I think it's quite complicated and it may be that the house will have to be sold.

FiveGoMadInDorset · 31/03/2010 22:30

Yes

cestlavielife · 31/03/2010 23:03

is tricky - you need ot show serious risk...but speak to womens aid...maybe serious words from a solicitor might shake him up enough to leave even temporarily? as first step...

insisting he go get help for his alcoholism?
but is he wont acknowledge it then tricky...

my exP refused to leave so i had to...

lucyxxx · 08/04/2010 16:42

Hi all,

Like some of you I am a mum with an alcoholic partner. After numerous attempts at AA and rehab I was starting to give up hope of my partner ever stopping drinking until we discovered a drug called neltrexone. It is an opiod suppressor used with heroin addicts and alcoholics. It has changed our lives and has given me a loving partner and our son a father. Here is the Times article with some more information.

www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/life_and_style/health/article5484285.ece

In the UK the NHS will only prescribe it to heroin addicts however you can speak to a private psychiatrist who is a specialist in drugs and alcohol who can prescribe it (We paid £300 for the initial consultation) or you can contact the Stapleford Centre www.staplefordcentre.com/ if you live near London.

My partner is following 'The Sinclair Method'

www.mentalhelp.net/poc/view_doc.php?type=doc&id=11132

Neltrexone really does sound like it is too good to be true but in our experience it has been!

Good luck Lx

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