he is drinking way too much and knows it. (a bottle and a half or two bottles of wine on a weekend night would not be unusual. he might get through five bottles of wine between Friday night and Sunday night.)
I am desperate to help him stop but not sure how to approach it.
I encouraged him to see his GP and after lots of persuasion he finally agreed. The GP gave him some blood tests. Amazingly the tests came back fine (or so he tells me, though he sometimes lies about his drinking issues). I was sure the tests would show liver problems and was very happy and relieved but the heavy drinking goes on and i worry for his health.
The GP said he could go to some drop in clinic locally but he hates this idea, fearing he will be seen by someone who knows us. DH has now asked me to help him find someone else who can help him (some kind of private doctor?) but I don't know where to begin. i can't see him agreeing to go to alcoholics anonymous because in his mind that will just be for seriously problem drinkers. he can survive a day or two without any drink at all, and probably longer if he put his mind to it. he never drinks in the morning or even afternoon. he only ever appears a bit drunk late at night. BUT he's drinking huge quantities and is often slurry and not really with it on Friday/Sat/Sunday nights. last week he promised to give up drinking during the week. tonight i find he has had two beers and two glasses of wine. he lied to me about it.
does anyone have any advice? maybe i'm worrying unneccesarily and it's no big deal? he is in his mid 40s.