relationship ending and feeling lonely

[hurting]

I've just finished with my husband after a nightmare couple of weeks after finding out he was cheating on me. Since discovering it he has been so emotionally abusive and our arguments escalated so much that he was shoving me in the head screaming abuse at me. I called the police yesterday and had him arrested and is out on bail and now he is not allowed anywhere near me. Last night I just felt panic and could barely sleep (he still has a house key) but tonight I am feeling really low, like evrything is finally coming on top of me. I am so scared aout what will happen now. He is so unpredictable that I don't know how he is going to be towards me after all this. Part of me feels relief because he has always been very emotionally abusive and has made me very dependant on him. Just sitting here crying right now.

Unfortuntely, legally he has just as much of a right to live here as I do unless I get a court order which I don't think would be beneficial for the children. I am going to the CAB first thing tomorrow morning - hopefully it will give me some ideas.

I think it woud be better for you, as long as the children see him thats all that matters, I don't think its wise for you & Him to be under the same roof, the police will probably say the same thing too

No, he doesn't if he has attacked you. A friend of mine went through the same (cheating and abuse though he was never arrested), once the police was involved he was not allowed to enter the house even when he was paying all the mortgage (my friend is a SAHM). The house has been at the center of their divorce dispute that has been contested three times because the 3 judges said that she was to keep the house (between other things). In all this time he has not been allowed inside of the house even when he claims it's his house.

Hello my name is "Desire" Well I have been in an on and off relationship for the last 2 years it has been abusive since 3-4 months initially we had a "small fight" where he slapped me. He is always cursing me out and calling me Bit(hes. well I now have a 5 month old son by this jerk. It was my first abusive relationship. I felt that I loved and needed him so much it always seemed that when he was good he was outstanding but when he was bad he was horrible. Well anyway we lived together up until i was about 6 months pregnant I left and moved to another state with my mom. We still talked even about reconciling only for the next week me to be a bad name again. Needless to say I finally realize no matter how many times he promises me that he wont do it again.HE ALWAYs WILL. So I finally broke up with him I have been away from almost a year except for after havin the baby i took the baby to see him when he about 2 months we stayed there with him until he was about 3 months it was ok but i still seen the signs of his abusive. I fought back verbally and physically it was an unhealthy situation. But a part of me misses him its like when im lonely i think of all the good times except for times like this when I think of all the bad times....I cant figure out for my life why I even care and he constantly puts the blame on me and I wonder if maybe somehow i caused this?