Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

Mental health

Mumsnet hasn't checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you have medical concerns, please seek medical attention.

Flip

1 2 3

Original poster

I think I might be having a panic attack or something

70 replies

NAB09 · 05/02/2009 18:38

i can't breathe properly. I think i might be sick. I have tightness in my chest. just hid on the bathroom for a bit. no idea where dh is or when he will be home. can't cope anymore. sorry for being like this again.

OP posts:

Original poster

NAB09 · 06/02/2009 10:52

kitchen is a mess
clothes need putting away
dishwasher needs emptying
feel really cold
feel like i am losing the plot

OP posts:

Coldtits · 06/02/2009 10:55

Nab.

Do the washing up, and wipe the sides down.

Then go to the shop.

mileniwmffalcon · 06/02/2009 10:55

if you pile up the dirties neatly in the kitchen does that give you enough space to make lunch/tea? if so it is enough. dishes can stay in dishwasher. clothes can stay.

put thick socks on, get snugged under a blanket, make a hot choc, put on a good film, have a (hug).

Original poster

NAB09 · 06/02/2009 11:04

this helps, someone telling me what to do

emptied and loaded dishwaher.

off to put kettle on for hot drink as I am freezing

have to leave at 11.35 to get ds2 from playschool

OP posts:

Coldtits · 06/02/2009 11:05

Have your hot drink then leave, you don't have time to do anything else comfortably.

When you get back, make some sandwiches for lunch?

mileniwmffalcon · 06/02/2009 11:07

the walk to playschool will warm you up. no time for a film then - how about some music? nothing slushy! something you could dance to?

Original poster

NAB09 · 06/02/2009 11:11

can't eat

ds2 will want cbeebies but after he has gone to bed i might do nothing

OP posts:

Coldtits · 06/02/2009 11:12

Dump 3 sugars in your hot drinks then, if you really can't eat, or buy some milkshakes from the shop when you go.

mileniwmffalcon · 06/02/2009 11:13

doing something distracting is best if you can manage. do you play computer games at all?

nab can you please do me a favour and get hold of that cmht number?

Original poster

NAB09 · 06/02/2009 11:16

didn't even make a hot chocolate properly so that went down the sink

no idea where dh is. i know he had to go to work, the london, then work again but don't know where he is now. he left home at 7.10 this morning.

OP posts:

Coldtits · 06/02/2009 11:17

Ev eryone gets things wrong sometimes. Make yourself another drink and park yourself.

Original poster

NAB09 · 06/02/2009 18:03

Had another panic today and now have a really bad headache. Just want dh home and hopefully won't need to go and get ds2. i am so cold.

OP posts:

mileniwmffalcon · 06/02/2009 18:28

hang on in there nab, sure he won't be long. enjoy the peace and quiet tonight/tomorrow morning

Doozle · 06/02/2009 19:16

When you are panicking, what thoughts are going through your head NAB?

Original poster

NAB09 · 06/02/2009 21:05

I have been worrying whether things will ever be the same again with my husband and I. I know how lucky I am that I have such a wonderful and supportive husband but it seems like I am wrecking things for myself as I can't believe that it will last.

OP posts:

Doozle · 06/02/2009 22:41

Ok, do you want things to be the same and you're worried that he won't stick around?

Original poster

NAB09 · 07/02/2009 13:11

I really want things back to how they were with DH and I. We were solid and happy even though we have been through some tough times. It all started going wrong when I had contact with an ex. I eventually blocked him but had forgotten he had another email address and we exchanged some messages as I am weak and stupid. I was in a bad way with the depression and I felt like I needed to talk to him and not leave everything unfinished. He arranged to come down early and then we didn't speak for a few days. I have now blocked everything he had of mine and just want to get him out of my head.

My DH has said he would never leave me

OP posts:

JackBauer · 07/02/2009 22:07

Nab, glad you are feeling a bit clearer, or at least it looks that way. You didn't actually do anything wrong, you stopped it before that happened so try ot put that behind you and start concentrating on why you needed a distraction.
I think conatcting the community mental health team is a good idea to try and sort through what you need to.

Your DH sounds like a good egg

JollyPirate · 08/02/2009 08:28

NAB - have a look at this site.
It's an online CBT course that I am finding really helpful for dealing with my anxiety and panic attacks - there is a really good tool thing for working through a situation/altered thinking/altered behaviour/altered emotions etc. It honestly is well worth a look. I found it because someone here posted the link.
I know CBT is not for everyone but if you get time it's worth just checking out and seeing if you think it might help you - it's endorsed by the NHS (was set up with NHS funding) and best of all it's FREE.

I know the symptoms of not being able to eat/not being able to tackle the housework etc so very very well because that's me too when anxiety and panic are at their peak.

Original poster

NAB09 · 08/02/2009 13:06

Thank you.

I will look at the site soon when the kids are in bed.

DH is the best. He knows I am sorry and we are making more time for each other.

Tomorrow will be hard as ex might email but I am going to do a lost of things to do and stay off the computer as much as possible, except for MN of course.

Actually, I have deleted everything not blocked but I will get DH to sort that. DH has told me to forward the email to him if ex does email me.

The ex and I were friends for a long time and that bit of me knows him very well and I can tell he isn't happy which is why I hung around too long really.

OP posts:

Flip

1 2 3