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Anyone know how CvQ is today? Has she been in touch with anyone?

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thumbwitch · 29/08/2008 00:35

She was in a bad way in the early hours of this morning, has anyone had any contact with her at all today? Am quite worried about her.

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needsupport · 31/08/2008 18:03

if i cant sort my pitiful self out ill have to.

differentID · 31/08/2008 18:04

would you like her to stay?

needsupport · 31/08/2008 18:06

yeah i wouldbut maybe im relying on her too much now

bellavita · 31/08/2008 18:07

I am sure you mum would be delighted to think that you needed her help.

differentID · 31/08/2008 18:07

Why not ask her how she would feel about it?

needsupport · 31/08/2008 18:10

because im ashamed to admit i cant do this alone anymore

bellavita · 31/08/2008 18:12

there is no need to be ashamed, we all need to ask for help from time to time.

differentID · 31/08/2008 18:14

there really is no need to feel ashamed for asking help. I used to feel the same way when I was just a teenager, and I wish I had had the strength to ask for help, and I was in nowhere near as desperately sad a situation you are in. I know you have had a bad time, but she came when you needed her a few weeks ago.

needsupport · 31/08/2008 18:18

she did yes and ill be eternally grateful for that.i need to stop hiding for a while.im not being fair to j
back in a while
thankyou

differentID · 31/08/2008 18:19

Go and smile at your little lad.

Habbibu · 31/08/2008 18:59

Takes strength and courage to admit you need help, darling girl, and lord knows you have that in abundance. I have no idea what it's like to have been through what you have, but the way you describe your mixed feelings when you think about j makes a lot of sense to me - you love him, he's your darling son, but he came out of such pain for you, you'd have to not be human to feel that pain. You are an extraordinarily loving mother - if you didn't care about how you think your actions and feelings would affect him, then that would be different, but you care so much it's incredibly obvious to anyone, and it will be like that for j. You think you're not coping, but my god, woman, you are - I am constantly in awe of you, and wish I could give you a hug and a cup of tea for real...

bellavita · 31/08/2008 19:04

Habbibu - you have brought tears to my eyes. That was lovely.

needsupport · 31/08/2008 22:12

thankyou habbibu.thats lovely x

Habbibu · 31/08/2008 22:16

You are most welcome. How are you doing?

needsupport · 31/08/2008 22:20

bit of a rollercoaster day.im a bit shattered tbh but i slept earlier so i wont sleep anyway

Habbibu · 31/08/2008 22:22

Did you get a decent sleep earlier? Have you managed anything else to eat?

needsupport · 31/08/2008 22:24

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Habbibu · 31/08/2008 22:25

Pretty good going, though, on the food front. Maybe try a banana or biscuit or another hot chocolate later? How did you feel when you woke up? Did the nap help?

MatNanPlus · 31/08/2008 22:31

Evening NS & DID NS please take into consideration that you wrist is going to be weak and sore and it might need another plaster or soft support as you did quite a number on it.

Speak to your mum and maybe look at the day and divide it into blocks of you and J and her and J and all of you at mealtimes, then as you feel stronger you can extend your blocks of time and slowly work towards doing it yourself and she is there to be back up and your best supporter!!

How far away from you does she live?

Is one of you moving closer to the other an option?

Did the tablet help last night?

Do you find it easier to have a plan of things it could be possible to achieve each day or is that more stressful? These aren't must do tasks/goals but if i can i could do ones?

MatNanPlus · 31/08/2008 22:33

It is a good sign that you could relax when you were feeding J earlier NS, it isn't something you could have done a few daqys ago. It is a positive sign, baby steps remember.

MatNanPlus · 31/08/2008 22:34

Evening Habb

Habbibu · 31/08/2008 22:34

Hello MNP!

MatNanPlus · 31/08/2008 22:40

All quiet in the Habb house?

What about the NS house?

needsupport · 31/08/2008 22:45

thats a good idea mnp.

she lives quite a distance from me
she wouldnt move.their settled.and the thought of me moving closer is a no no im afraid at the moment
te tablet helped relax me but didnt give me the sleep i hoped it would?

i plod through the day tbh

Habbibu · 31/08/2008 22:50

We're ok, MNP - I'm off to bed soon. cvq - breaking up the day sounds like very good advice to me - the day can loom too large and too daunting if you're low. Lots of little gentle plans can help. Have you found other things to help you relax, cvq? Is it possible for you to get out and go for a walk, perhaps with yoru mum and j, just to get soem exercise? I do understand that that kind of thing can be very hard for you, so sorry if that sounds a bit trite.