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sick of coping quietly

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copingvquietly · 28/07/2008 18:51

im not coping today.my brain has alot going on.ive had 3 hrs sleep since yesterday and i want to scream shout and sit and cry all at the same time.im so tired but cant sleep.
im sorry if your all sick of me.ive no where else to turn to

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LovelyDear · 29/07/2008 00:13

when i am in anxiety-stricken panic despair-land it sometimes helps me to think (not 'know', but to try to realise) that my thoughts are not actually going to affect anything real, outside my body - they are purely the results of chemicals firing off (wonkily!) - and so in reality, I'm just the same as someone who thinks they are fine. Does that make any sense? I suspect not. sorry. I just want to say to you that you are just the same as any of us, really, but temporarily your brain is hiding that fact from you. You will be fine. I have never posted on one of your threads but I often think about you and your son. That's such a cliche sorry....

Hangingbellyofbabylon · 29/07/2008 00:21

right - this is the last time I'm going to mention it as I'm sure you must be getting fed up with me by now - but have a look at some of these phrases - they really helped me to say them out loud.
www.nomorepanic.co.uk/NMPcms.php?nmppage=coping

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copingvquietly · 29/07/2008 00:22

this is not a safe feeling for me.how can i stop it.can i?

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copingvquietly · 29/07/2008 00:24

i will read them it might help bring me out of this feeling.thankyou you are lovely

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copingvquietly · 29/07/2008 04:28

here we go again

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snaptoit · 29/07/2008 04:37

Hey CVQ - did you manage any sleep? Really feel for you. You are doing a great job - glad that J is being an angel. He is a lucky boy to have you. HAppy to listen to some venting if you need to.

snaptoit · 29/07/2008 04:41

Hey CVQ - did you manage any sleep? Really feel for you. You are doing a great job - glad that J is being an angel. He is a lucky boy to have you. HAppy to listen to some venting if you need to.

snaptoit · 29/07/2008 04:41

Hey CVQ - did you manage any sleep? Really feel for you. You are doing a great job - glad that J is being an angel. He is a lucky boy to have you. HAppy to listen to some venting if you need to.

sakurarose39 · 29/07/2008 04:41

can you not sleep, love? you must be exhausted
can chat if you want
i live on t'other side of the world, and its my lunch hour at the mo...

snaptoit · 29/07/2008 04:42

sorry computer playing up!

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copingvquietly · 29/07/2008 04:45

no ive slept for 3 hrs again.im sat on the floor with the laptop crying againi cant do this again todayi cant cope

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snaptoit · 29/07/2008 04:47

is J still asleep? would a bath help. or just zone off to some TV. Close your eyes - listen to classic fm. wish we could help more.

sakurarose39 · 29/07/2008 04:51

is there anyone, anyone at all who can come and help you/be with you?
am I right in thinking you have to go to your DS nursery today? and you've got to discuss stuff with them, right?
can you get a friend to go with you?

snaptoit · 29/07/2008 04:55

Think SR39's idea is good. Can L go with you? Would it help to plan an afternoon outing with J - the park, zoo, something that he would enjoy? Out to a cafe - get a good meal in you - give yourself a break.

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copingvquietly · 29/07/2008 04:55

hes fast asleep in my bed.he will be waking with the next 2 hours.i need more sleepi could scream

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copingvquietly · 29/07/2008 04:58

i really dont thnk i can cope with today even if L came with us.im too fragilebut i might feel alright later.oh ffs i need a break

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sakurarose39 · 29/07/2008 05:00

it is shit though, isn't it, when you are sleep-deprived. 3 hours is obv. not enough, but remember that just relaxing and closing your eyes as snaptoit suggested, is good too. Try and clear your mind.

sakurarose39 · 29/07/2008 05:03

CVQ, I've got to get back to work now. will check in later. Try and close your eyes for an hour or so before J wakes up.

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copingvquietly · 29/07/2008 05:05

my mind is never clear.thats half the problemloads of crap whizzin around it with nowhere to go.i dont know what to do with half of it.i still feel detached.id hoped that would have gone

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copingvquietly · 29/07/2008 05:07

ok.thankyou

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differentID · 29/07/2008 07:58

I hope you are feeling a little stronger today cvq. Just take as much time as you need to do things and try to eat something- even if it's just some tea and toast. I have to go to work, but I will check on you later. Take care of yourself.

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copingvquietly · 29/07/2008 09:09

i am exhausted unfortunatly j is notit feels like ill always have this face.but imtrying to pull myself up really i am.im really not a quitter but i do get so desperate at times its easy to just do that isnt it.im just too tired right now but i will get better.but im still detached

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hazygirl · 29/07/2008 09:19

cvq big hugs ,hope u get some rest and your little boy is lucky to have such a lovely mummyx dont often post on threads but just wanted to give u a big hugxheres to life getting betterx

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copingvquietly · 29/07/2008 09:34

if you could see the state of me you woudnt think him lucky
i need sleep

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lucyellensmum · 29/07/2008 10:40

cvq - hang on in there.

This lack of sleep is really damaging for you - can you go to your docs and ask for some sleeping pills? Actually you need to go to your doctor anyway - your anxiety is wayyyyyyy to high just now.

I read something along these lines about that horrible detached feeling that anxiety sufferers (me included) get. What it said is, you just have to accept it as a state of mind sometimes. Learn that this feeling is OK and that your head is NOT going to explode, you are NOT going mad etc etc. I think that is the thing, it is frightening in itself, never mind all the shit that causes it. Apparently you can induce this feeling by staring at your hand a few inches from your face, after a bit you brain gets a bit overwhelmed by it and you start to feel a bit odd. Practise this and realise that the feeling is just a feeling, it WILL go away but sometimes you just have to go with it. Ive not tried this yet as i haven't had the opportunity to sit with my hand in front of my face without looking a bit of a lemon.

What i do is put my head in a corner of a sofa and say "its the pills, it will pass, it will pass it will pass".

Are you getting any counselling at all my love? You should not be having to shoulder this on your own - go and jump up and down at the doctors, get a Community mental health team. There is no shame in this, sometimes our load gets too much and we need some help to offload it. Im being reffered myself and im waiting for my appointment. That in itself has made me feel better.

Please let us know you are OK.

It doesn't look like its going to be such a hot and miserable day today - can you get out at all, get some fresh air? That will help you sleep and J! tonight, if you feel you can, switch your computor off no later than nine oclock. I find that i can never sleep when i have been tapping away on here, even if i am not stressed. No caffeine after 6pm. NO alcohol, can you watch a film or something?

All of these ideas seem trivial i know, they do to me, but they work.

I have to go out today, will check on you later

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