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Can I risk being totally honest?

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naswm · 07/07/2008 17:42

Community Mental Health Team appt tomorrow.

if I tell them everything, I have to deal with the possible consequences of that

if I dont tell them the truth, they wont take me seriously

Waited 2.5 weeks for this 'urgent' appoiontment to come through, and now it is here I don't know how to play it

advice please?

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pinkbubble · 07/07/2008 20:52

Hi naswm. What time is your appointment (would like to give you a thought!)

Think DG, has some pretty good advice about writing things down. I did and as I was struggling, gave them my notes, and they read them (not while I was there) but I felt a lot better for someone else knowing.

Take care, am thinking of you

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naswm · 07/07/2008 20:53

thanks, I will take my journal

as for what do I want, UR had it right, I want a crisis point of contact

not that I think I will get it, mind

I am down your way next week PB - coffee?

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UnderRated · 07/07/2008 20:56

DG, I totally agree - it can be very helpful to have an idea of what you want or need. Then you have something to discuss and negotiate and afterwards, it gives you an idea of how productive the meeting has been. It also makes it clear to the team what it is that you think you need and will make them think about what they are able to offer and what they should offer.

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naswm · 07/07/2008 20:58

yes UR

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UnderRated · 07/07/2008 20:59

I sounded really bossy

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naswm · 07/07/2008 21:00

lol bossy is good, what you doing tomorrow morning UR

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DumbledoresGirl · 07/07/2008 21:01

No she is just agreeing with you Underrated! I have just had the same misunderstanding with naswm on msn.

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naswm · 07/07/2008 21:03

pmsl of course I was agreeing with you - I am hardly going to disagree with you two lol

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greenelizabeth · 07/07/2008 21:04

ARen't they obliged to keep everything you say secret?! You have not tried to harm your children? They would not go to your boss and say, guess what? naswm self-harmed in 2002 you know...

BUT, would it be possible to go to the counselling under an assumed name???? Just to reassure you?

DumbledoresGirl · 07/07/2008 21:04

better not

loads of people have said I have given good advice. (well...2)

pinkbubble · 07/07/2008 21:06

Ok, when?

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naswm · 07/07/2008 21:06

obliuged to keep confidential unless I or my childrean are at risk

I have never hardmed my children

I SH regularly () but also work for the NHS so a bit closae to home

I use my maiden name, but still diffitult

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pinkbubble · 07/07/2008 21:09

Have just sent you a message on MSN!

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naswm · 07/07/2008 21:10

not got it

prob cos I deleted you (and everyone) months ago in a wild moment

re add me and I will accept you

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smurfgirl · 07/07/2008 21:13

naswm - no kids but I self harm and work for the NHS in a clinical role and have not been sectioned yet - never been an issue

Tell the whole truth, good luck

UnderRated · 07/07/2008 21:13

I'm glad you weren't upset by my bossiness. It's so easy to sit and advise. If only I practised what I preach

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naswm · 07/07/2008 21:14

even suicdal?

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greenelizabeth · 07/07/2008 21:14

It could be embarrassing for you if your bosses found out, BUT I don't think they could actually DO anything.

Also, picture this, a professional counseller, presumably a sympathetic kind of person, gets to the end of her session and then gossips about you to people she thinks may know you.

I realise it's not impossible, but it's also HIGHLY unlikely. I think the counseller would lose his/her job over it.

pinkbubble · 07/07/2008 21:22

I don't know how to re add!

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naswm · 07/07/2008 21:22

I am beyond counselling IYKWIM

pinkbubnble, can you re add me as a new contacty to your msn and I will re accept you

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smurfgirl · 07/07/2008 21:24

Um. I have talked around it and done very dodgy self harm that could have had long reaching effects on me.

Occupational health know, my bosses don't

You are not beyond counselling!

TheMadHouse · 07/07/2008 21:24

I was brutally honost with at mine. I had promised DH that I would.

I got a crisis phone number and also CBT and they agreed that my children were not in danger, even though I was suicidal.

I have just got a copy of my notes today (for work) and they are quite reveling, talk about my need for help and to be treated, but also my appearence and language etc.

I hope you get what you need

Dior · 07/07/2008 21:25

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naswm · 07/07/2008 21:25

I saw my notes - makes eye contact and v coherent - like that makes everytring ok?

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greenelizabeth · 07/07/2008 21:29

That's good. They recognise that you are sane and articulate, but also that you are in pain or struggling to cope.

Hopefully they can help you find another release or outlet. I apologise if I've said something ignorant as I don't know anything about self-harm. But I could do with a few sessions with a counsellor myself. I have things I can't let go. Things I still feel angry about. I think it's admirable and pro-active to go to counselling.