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Didn't want to wake up

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Springtime54 · 05/04/2026 07:37

Now I have, it's the immediate panic and dread. Paralysed to do anything. The absolute struggle of getting through another day. I cant do another 40 - 50 years, I just can't.

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clover888 · 05/04/2026 11:22

Springtime54 · 05/04/2026 09:44

I haven't opened the curtains much but it looks sort of rainy and a bit sunny. I cant get up yet, I dont feel physically able to.

Take your time OP. I see that you work so you could open the window. this is great. But yes take your time.

Someone suggested a cup of tea later, also a good idea. Sending you lots of love

Tillow4ever · 05/04/2026 11:28

Springtime54 · 05/04/2026 10:32

I just really want this to be over now.

How long have you been feeling this way? Have you spoken to anyone about it at all? You mentioned work - do you have any colleagues that you are friendly with that maybe you could text just to have someone to chat to (you absolutely don’t need to tell them how you are feeling so you don’t share your medical information, but sure if you messaged someone and said Happy Easter and ask if they have any plans today, they would talk to you).

Do you have any family that you can talk to, or that you could explain to them how you are feeling?

If if would help you, would you like to talk to us on here about what’s going on, how you feel, etc. No pressure, but if you think it would help there may be other people on here who have gone through similar that can talk about what’s helped them, or if it’s situation that feels hopeless, maybe we can help you talk it through and look for solutions.

On the face of it, it sounds like you could be in a very deep depression. Have you ever spoken to a medical professional about this? It could be that talking therapy might help you, maybe CBT, maybe medication - there’s probably other things that can help too. When we are in a deep depression, we need help getting out. It’s not something that we can just “cheer up” from or “fake it til you make it” - and that’s not anything to be ashamed of. Sadly there’s no quick fix, but there is hope and help available if you’re prepared to give it a go.

You might think you have no-one, but I promise you there’s at least one person out there that would miss you if you weren’t here. I know when I’ve been depressed I’ve assumed I have no real friends, that I’m just a burden, they’d be better without me and no-one would notice if I’m gone. Antidepressants helped me. B12 injections also helped me (my depression turned out to be a symptom of a B12 deficiency). Once I was feeling better I realised my brain was working to keep me in that depressive state - and it’s likely yours is too. It’s definitely worth getting an urgent doctors appointment (if you can call 111 you can likely get one today even) and the dr will be able to arrange for any tests needed, prescribe you anti depressants (be aware that these can take a couple of weeks to start working), get you on waiting lists for therapy etc.

You said that you work - does your employer offer an employer assistance program? If they do, you can likely access therapy through that a lot faster. If you work in anything to do with the Grocery trade, look up GroceryAid - you can access free therapy through that. As an aside, you won’t be asked to prove that you work for a company in the Grocery trade… so should you contact them and say you work for Tesco and want to access the counselling, you should be able to do that without having to prove it (caveat - for the couples therapy you do have to prove it, but that doesn’t sound like it applies here, and if you look at their other services, you would have to prove you work for someone in the grocery sector if you bc applied for the financial help - but everything else is available to anyone who claims to be working for an eligible company).

Sorry for going on, and please ignore anything not relevant!

Springtime54 · 05/04/2026 12:23

cloudtreecarpet · 05/04/2026 11:15

What are you doing now, OP? Have you managed to get up now? Made a cup of tea?
Take it a little bit at a time.

Do you know what it is that's causing you to feel like this?

I'm in bed. I've told a family member how I feel and they replied about a favour I said I'd do for them. Just shows doesn't it. I've told them how desperate I feel.

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Tillow4ever · 05/04/2026 12:58

Springtime54 · 05/04/2026 12:23

I'm in bed. I've told a family member how I feel and they replied about a favour I said I'd do for them. Just shows doesn't it. I've told them how desperate I feel.

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I’m sorry they replied that way. I’d like to hope that their thought process was to encourage you to get your and crack on which is thoughtless but at least not being deliberately an arsehole.

Is there something you’d like to do today? Even if that’s a day doing absolutely nothing? The laundry can wait till tomorrow. If you want to lie in bed all day, do it! If you’d like to go for a walk and not do any household chores, go for it. A tv show you’ve liked the look of but never had time - sit and watch it for hours! Do you have a hobby that would be nice to do?

Something that’s just for you and no-one else is always a good bit of self care.

Springtime54 · 05/04/2026 13:02

Tillow4ever · 05/04/2026 12:58

I’m sorry they replied that way. I’d like to hope that their thought process was to encourage you to get your and crack on which is thoughtless but at least not being deliberately an arsehole.

Is there something you’d like to do today? Even if that’s a day doing absolutely nothing? The laundry can wait till tomorrow. If you want to lie in bed all day, do it! If you’d like to go for a walk and not do any household chores, go for it. A tv show you’ve liked the look of but never had time - sit and watch it for hours! Do you have a hobby that would be nice to do?

Something that’s just for you and no-one else is always a good bit of self care.

I'm just going to stay in bed. I dont feel like I can do anything else. I'm hoping to sleep as much as possible as it means I get a bit of an escape. But yes, very sad that I've told a family member how I feel and received no support back. I regret even telling them. Its made me feel worse that it isnt their first thought to offer to come and be with me so that I'm not alone.

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Tillow4ever · 05/04/2026 13:10

Springtime54 · 05/04/2026 13:02

I'm just going to stay in bed. I dont feel like I can do anything else. I'm hoping to sleep as much as possible as it means I get a bit of an escape. But yes, very sad that I've told a family member how I feel and received no support back. I regret even telling them. Its made me feel worse that it isnt their first thought to offer to come and be with me so that I'm not alone.

Well screw them! You didn’t deserve that at all. I hope you enjoy your lazy day and that a bit of rest helps you to feel a bit better. I still think it’s worth booking a gp appointment, but one step at a time - get through today first!

Springtime54 · 05/04/2026 13:20

Tillow4ever · 05/04/2026 13:10

Well screw them! You didn’t deserve that at all. I hope you enjoy your lazy day and that a bit of rest helps you to feel a bit better. I still think it’s worth booking a gp appointment, but one step at a time - get through today first!

I dont think the gp can help. I'm already on two different types of antidepressants and ive tried 8 others over 25 years. Many different NHS and private psychiatrists. Years of different types of NHS and private therapy too. Thousands of pounds wasted. I think i just cant be helped. I want to disappear.

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Tillow4ever · 05/04/2026 13:52

Springtime54 · 05/04/2026 13:20

I dont think the gp can help. I'm already on two different types of antidepressants and ive tried 8 others over 25 years. Many different NHS and private psychiatrists. Years of different types of NHS and private therapy too. Thousands of pounds wasted. I think i just cant be helped. I want to disappear.

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I’m really sorry to hear that. I wonder if it’s worth looking into any trials being run by companies into new treatments? I’m sure there must be some for people whose brains don’t respond to traditional treatments.

I know it’s not real, but the show does base its medical stuff on real life cases - in Grey’s Anatomy there was a case where a woman was feeling how it sounds you feel. They tried some sort of electric shock therapy (I can’t remember the exact details) and it basically “reset” her brain - the depression was gone!

Tillow4ever · 05/04/2026 15:21

How are you doing now @Springtime54? Did you manage to get any sleep (I hope my tagging you doesn’t wake you)?

Springtime54 · 05/04/2026 16:14

Tillow4ever · 05/04/2026 15:21

How are you doing now @Springtime54? Did you manage to get any sleep (I hope my tagging you doesn’t wake you)?

Yeah been asleep, just woke up. No you didnt wake me thank you. You've been very kind.

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Tillow4ever · 05/04/2026 16:16

Do you feel any better at all? It’s ok if you don’t.

Springtime54 · 05/04/2026 16:27

Tillow4ever · 05/04/2026 16:16

Do you feel any better at all? It’s ok if you don’t.

No. I feel horrendous.

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Springtime54 · 05/04/2026 16:28

Tillow4ever · 05/04/2026 13:52

I’m really sorry to hear that. I wonder if it’s worth looking into any trials being run by companies into new treatments? I’m sure there must be some for people whose brains don’t respond to traditional treatments.

I know it’s not real, but the show does base its medical stuff on real life cases - in Grey’s Anatomy there was a case where a woman was feeling how it sounds you feel. They tried some sort of electric shock therapy (I can’t remember the exact details) and it basically “reset” her brain - the depression was gone!

Yeah its electroconvulsive therapy. I've been meaning to ask my psychiatrist about it.

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Sirzy · 05/04/2026 17:04

Have you managed to have something to drink and eat tosay?

Springtime54 · 05/04/2026 17:11

Sirzy · 05/04/2026 17:04

Have you managed to have something to drink and eat tosay?

Yeah I ate a whole easter egg and pizza and chips. I have really big chronic problems with comfort eating. Have been overweight for years. Tried everything. Had the jabs but got pancreatitis so had to stop them. Its a big source of unhappiness in my life.

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Springtime54 · 05/04/2026 17:22

All I've thought about all day is not wanting to be here. And telling a close relative and them not caring has just cemented it to be honest.

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cafenoirbiscuit · 05/04/2026 17:35

Advertising and social media makes it look like families are the best things but actually there are many of us without supportive families. We are here with you though, on here. You’re not alone. Sending love x

Hogwartsian · 05/04/2026 19:43

Hey. I hear you. Could you open the curtains and then get straight back into bed? Or go and curl up on the sofa instead of your bed. It might make you feel like you've done something. I often feel how you describe, and I just try to do teeny tiny steps. Like moving to a different room, or getting a drink, or lighting a candle.

Snowie99 · 05/04/2026 19:56

OP, I’ve felt like you so many times but have got through the years by taking one day and one step at a time with medical help . I’m now 64. If ifI can do it, you can too 💐🤗. Have you got help from your GP?

Shaveitall · 05/04/2026 20:09

I’m so sorry you are suffering like this OP. It is good that you have the support of a psychiatrist. When are you due to see them next? Maybe you could ask to bring the appointment forward if it is a while away.
I know you have tried a number of AD but have they suggested adding a low dose antipsychotic as that can improve the efficacy of ADs?
You really don’t sound like you are fit for work on Tuesday so could you take some sick leave if that might help you rest and recover a bit.
Dont despair, things can improve. You need to be kind to yourself and not expect too much of yourself at the moment. Give yourself credit for everything you can achieve, however small it may seem. 💐

Tillow4ever · 05/04/2026 20:56

Sorry that your day didn’t improve. Your family member was heartless replying the way they did. Remember that it says more about them and their self worth than it does about you.

I hope you can get some support in trying new treatments. I know you probably don’t want to keep trying things that don’t work - but hopefully there’s something just around the corner for you.

Shaveitall · 05/04/2026 21:32

How are you feeling now OP?

Springtime54 · 05/04/2026 23:28

Shaveitall · 05/04/2026 21:32

How are you feeling now OP?

Awful. I feel so sad that I've told a close relative I dont want to be here anymore and theyve not even messaged this evening to ask how I am. People on mumsnet have been kinder than my actual family.

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Springtime54 · 05/04/2026 23:29

Shaveitall · 05/04/2026 20:09

I’m so sorry you are suffering like this OP. It is good that you have the support of a psychiatrist. When are you due to see them next? Maybe you could ask to bring the appointment forward if it is a while away.
I know you have tried a number of AD but have they suggested adding a low dose antipsychotic as that can improve the efficacy of ADs?
You really don’t sound like you are fit for work on Tuesday so could you take some sick leave if that might help you rest and recover a bit.
Dont despair, things can improve. You need to be kind to yourself and not expect too much of yourself at the moment. Give yourself credit for everything you can achieve, however small it may seem. 💐

I can't take any sick leave unfortunately or my work will give me a verbal warning.

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Shaveitall · 05/04/2026 23:50

Springtime54 · 05/04/2026 23:28

Awful. I feel so sad that I've told a close relative I dont want to be here anymore and theyve not even messaged this evening to ask how I am. People on mumsnet have been kinder than my actual family.

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As a PP said, that says more about them than it does about you. I’ve got a toxic family too and I’ve finally gone NC after decades of ignoring their behaviour and hoping that they would treat me better. They will never change so you might find more peace of mind if you can accept that and don’t let them have the power to upset you. Easier said than done, I know.