Can someone please talk to me?

[Andoutcomethewolves]

I'm an absolute mess. My husband has left me, I've lost my job and all I can think about is suicide. I just don't want to be here anymore but I know it'd hurt my parents

Things always seem darkest before the dawn.

Have you got any plans for today to get you out of the house 💐

Phone the Samaritans, that's what they are there for. Please, speak to someone in real life. Tell your parents how low you are feeling.

https://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan/

There's always help available

It’s never the right answer. Please stay x

OP, given the hour there's probably no one in real life awake to talk to but can you call any of these

call Samaritans on 116 123 (UK-wide)
text SHOUT to 85258 (UK-wide)
call C.A.L.L. on 0800 132 737 (Wales only)

I'm so sorry. It is hard. Massive unmumsnetty hugs.

Call 116 123, they are lovely. You can talk to someone for as long as you need. They genuinely care and will be able to advise on your specific situation if they can. Sometimes just having someone to talk to is enough. Best wishes. You are never alone.

Everything is overwhelming right now so don't make any rash decisions. Do you have friends you can speak to, or call 111 or the Samaritans. Take one day, one hour, one minute at a time. Trust that things will get better.

Please do pick up the phone. There is someone to talk to.

There will be better days than this one xx

You are more than your job and your husband. To be blunt - it will be sad sad situation to harm yourself in any shape or form for ANYONE - let alone for a man who simply doesn’t care about you.

A lot can happen in a short amount of time. In a few months from now, you could have an even better job and meet a new love interest etc. Always think positive!

Hi OP,
I'm sorry you are going through this.
Do you want to tell us anymore about you?
I'm glad you have your parents. Can you speak to them about how you are feeling? Could you stay with them for a few days and let them look after you?

Here to say what others have said. I have a friend who was in your situation. Now volunteers for the Samaritans. People will listen. They care and understand. My friend was rock bottom but now has a nice life with friends and family. You are right that your parents would be hurt. They will be there for you too. Contact the Samaritans now and get out in the fresh air when it’s light. Do something normal, such as going to the supermarket. Then chat to your parents. Your despair will last but your suicidal thoughts will pass. You’re worth more to lots of people.

Please know you are wanted. Things won’t always feel this painful. Just get through the next few minutes, and then a few minutes more.
Seconding chatting to your parents too.

Well done for reaching out and posting here. The part of you that did that wants to stay alive.
At the moment you are overwhelmed and in shock, so your brain cannot think rationally. Try to breathe through your suicidal thoughts and know they and the waves of pain and panic are temporary. Things can and will get better, but right now you need to focus on survival. Eat, drink, sleep. Do things that comfort you. Phone a helpline. Are you able to stay at your parents'/with friends?
You will get through this. You will feel better. HUGS.

Please don’t act on it. Things might feel very bad right now but give it time. Please see your GP as soon as you can.

I’ve been where you are OP and I promise it does get better. Just hold on. A fresh start can be yours if you do.

This. Your life is worth so much more. Come on girl don't do it.

I know things seem bad. I have had the worst second half of 2024. I've honestly never been one for "new year new start" but I cannot wait to see the back of this year and start a new one after all the stress and heartache of the last six months.

Things will look brighter soon. You have people who love you. You have people who need you. If DH was able to leave you, then you don't need him. And you will find another job.

Pick up the phone and call your parents. Text a friend. Private message me if you feel like you can't talk to others. But reach out to someone. You will get through this rubbish. Promise.

Hi Andoutcomethewolves,

We're sorry you're going through such a difficult time. We can see you're already getting some good support on this thread from other Mumsnetters, but we just wanted to add a few links which might be of help.

Here's a link to our general Mental Health webguide which lists lots of organisations which can provide some real life support.

If you're feeling really low, please call the Samaritans on 116 123. You can also go to the Samaritans website, or email them on [email protected].

If you find texting easier, please take a look at Shout's website. Shout 85258 is a free, confidential, anonymous text support service. Its trained volunteers are available all hours of the day and night to listen and support you to get to a calmer and safe place.

Here too is a link to Mind's support page which has tips for everyday living which can help when you're feeling overwhelmed.

We hope things start getting a bit easier for you soon.

Op, please don't look for a permanent resolution to a very temporary problem. Whilst you may feel like you are the only person going through this so many others will be going through a relationship breakdown too and like you, they will come out the other side and go on to have a different life with lots of possibilities. This too shall pass.

OP this is your turning point, I've been here too. It's a truly awful thing to go through but things WILL get better, and one day you'll look book on this as the trigger for creating your new you. PP was right that you're so much more than your partner and your job. You had a past before them and you'll have a future after. Just hold tight and fight hour by hour, minute by minute, as hard as you can. Put your favourite mindless comedy on in the background, write down your thought processes, drink a hot cup of tea. Please call someone IRL when you feel able - don't worry about waking them up or putting them out. You're not well at the moment and you need their help. Even if it's just the GP, call and be brutally honest about how you're feeling. I'm sending the biggest un-mumsnetty hugs and hoping you get the help you need asap x

First sentence of this OP

I was in your situation EXACTLY this time 20 years ago - Dec 2004

By the Spring of 2010 I was EXTREMELY happy

it was worth the wait ❤️❤️❤️❤️

Your life right now is exceptionally tough, but it won't always feel this way - the grey can lift and the sun can come out again for you, but you need RL support and more time to get there. Please please please ring the Samaritans. Trust me, suicide just shifts the pain to those who love you. Please know that you're family will support you if you open up to them. Big virtual hug from me xx

Him leaving will eventually be seen as a good thing! Now you can focus on you and the world is your oyster. I know it feels like the very worst thing right now but in 5 years time, I promise, you'll be glad!

Please contact a professional or speak to a friend to get through these dark moments. It can only get better

This may feel like the worst ever but in time, you’ll be pleased you’re free of him and you will start living and living again one day. Don’t get upset, get planning a divorce and get ducks in a row.

How are you @Andoutcomethewolves sending good thoughts. One day at a time.