i want to die. i am a crap mum

[newmummy27]

i am sitting here with tables in my hand, i really wnt to die. please help

hey again newmummy. I agree about getting out to some groups. Our HVs here runa new mums group precisely for all the reasons mentioned here. Is there anything similar where you are?

Groups are difficult, and it can take a lot to actually go, but the more you go the better it gets. I think if you only pop in occasionally you'll find it harder; if the other mums (the majority of whom will be feeling as you are to some extent) see someone every week, they are more likey to talk to you. I met some lovely women when I had my DS 6 years ago and we are still in touch, even though I don't see them much as I moved away.

I can relate to what's been said about DPs as well. Mine always bugs the hell out of me when I'm at my lowest. I get in such a fug and can't do much around the house, then he swoops in and does it all, and makes me feel inadequate (not intentionally, I know it's all in my head) for the fact that I'm rubbish. He is a real sweetie and even though he tells me he loves me, when I'm not loving myself I struggle to believe him.

I'm glad you are still talking to us btw.

I know it can be really difficult to get going at the groups, everyone seems to know each other already, but if it's something like a music and movement group or an art club (perhaps a bit young for that one), then you're all sitting together in a group rather than just milling around and it's easier. Something like baby massage would be good, I met a really great group of people there. Just thought at the time that people who would go in for that would be more sensitive and sympathetic (a stereotypical idea, but it was true). Agree that it's good to go every week because it takes a while to form relationships.

Hi newmummy, you know you've lowered that steel wall a bit just by talking on here all you need to do us keep talking and hopefully email a couple of mums here too. Then you can chat on the phone, meet for coffee or tea, and before you know it that horrid wall is gone and you've got friends

Keep talking xxxxx

Hi newmummy, you know you've lowered that steel wall a bit just by talking on here all you need to do us keep talking and hopefully email a couple of mums here too. Then you can chat on the phone, meet for coffee or tea, and before you know it that horrid wall is gone and you've got friends

Keep talking xxxxx

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