money worries and overweight - could do with a chat

[LittleCheese]

Been to see my GP today, she thinks im suffering with depression (not the pn sort)
One of my main isues is my weight/figure/body I am really not happy with this but everytime I think about it or any other problems I want to eat to make me feel better, then feel rubbish for eating.
GP has sent me away to decide if I ant AD or counciling or both I just feel confused.
Will AD make me gain weight as this really wouldnt help i dont think.
I know diet and exercise are the way forward for me however I drasticly changed my eating habits 6 weeks ago added much more fuit and veg cut out all takeaways and other junk started exercising at least 5 times a week and havnt lost a single pound can not bloody believe it

Also cant believe how much i have rambled on this post, i prob havnt made any sense, congrats if you have read all this any replies welcome

I also have a longing for another baby, but if i am suffering with depression its prob not the best time to bring another life into the world is it?

Hi don't know if your still on but if you are I'll chat! I have practically the same problem although I haven't been diagnosed as depressed as I am very clever at hiding it!

hiya im up for a cht im not feeling so fab either

Ok I know this sounds like an advert but it isn't it's from personal experience. Join your local slimming world group they are very welcoming and non-judgemental and they have a meeting after weigh in called image therapy and it truly is, You have a good laugh, meet new people and gain confidence as the pounds come off it's the best thing i ever did even better than CBT which I had for anxiety/depression and agrophobia.

Hi Stais86, I was only diagnosed yesterday have been feeling this way for about 18 months now but yesterday finaly decided to do something about it as my mood was having such an impact on all my rlationships. Seeing Gp again next week to sort out ad's and some counciling I just hope it works so sick of feeling like this I hate myself and can not think of one good thing about me surely that cant be right. How are you feeling today?

ledodgy
would join a slimming club or exercise class but money is so so tight at the minute I really cant afford. Thanks for suggestion though

LC sorry to ask a personal question but what contraception do you use??? I only ask as my friend had the pill injection (or implant I cant remember now but will find out if you need me to). She couldn't lose weight no matter what she did. She also didn't have a period for 12 months after the contraception finished. As soon as she had a period the weight fell off her. The hormones the contraception was pumping into her were so strong that she pilled on the weight and could not lose it. She is not a slim jim?..

I think you do need some counselling though as you do seem very down. If it is all encompassing then AD may help but I would try counselling first if you can?

That should read she is now a slim jim

Little Cheese - I have also suffered/suffer from poor body image and weight problems. Although this wasn't the sole reason for getting depressed/anxiety after DS it didn't help (I put on a lot of weight when he was born). I was on ADs for 9 months and had counselling for family issues. It was the best thing I did. Although I still have 'fat' days it dosen't get to me as much and I have lost some weight, partly coz I stopped worrying about it so much! I feel so much better about myself and life in general. I now enjoy being a Mum and enjoy wearing nice clothes again. I find it hard to motivate myself to exercise but getting out for brisk walks at the weekend helps. I hope this helps

ladylumps, i was on the contraceptive injection but stopped a while ago as i thought it may be a factor, my periods took a while to return but now have and still no luck in losing weight

thanks rose, hopefully things will get better for me...cant see me feeling much worse than i do right now any way, ive been working this morning then come home and toyally flown off the handle with dh over nothing at all (we have weekend to our selves as dd is away with my mum and hes invited friends over this afternoon) i know its irational but i stormed out of the house friends came round and now they have all gone to the pub so ive come home, dh text m over and over telling me to come home and go out with them all but i just couldnt i dont know what is wrong with me i know in my own head that im being pathetic...o god help

sorry should read lardylumps*

Deal with the depression first, feel better generally, then you can tackle the rest. From personal experience, AD's help deal with the chemical imbalance, but it's the counselling that helps you deal with the issues and gives you the tools to cope with days when things aren't so easy. Without those, you may find yourself reaching for the biscuits instead and undoing any weight loss, which would mean back to square one physically and mentally.

Stress also makes you produce more cortisol which makes your body store fat, especially round the stomach, so you may find that AD's help the weight loss, not hinder it!

It could still be the injection as I say my friend didn't lose weight for 12 months after it wore off....

I had a similar situation. I used to have an eating disorder when I was younger (if I am honest I still had it when I got pg with dd). I came to realise, after a lot of counselling, that the problem wasn?t really my weight or the way i looked but that I had lost control of my life and by controlling what I ate (or as it happened what I didn't eat) I somehow got a shred of control back...

Could your image problems stem from something deeper??

this has been suggested and i have tried to think what it could be but i really cant put my finger on anything. I have never had an eating disorder. I have always been on the larger side but at the moment I look at myself and just feel sick im not even that massive, i can look at girls bigger than me and think they look lovely its just me. All my friends are slim and im sick of being fat yet when i feel so upset about it all i want to do is eat something yummy its horrible. I want to buy some nice clothes and feel good about myself. All i wear now is a rotation of the same 3 t-shirts and 2 pairs of jeans I cant bring myself to go shopping as it just upsets me that everything i try on looks horrid