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Please help, in A&E after doing something stupid

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whywouldshewantme · 07/12/2023 18:34

Lying on a trolley feeling stupid and very sleepy. They said I’m to wait and see a doctor. 3 hours ish. Stupid stupid knee jerk reaction to something. I haven’t told anyone.

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whywouldshewantme · 07/12/2023 18:35

I thought best friend fancied me and have been feeling ‘crush’ on her for few weeks. Asked her out tonight and she doesn’t like me that way. I hate myself. I’m so embarrassed and ashamed. why would she fancy me?

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whywouldshewantme · 07/12/2023 18:37

I feel so stupid and I’m scared I’m going to die now

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runningonberocca · 07/12/2023 18:38

You haven’t done anything stupid. Something happened that overwhelmed you and I’m sorry you felt that bad. I’m glad you are accessing the help you need - for both your physical and mental health. The A&E waits are terrible at the moment but you need and deserve to be there. Take care

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whywouldshewantme · 07/12/2023 18:38

I’ve got a thumping headache too. They asked if I’ve told family and I can’t they be angry.

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comedycentral · 07/12/2023 18:38

Do you have anyone in RL you could talk to? If you were my friend or family member I would come and wait with you in the hospital.

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whywouldshewantme · 07/12/2023 18:38

I’ve got a lovely CPN and she’ll be angry too

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whywouldshewantme · 07/12/2023 18:39

I don’t have anyone no

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whywouldshewantme · 07/12/2023 18:39

We have to sit next to each other in uni shes my best friend I’m so embarrassed

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ideallyno · 07/12/2023 18:40

Please don't beat yourself up over this! Take care of yourself first and foremost. These things happen, and I'm sure your friendship won't be ruined! X

runningonberocca · 07/12/2023 18:41

Just read your updates - no need to be ashamed for liking someone and telling them . You were honest.. so were they. It hurts like hell but a good friendship will survive this. I’ve had similar with a male best friend. We are still best friends- after a difficult patch.. and probably still will be into old age. Just focus on getting well now

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whywouldshewantme · 07/12/2023 18:44

I’ve never done this before I’ve had mental health problems for ueays and years I just wanted to make it all stop tonight

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ideallyno · 07/12/2023 18:47

OP, have you got anybody you can speak to? Confide in? You need support right now. X

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whywouldshewantme · 07/12/2023 18:48

I’ve only got family. My phones got no signal. Just WiFi.

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whywouldshewantme · 07/12/2023 18:49

Don’t want to tell family. I have one aunty they can tell. But I’m not phoning jer

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whywouldshewantme · 07/12/2023 18:51

My mums in a nursing home and my dad wouldn’t give a fuck and he’s abroad thousands miles away

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ideallyno · 07/12/2023 18:52

I'm so sorry. I know I'm a strangers to you, but I'm happy to listen. I'm here if you need somebody to talk to. It helps sometimes to get it off your chest.

Pancakefam · 07/12/2023 18:53

Your CPN won't be angry. Be honest with staff

NoSquirrels · 07/12/2023 18:55

Your CPN won’t be angry with you. Your best friend won’t hate you. Yrs, it’s a bit awkward but you’ll both get over that, I bet. Please try not to be ashamed, rejection is very hard and maybe something in your background means it was very triggering to be told she didn’t feel the same way, but it doesn’t mean you did anything wrong by expressing your feelings. You just accept she doesn’t feel the same and try to move on.

Get the help you need now. It’s good you recognised it was an overreaction and got yourself to A&E. You did good to do that.

petuniasandpetals · 07/12/2023 18:56

I'm glad you are in the right place. I have been rejected in love too. I think nearly everyone has!
Nothing to be ashamed of.
Keep yourself well and all will be fine - promise. X

TheRealProfessorYaffle · 07/12/2023 18:56

I've been on both sides of that situation. When I was the person who was being approached, I felt nothing but completely flattered that she had been attracted to me. I wanted just to be friends, she said fine, and that was all. It never felt awkward afterwards, and it gave me a warm feeling that someone had thought of me that way, even if I didn't. Regarding your CPN, I can almost guarantee that they won't be angry. Hang on in there. Things are always worse at night x

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whywouldshewantme · 07/12/2023 18:56

I’ve never felt that way for anyone before. I don’t like me very much and I really thought she did like me thay way she kept making jokes about it but she said tonight she was always only joking and she was really sorry she thought she let fme feel that way.

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whywouldshewantme · 07/12/2023 18:57

Thank you x my typings crap. My head feels like it’s in a vice so bloody sore

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CeciledeVolangesdeNouveau · 07/12/2023 18:57

I’m happy to talk too, but normally nurses and the other staff are also really friendly. There’ll be a chaplain once you’re admitted - ask to speak to them even if you aren’t Christian. Please don’t get cross with yourself OP and really try hard to focus on getting through the moment you’re in. Having a crush on someone else isn’t a crime, it’s sad for the person for whom it’s unrequited but your friendship can still work out. xxx take care

CeciledeVolangesdeNouveau · 07/12/2023 18:58

Also please ask the staff for pain meds, explaining about the headache. They’ll normally give pain meds even on a trolley and with some haste as well.

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whywouldshewantme · 07/12/2023 18:59

They’re not really talking they’ve put me on a trolley in corridors in front of nursing station and said someone will see me within 3-4 hours.

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