Feel so alone

[3kids1cat]

Feeling incredibly low, fed up of all the crap in my life, and nothing good ever happening. I'm at home alone with the kids all week while my partner works away, and I'm just not coping. All I seem to do is cry,and I feel like I've got no-one who cares whether I'm here or not.
My partner just thinks I'm miserable and I can hear him groan every time I ring him and I'm upset. My Mum has enough stress in her life, I ring her almost every night lately in tears, but she just says to be strong and have a cup of tea. I'm so lonely, I just want someone to hold me and tell me things will be fine, but instead its just me. Don't know how to stop feeling like this.

Hi 3kids. A year ago I was feeling just like you. I discovered Mumsnet and it helped me to realise I had PND.

I then found the guts to my GP who prescribed anti-depressents. I was terrified about taking them but am SO glad I did.

I had no serious side effects but look under the threads about anti-depressants (there are loads) and see what other people have experienced.

In two weeks I was unrecognisable and only needed to take the tablets for 6 months (a fact which FREAKED me to begin with.)

Sending you big hugs x

I think if you go the GP and explain you think you have PND and would prefer cognitive therapy, that might help.
No drugs involved, just talking and trying to analyse the source of your anxiety
Another thing-( tell me if I am sounding bossy!)get out of the house at least once a day.
There are usually some activites you can do where a creche is avaliable an exercise class or stiches in time or the like?

Hey, lovely. We're all here to help you. You ca tell a lot about a person by the way they post, and you sound like a grand woman. You're a tired, lonely, depressed woman, but these things needn't be permanent. You're still grand.

What's permanent is who you are inside, when you're not tired, lonely and depressed.

Whether you chose the anti-depressant route is your choice. If you feel you need the extra help at the moment, then I would wholeheartedly endorse it.

It depends whether your rut is wide and shallow, or short and deep. Only you can truly know that.

You say that nothing good ever happens. But they do happen. They're happening all around you, love. You just can't see them right now.

Tomorrow, write down on a sheet of paper something good that you want to happen. Nothing ambitious like winning the lottery, but something simple.

Then think of that good thing and imagine how possible it could be. Remember, people can move mountains. People can change things. You can change things. But it has to start with you.

When I was in my twenties, I believed that we were victims of circumstance. Now I'm in my forties, I don't believe that anymore. Your world is defined by the way you think and feel about it. If you expect it to be shite, it will be.

So come on, girl! Sharpen that pencil, get that pristine sheet of new, shiny paper, and start writing down some of the things you want from your life.

i have nothing clever to add, but wanted to offer you a virtual hug, and reiterate (had to check the spelling of that before desiderata got me) that raising 3 small children is a tough job.

agree you should see your gp, but tell them also you don't just want to take tablets if they suggest it. there's so much more out there they can do for you.

you are worth it.

Thanks ladies, I did go for a walk today and the exercise and sunshine did make me feel a bit better, and reading your last few posts have helped even more.
I know things will get better, because I am determined to have a good life and give my kids one too. Some days it just seems totally unreachable, and I give up completely. But I'll keep going, and keep posting on here. I will go to the doctors and hopefully they will pass me on to someone who I can talk to, to try and help me deal with what goes on in my head.
Thanks again, here's hoping for a better tommorrow.

Oi, miss, I was correcting my own spelling, not yours

Well, 3kids1cat ... well done. It was a lovely day today, and I hope you get the help you need.

Can I suggest something that might seem weird but, apart from close family, has been the biggest help to me being a mum? Have you ever been to any of the churches in your area? Obviously don't know your religious views (and no church is going to care, they'll just be too pleased to see you!), but what my church does offer is a massive sense of community, people who will really go out of their way to help you, and loads of support for families (parents and toddlers etc - I run mine now).

This lack of family, friends and community support seems one of the most awful things about our society today, and certainly my experience of church is that it goes some way to combat that. Just food for thought!

Good luck ((((((((hug))))))))))

Hi 3kids and the cat - how are you today? It's a lovely day here, in fact it's warmer outside than in!
Ibblewob makes a good suggestion - I am the last person to go to church but I know they do foster a great sense of community and are a great help to lots of people, without being churchy. Your local M&T is prob. run by a church, and I know they are difficult to go to, to start with, but if you let the organiser know that you are on your own, they will help.

Dear 3kids1cat reading through your posts you described a lot of the feelings that I have been having recently. Feelings of anxiety, being overwhelmed and unable to cope. My GP has prescribed me anti depressants. I am on day 11 today and already feeling so much better. Please seek help from your GP.

Being a mum is very stressful. Especially when your shouldering most of the responsiblity on your own. Constantly thinking of everyone elses needs means it's easy to forget that you matter too.

hug x