Who's up for an experiment?!

[9to5jingles]

So severely depressed.
I had 3 panic attacks yesterday although no one noticed 1 today
Not spoken more than 10 word since yesterday husband not noticed only 6 yo noticed.
No phone calls or msg I could drop dead and barely a soul would care I'm betting at least 7 days until the husband notices and comments?

I know exactly how you feel!

Have you told him how you're feeling?????? And that you've had these attacks. Does he know what one looks like???? I don't want to sound awful, but sometimes people need telling rather than being expected to notice. He may not have know about the panic attacks, but he should have at least noticed you've not spoken more than 10 words amd brought that up. But are you really willing to wait until he does before bringing it up????

That must feel really hurtful. If you know you are severely depressed though, does he? Is he aware you are having panic attacks? You need to seek help if you haven’t already and if you can’t talk to him about this please talk to someone you trust and see your GP. My six year old is way more perceptive than anyone else in the house too! I hope you have a better day tomorrow. I have been where you are and it honestly did help me to ask for help which I am usually rubbish at.

This is not going to improve your mental health. Is your husband uninterested or obtuse?

I’m sorry you’re feeling that way OP but I’m gonna level with you - passive aggressive sulking and self pity aren’t going to change anything. If you want your husband to notice and help you then bloody well tell him!

That really won't help your mental health.

Have you told him about your panic attacks? Is this a new thing?

If you have support (ie therapist, psychologist) then you need to talk to them about how to
communicate with your husband and how you’re feeling.

if you don’t, you need to sort this for the sake
of your son if you’re not able to do it for yourself.

You need to take responsibility for your mental health rather than wait to get noticed.

im sorry you’re struggling. Make a call
to your GP and talk to your partner. Don’t suffer in silence.

Rang him a few times today's hes very busy but with a heavy sigh he's agreed to talk to me. Aren't i a lucky girl honestly not sure where I've gone wrong in life to deserve the absolute shit I get
I'm. In tears daily no one cares wish I could fall asleep and never wake up

In my experience of mental health noone will 'notice' nor is it someone else's responsibility. You have to, despite having zero self care going on emotionally, find your own reserve and do the impossible to get help.

I hope you find a way.

OP please dont put this on your child,"only my child noticed" Dont play games like this.You need some help and support and the best place for that to begin is with your GP, Make the call,get the support you need.

First off I'm sorry you're having problems. Are you having any therapy? are the panic attacks new? s your DH at work?

Rang him a few times today's hes very busy but with a heavy sigh he's agreed to talk to me.

because he has to work, he has to earn money and his employer may not think he should be spending time on the phone. It is quite exhausting living with someone with depression, really draining. Is he getting any support?

Also don't play games with your child.

You need tosee your GP. Urgently,

I'm not playing games with my child fuck off with those suggestions. I'm working too. Gp waste of time can't ever get in.
I'll ask mumsnet to zap this thread anyway

OP with the greatest of respect you have got to get a grip.

You have a young son who, you probably won’t realise, WILL be picking up on this, and as a result will nay have a chance of suffering without saying anything himself when that’s the example set.

If I was your DH I really wouldn’t be too inclined to offer support with such a catastrophising and self pitying attitude. I have lived with someone like that and I can tell you it’s exhausting when you’re constantly told you don’t give a shit about them simply because you’re not psychic. Had they sought my help in a more grown up way I wouldn’t have suffered myself trying to help them.

Try your GP again.

I don’t think you realise the heaviness caring for someone with acute depression is, your DH can’t do it all on his own you need to step up and get support

Please from an internet stranger - speak to someone, Samaritans, iTalk, anyone. Take your husband out of the picture for a moment. You need help, support and a plan in place.

And I have been where you are now - the wishing to fall asleep forever, feeling like no one notices or cares - they do but it's rare that they know how to express it or help you. You deserve so much more and you deserve happiness.

I've been trying to get help fpr years I've tried so hard I've really tried hard cbt, emdr, pills, trauma counselling I've done 8t all but it's not getting better I can't carry on I'm a. Robot.
Everythings done. My poor children deserve so much more than me and their father

Do you think you’d be happier as a single parent OP?

With respect, OP, do you have meds? have you been taking them? I get how everything can be really overwhelming but this "experiment" of yours isn't going to do anyone any good.

You need to keep trying the GP, if you're in the UK have you called the non-emergency medical line?

Does your children's father also have mental health issues? why don't they deserve this? If you think they are in danger, from him or yourself, you need to call the emergency services.

Sorry you are feeling so bad. It must be very difficult. Please keep trying to get help. I really hope things improve for you soon.

Had anything helped improve your mood in the past? Any of the meds or therapy? Exercise? Sunshine? Beach/forest/hills environment? Art or music?

Are you receiving any support? You can self refer for mental health support.