What in life do you struggle with…that others appear to breeze through with?

[TeaTimeTina]

For me it’s talking. I’m ok on a 1;1 but put me in a group and I seem to lose the ability to speak.

life in general!

My anxiety means, in a work discussion, I sound arsey and standoffish. It’s really bind panic. Managers asking me anything about how I do x,y or z results in me going blank and freezing. They must wonder what they pay me for.

socially I’m just like a rabbit in caught in the headlights. I just stand about looking like an idiot or garble something far too loud and unfunny.
<sigh>

Looking forward to a party.

Remembering!
I lie awake at night sometimes remembering tiny details about awkward moments or conversations I've had dating back to the 1980s, but can't remember names of authors, books, films, actors or important stuff I should know for work! It really annoys me when I've learnt an interesting fact and think, 'what a shame I won't remember that!' I go to retell it to a friend and it's gone! So annoying.
I struggle a bit with talking in groups too OP. Especially when surprised by a question. It's a horrible feeling.

Do you not speak at all when this happens, OP? Or does it come out wrong?

@LifeOfAnxiety I can so relate. Yes, blind panic and I can barely get a sensible sentence out.
@Veryverycalmnow I’m crap at retelling anything from something I’ve seen on the TV to relaying information at work. I often think there’s something wrong with my brain as it can’t remember stuff I need to remember.

I either freeze or mumble something that no one understands. In group settings I tend to get ignored but as I find it hard to speak, I’m not sure if I even get heard sometimes. I wish I wasn’t like this.

@coodawoodashooda I never get invited to much as I’m too quiet (inside my head I’m not though, got my own party going on).

Driving
Interviews
Having a conversation with more than 1 person at once, especially if we're walking
Endless social chit chat without alcohol. I can manage one hour tops and then I'm utterly drained.

There's a lot of things that people have said that is so true for me, too. I can't 'do' parties and my mind goes round and round recounting unpleasant moments from my past over and over again. Also, my anxiety means I can't drive.

Remembering stuff. I’m on Facebook groups which reminisce about my home city and high school and I think - how on Earth do you remember this stuff? My memory is shocking.

Presenting or speaking to a group. It’s key part of my job but I often feel like I’m speaking in tongues.

Anything that involves maths or logic. Flat pack instructions, maps, those 3D written puzzles where you have to work out the upside don mirror image of a shape - not a clue.

Oh and driving places I don’t know or long distances. Terrifying. Hi

Trusting men.

I have a friend who has been married three times. Widowed twice. I'm not saying I envy her choice of men but how does she manage to trust them so fast?

I simply can't do that. It would take me a decade to get to that level of trust.

Housework. I'm utterly clutterblind and haven't cleaned my floors in months.

Hosting!

My memory is dire so trying to remember and recall facts is just awful for me!

My relationship with food. I bing eat and eat my emotions.

Making friends. I’m rubbish at it I do have friends but everyone else seems to get on much better with each other - don’t think people like me much.

I’m trying to pluck up the courage to ask an ‘honest’ friend why I’m not very likeable!

I'm quite sensitive to being left out. Really struggle with it actually. I wish I could just brush it off but it does come back to bite me sometimes. A bit of a pang. My rational head says you can't get invited to everything and I really do know this.

You are exactly like me. I can't express my thoughts clearly so I make a fool of myself, I usually don't say anything to avoid being ridicule. I have no confidence whatsoever, I envy people who can talk about anything, I am really no good at conversation, general chitchat, I am out of my depth most of time even with friends. People see me as quiet, shy and certainly boring.

Making phone calls
Talking to people

Following written instructions so I really struggle with recipes etc

However, I’m extremely practical and pragmatic so can usually wing it

Making friends for me as well. People are friendly with me in passing but never seem to want to seek out my company. I don’t know what I do wrong. @Waterfallgirl I also need to ask someone honest what it is about me.

I relate to what has been said about not being able to express thoughts well. I also hate awkward silences so tend to fill gaps with inane stuff (probably when there is no need), so maybe I come across and weird AND boring.

Interviews
Dating/ romantic relationships.

Any executive functiony things.

So still cant keep on top of my house. Even basic routines.

Cooking healthily regularly. Its overwhemming.

I have a silly high IQ but it really is the basics I can't do!! And its quite debilitating.

I struggle too remembering any story Ive read or film. I dont know how it just goes. And people's faces. And where Ive parked my car....

Romantic relationships and written instructions. I find both utterly befuddled.