What in life do you struggle with…that others appear to breeze through with?

[TeaTimeTina]

For me it’s talking. I’m ok on a 1;1 but put me in a group and I seem to lose the ability to speak.

Walking in a group, I always end up at the back on my own looking a bit hanger on, not due to speed but politeness and not being pushy to be at the front. Does everyone else just power walk and push old ladies out the way to stay 'in' with the group?!

Admin. Opening mail is a MAJOR ISSUE. I accrue so much hassle and many fines and financial penulties for leaving things until the last possible minute to deal with. The. I have an ANGSTY whole day of opening everything and dealing with the things I have ignored and vow never to let it get that bad again....and the cycle continues. I believe I do have the inattentive type of ADHD.

Talking to people on the telephone. I've found it really difficult since lockdown because my GP surgery now needs everything to be done by phone. I used to be able to go to the surgery & make an appointment and speak face to face with a Dr. Now I just don't make appointments, even though I have a health condition that means I should be regularly seen. My psychiatrist wrote to the ĢP surgery asking if I could be seen face to face but my GP has just ignored it.

I also remember embarrassing conversations etc from years ago. Just tonight I was thinking of something that embarrassed me when I was a child, roughly 50 years ago. It still makes me want to run and hide.

Living with injustice. I just can't, it's horrible to see mistreatment whether it's people or animals. I couldn't hurt a fly, and I hate them.

It makes me a terrible employee and I have to be very careful not to fight other people's battles, especially when they have made adult choices.

I work in a job where that doesn't matter now - after 20 hard years.

Cleaning
housework

Oh keeping my house tidy

It's like I work so hard to keep clean and tidy at work to the point where it's one extreme. That I get home and I'm like I just can't physically do house work. I occasionally get on top of it then within 2 weeks it's a tip again

This is absolutely me!!!!!

LOVE this thread! Makes me feel like I'm not the only one struggling with things others seem to find easy!

Mines are - driving without being super anxious and so simply I avoid it

Talking in groups - but one to one I'm completely fine

Calorie counting

Organising things like birthdays or parties of any kind

Finding balance with things - I'm usually all or nothing with alot of things

Following directions.. so if I ask someone how to get somewhere as soon as they start telling me how to I just zone out! Once they start saying get to the end of the road, or take the next left I've forgotten it I just can't take it in! Satnavs are my best friend.

Small talk
Knowing when to talk on the phone or on a teams meeting, not speaking over people

Sleeping before anything. An event, a job interview, holiday, an exam. It doesn't matter what it is, I'm guaranteed not to get any sleep the night before.

'peopling' without a persona. E.G in work I'm mrsmacmc work mode, home in mrsmacmc wife mode. Put me in a social situation and I freeze 😩

@UWhatNow I was exactly the same, but one day I decided to announce that I was shit at knowing what to do, so if someone could direct me, and give me a task I will do it. It worked, and I didn’t have that guilt about not knowing what to do.
Over time, those that know me have learnt to give me a job and I don’t mind. It has really helped.

Housework and keeping on top of clutter. I don’t have the urge to clean things, I don’t enjoy it so it builds up. I wish I enjoyed it.

Anything social especially meeting new people. Interviews, parties etc I clam up and my anxiety goes though the roof. I struggle with work and making friends too for the same reason. Really socially awkward but at home with DP I'm like a different person. Funny amd charismatic apparently 😅 otherwise I'm a stuttering mess in a blind panic.

Driving
Making small talk
Anything maths related
Reading maps
Speaking in groups

Having big groups of mates and always doing fun stuff with them.

Oh and trying to converse to work colleagues that I hardly know, on inset days. I find that ridiculously tough.

Also following or giving directions. DH always remembers how he got placed and I don't.
Another one is explaining the plot of a film, tv show or book. Or explaining something at work.
And also the one about being able to go in someone's kitchen and immediately know how to help.

You’re not alone. I’m the same. I hate it. Never feel well rested especially before a day of travelling.

I'm terrible with directions, find small talk really hard, and feel so out of place where others fit in with ease.

Housework
reading maps
admin stuff like ordering repeat prescriptions etc

Keeping the house clean and tidy
Addictions

Making phone calls

Keeping WhatsApp and text conversations going. I either don't read the message as I just freeze and can't reply and then eventually it becomes too late to ever reply, or I will receive and reply to a message but then when they reply again I freeze and am just unable to reply. I don't know why I do it, it's like some sort of paralysis.

Babies!

Was totally fine with my own but FGS don't hand me your newborn!!