What in life do you struggle with…that others appear to breeze through with?

[TeaTimeTina]

For me it’s talking. I’m ok on a 1;1 but put me in a group and I seem to lose the ability to speak.

Crowds, busy events, big nights out, parties anything social involving large groups of people.
I'm fine if I have a specific job or role to do I'm just completely awkward otherwise and don't know where to put myself.

Staying in a job long term.

i feel overwhelmed by ordinary life things that shouldn’t be hard -like keeping constantly on top of house tasks, cooking for family , remembering to go shopping , take laundry out of machine, book and go to appointments . Sometimes I’ll be amazing for a week and be so proud of myself , then I get distracted and suddenly time has passed and it’s all out of control again.

I recently found this podcast called “ I have adhd” and she explains these kinds of things , how when your brain is wired differently things like getting around to looking an appointment even can be much harder to achieve than Neuro typicals - and it’s not good to beat yourself up about it- I don’t know if this is me but I relate to so many of her experiences .

@Waterfallgirl same! I can’t make and keep friends, I don’t know what I do to put people off but I’m not likeable. Strangely enough Ive had no problem meeting and keeping partners

Being able to coherently verbalise what's in my brain. In my head it sounds fine. But when it comes out it's like word vomit. I also feel awkward in social situations and really dislike background noise/ chatter.

Thank you so much for this TeaTimeTina, I wonder if most of us on this thread have similar brain wiring?! One poster spoke of Executive Function and for me I think that relates to my lately diagnosed ADD which I think (although this link hasn’t been confirmed) relates to a form of dyslexia. Phonological memory or something I can’t remember or be bothered to look up 😆

So, so many things people have said, but I’ll struggle with my phone to find names:

-driving (never passed)
-organising outside work (systems are in place at work)
-hosting- exhausting. Awful.
-planning anything- particularly holidays. I loathe it and find it all v high stakes.
-packing
-talking about plans if I can’t physically see a calendar (and am not ready to talk about plans).
-typing on my phone
-finding apps on my phone.
-like others have said, small talk where I have no specific role such as training days. School gate.
-passwords. Oh my god. 😭
-concentrating on films and understanding plots
-explaining things that have happened in every day life (fine at talking about my specialist area)
-anything domestic, I sometimes feel like I can’t breathe on days off and would rather work. I just don’t know what I’m doing and need a PA/ housekeeper.
-concentrating on what I need to do when there’s background noise (something on the radio, someone talking to me, cat meowing)

Even writing this down has raised my blood pressure!

I might have repeated what everyone has said! With some of my friends I find this hard to justify as they are talking about brain fog/menopause but I’ve always been like this. My oldest friends can see what I mean. Or anyone who has had to organise anything with me…

I struggle to tolerate noise. Unless it is my own noisy family which is fine.
My new neighbours like to have loud get togethers. We were subjected to one last night and I cant calm down even now. I just feel totally threatened and want to.run away but I dont know why !
The rest of my family just shrug their shoulders and ignore the noise. I am left wondering what is wrong with me !

Knowing what to say in difficult situations. I've only just discovered this part of MN and there are so many threads I'd like to reply to with words that will make the person feel better but I feel so inadequate all the time. I'm going to try though as my mental health is so poor and I've lived with depression and been on constant medication for over 30 years .

I meant to say above ^ that I'm going to try as I do understand what others with depression are going through. You see, I get everything wrong

Health anxiety. Other people just accept when they have the odd symptom, I am googling all night and giving myself a life threatening condition. It is so draining.

Making new friends and keeping them. I admit I can be a boring person. I don't party and I don't drink, I love meeting for a coffee or a picnic. And most of people I meet at work are childless which makes things much harder.

Most things to be honest. Housework. Eating in a normal way. Speaking to people. Relationships and friendships.

Driving.
I’ve been driving for over 10 years and it still makes me nervous going to places other than work and the shops in town. Still haven’t braved a motorway!

Talking on the phone. I forget to ask things, even when I have a list in front of my face. I struggle to remember what was said. The sound of my phone ringing sends me into orbit!

Socialising. Everything about mixing with people. Even dropping my kids to a party etc.

Asking where something is or asking for directions. I put off asking until I'm in dire straits, then nod and smile and hear absolutely nothing!

Leaving something I'm doing to deal with something else.

Loads more. Too many. I'm a disaster!

Same here!! 10 years driving and doing it only when I really have no other option. I hate it deeply. If I have to drive somewhere far away the night before I’m always sick and can’t sleep. The longest distance I ever made as a driver was 200 km. So sad

@Antares444 that’s a lot further than I’ve ever managed! I’d be proud of that.
And it’s not like I haven’t faced my fears to an extent - I took on supply work in between teaching jobs a few years ago, so you’d think after six months of having to drive new places all the time I would have got used to it. But no. I’m a lost cause 😂

Me too, I even drove in Italy to overcome the fear but it didn’t help. I’ve been driving to work for 4 years and my feelings are the same as the first time I drove alone.
I only drove 200 kms once. After that I needed 2 days to recover😄