My mum thinks I am depressed

[nutcracker]

My first thought was 'shit someone noticed, thats bad'.

You just have to go aheda and do it

I don't have any one to do anything with nutty

and I'm very shy

I just go on my own

I go to the gym..started that on a dcotors prescription and I swim also on my own

I even went to egypt diving which was terrifying and irt was a singles holiday..obviously I know you can't do that

but the on your own thing you just have to go and mostly other people are on their own too if you only do things that someone else wants to do too then you will never do anything and also it's actually sometimes harder to get into a class or whatever if you go with someone else you end up just talking to each other

your problem is seeing barriers every where and your lack of confidence

the only way to get past that is to just tell yourself that you don't want to be this pathetic unable to do anything poerson for ever

I hate having to do things on my own but I know now that if you don't you miss out and end up progressively less confident and locked in the house and eventually in bed all day..

oh and if you can do a basic skills literacy course in the meantime it will only help you with either that course, another or employment. See it as a means to an end if that is what gets you to do it. You never know you might actually enjoy it for its own sake

Afternoon all

Still no further forward in picking something to do, but I have at least sorted my tip of a living room out which has made me feel some what better.

Nutty- We have been discussing depression at Uni- Our lecturer told us about these

grren gyms

sound a bit mad but its good for kids also, he has some clients who he gives therapy to and some of the women have had a marked improvemnet on their mental health.

worth a look??

Have to admitt emma, that I clicked on that and thought 'omg no', but I am at least going to now go and read it properly LOL.

ha ha. its just because he is a psychologist and hates medicating people, likes to find other options to lift their moods. says that this was a good scheme ( although i must admit that im not fully sure what it is)

Well it looks erm interesting.

Thankfully Sadly they are no where near me.

LOL the thankfully should have been crossed out.

I think that they are a really good idea for some people though. Nothing like the great outdoors and good for the environment too.

nutty tbh I'm running out of ideas. Can I suggest you take some time over the next few days to quietly trawl through this and the other thread (where you were worried things would be the same in 10 years time) and make a short list of, say, 3 things to do or change in the next 3 months, however small. Be committed to finding out as much as you can about them, ways to achieve them and resolve to carry them through. You may have to make compromises , ask favours (such as xp taking kids to school once a week or can you arrive a little later and make up the time online) but you really need to make a commitment to yourself to do it and see it through. Anything, no matter how small , can count in a positive way.

If you find yourself anxious, dithery or negative again please go back to your gp.

I did ask about flexible start times LIZ but the woman mumbled something about the tutor only being booked for 2 hours or something. Xp can't take the kids to school as he leaves for work at 6am, as does my mum when she is on an early.

I do try to sort these things out, as much as it may seem that I don't.

I am going to give it all some serious thought as I knwo the longer I leave it the worse it will get and I will feel, but at the moment there is just nothing that I feel I want to do, and i lack motivation at the best of times. I don't want to be in the position of starting and dropping out again so I have to be sure, even if it is only a small course.

oh sorry hadn't realise xp was working again. I'd ignore the woman tbh and just go along and see. In reality tutors are often more flexible as regards that (they get paid regardless after all). Even if you only do 1 1/2 hours of the 2 it would be a start, especially if you work to individual targets.

Right, have spent all morning on the internet and phone about different courses.

Apparently there is an IT in my local shopping centre, which I must have walked past a million times. Have rung them this morning about doing an IT course and they said to pop in whenever I like.

I also rang the college about their adult english and maths courses which are apparently the same as the skills for life ones, and they were pretty crap as normal and couldn't tell me when they start, what days or anything, so the only option there is to go up one evening this week (has to be evening apparently) and speak to someone. The woman assured me that the courses are run daytimes as well as evenings, so she better be right.

So, if xp has the kids for tea on wed evening then I can go up to the college then, and also go into the IT centre then too i think.

Still not 100% sure i am doing the right thing, but we'll see.

Excellent , hwy would n't it be the right thing try nto to be so negative. With the right mix of a supportive tutor and some enthusiastic fellow gropup members it could even just be a good reason to force yourself out during the day which is no bad thing in itself.

I wasn't being negative, well not deliberatly, just still not sure that it's the right thing for me, but seeing as I still don't know what is the right thing for me, i will just have to try it.

Just need xp to not drop out of his first day of having the kids now

That post wasn't meant to sounds as grumpy as it looks either, just had the school run from hell again.