To not know where to start when my life, body and mind are all a bit of a mess?

[SynchOrSwim]

I don't even know where to start when explaining.

Marriage is pretty much over but I haven't officially said I want to leave as I'm so worried about how it will effect DD, how he will behave and I just don't feel mentally/emotionally strong enough at the mo.

I'm on edge all the time. Often cry at my desk when I'm working from home. Tried self referring myself for therapy but I didn't know what to say!

I want to get a better paid job before I become a single mum but it's hard dealing with job apps and interviews when my head is such a mess.

I'm obese. I comfort eat due to my home situation and struggle to fit in exercise as I'm either working or parenting until nearly 9pm by which point I'm knackered and screw myself over further by staying up too late and eating.

I know eating better and exercising regularly will improve my mental health but I feel like I need more time plus better mental health to do these things. Just feel a bit stuck.

Any suggestions on what to tackle first?

Sleep!!!

And water.

When you're properly rested and hydrated things will seem a bit clearer.

Then try to eat better, nutritious food. Not with the intention of losing weight, but with the aim of improving your health and energy levels.

Then when you feel physically stronger, you can start to add in a walk every day or the yoga - something which combines physical and mental health.

@LottyD32

I don't understand why you posted if you won't make any change whatsoever or put yourself out in any way.

I don't get what you mean. Most of the suggestions are things I can't do (go for an early morning run!), Things I already do (go for a walk! Do exercise with DD!), telling me to stop doing things I'm not doing (stop eating junk food!) or things that require me magicking up more time in the day or cutting more sleep.

I'm trying answer honestly when people make suggestions, I'm not sure what else to say.

@LottyD32

🤷‍♀️ Stay in your rut then.

Unnecessary comment on the mental health board.

Maybe you recognize that you would like to change (and that is definitely a major step in itself). However, maybe it is not realistic for you to be able to implement these changes immediately (which is fine). The way these things work is that an unexpected change in your life will somehow throw everything up in the air and when the dust settles, you may notice a window has opened up for changing some of your ways. Some people need the impetus to be born out of chaos rather than voluntarily removing themselves from a rut.