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Suicidal & pregnant

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playsuit56 · 22/02/2022 20:54

If I turn up at A&E tomorrow and say I'm suicidal can they deliver my baby because I don't want to harm him will they take my son away?

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playsuit56 · 22/02/2022 21:19

I definitely don't want them to take my baby away. If I go to A&E saying I'm suicidal then I thought they'd take my baby away because they think I won't be able to care for him. I just don't want to hurt him in anyway so I wanted to know if the hospital will deliver him. There's no point speaking to my mum because she can't do anything. She has severe mental health issues so it'll only make her worse

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Eloisedublin123 · 22/02/2022 21:20

Sending love op keep talking x

rc22 · 22/02/2022 21:22

Can you and your 9 month old go to your mum's tonight so you're not on your own? Or could your mum come to you?

rc22 · 22/02/2022 21:22

Sorry just saw your last post.

LightfoldEngines · 22/02/2022 21:23

I had brutal antenatal and postnatal depression with DD3 - stemming from a very real feeling of being trapped and terrified as to how I would cope alone with 3, and dealing with leaving an abusive marriage.

The Peri Natal team are highly skilled OP, there will be no judgment or shaming or any of the terrible things your brain is telling you Flowers

TyrannosaurusRegina · 22/02/2022 21:23

Mental health nurse here. They won't take your baby away, you'll be assessed and the correct course of action will be followed (which none of us here can say what that it as we aren't assessing you). You may be allowed to go home with crisis team support, you may be admitted onto an acute admissions ward...it really will be up to the doctor or nurse who assesses you. Please do reach out for help.

Tashalady91 · 22/02/2022 21:25

I'm sorry to hear that you are feeling this way.

Unfortunately they will not deliver the baby early unless the baby needs to come out.

They will lool at ways they can support YOU to feel better

Midlifemusings · 22/02/2022 21:26

They will not deliver your baby because you are suicidal.

If they truly felt that you can not keep yourself safe and are a risk to your children or yourself, they might admit you to the hospital for treatment.

You can also call some of the numbers that have been provided if you can't go to A and E right now.

Imagineit · 22/02/2022 21:35

Keep talking op, there are so many of us here holding your hand xx

Katya213 · 22/02/2022 21:36

I think you should go to a and e and tell them how you are feeling. They will not deliver your baby because you feel suicidal, they will help you and refer you hopefully. Please go.

Eloisedublin123 · 22/02/2022 21:47

I’m not sure OP can as she has a sleeping baby too but anyway I hope you are ok OP keep talking 💖

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playsuit56 · 22/02/2022 21:57

Sorry and thank you again for all of the comments. My 9 month old is fast asleep but I've got my cousin round who lives a 5min drive from me. She's here to look after DD and I'm on my way to the hospital now. Thank you for the encouragement to go. I was wondering how I was going to make it through the night as my mind was literally running round in circles.

That's okay if they won't deliver the baby especially as I'm only 31 weeks. I do think I need help and maybe this will give my family a nudge to understand that I'm really going through something serious right now. Really appreciate the comments from everyone as no one knows me on here. I hope the hospital doesn't just brush me off and hope they take me seriously

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Eloisedublin123 · 22/02/2022 21:59

Well done OP you are incredibly brave x keep posting if you can and if it helps

blanketyblanked · 22/02/2022 22:09

I've just read your thread and I'm really glad you're going to reach out for help. You should like an amazing and thoughtful mum,FlowersFlowers I really hope you are in a better place soon and get some support. Sending you my heartfelt wishes x Flowers

Mayhemmumma · 22/02/2022 22:21

Well done brave first step

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playsuit56 · 22/02/2022 22:30

Thank you so much for all of the responses. I've just got here and been told it's a 6 hour wait to be seen. I feel like I'm going out of my mind with no one to speak too. Even though she was asleep, I feel so bad for leaving my baby in the middle of the night. It's all a mess and I just feel exhausted

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amoobaa · 22/02/2022 22:32

Hope everything goes as well as it possibly can at the hospital. You’re definitely doing the right thing. It might not feel like it but You’re doing brilliantly, under such difficult circumstances.

I hope you get all the support you need. Everyone here has your back. Like a previous poster said, come back and share more if it helps. There are loads of great people here who wish you the best. Flowers

amoobaa · 22/02/2022 22:39

You did the right thing… You are protecting her by looking after yourself. She needs you and you are making sure you get the support you need to be the best Mum you can be.

It sounds like she’s safe and sleeping soundly with your cousin looking after her.

None of this is your fault.

These feelings can be so powerful and overwhelming. But don’t forget how much the hormonal fluctuations can affect us. They can make it so hard to think clearly.

You’re doing better than you think. I hope you get seen asap Flowers

Eloisedublin123 · 22/02/2022 22:40

I hope you’re ok and will be seen quickly op

Katya213 · 22/02/2022 22:43

Doesn’t matter if there’s a wait, stay there and see what they say.

Riverlee · 22/02/2022 22:43

Hoping you’re okay. Sending you support.

justustwoandmoo · 22/02/2022 22:43

Your baby will be fine. The most important thing is that you get the help you need xx

Stressedout1009 · 22/02/2022 23:01

Keep talking op. I hope you're ok. You have done the right thing going in. X

Cocycola · 22/02/2022 23:03

I am sorry ypu are feeling like this Flowers. Well done on going to the hospital, you have done the right thing.

I hope you get seen and feel better soon xxx
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Eloisedublin123 · 22/02/2022 23:16

Is it busy op? Have you a comfortable enough seat?