So DC2 (of 3) is 11 and suffering from depression / anxiety - triggered by move to secondary but many multiples worse since lockdown. GP has queried ASD and thinks DC2 needs professional help but CAMHS won't see them so we are having to pay for counselling (that they are determined not to engage in).
I know DH is struggling with all this. He has previously had counselling for GAD and is very concerned about DC2. To the point where it is impacting his work (both of us FT from home, while trying to engage 3 very reluctant DC with homeschooling).
His work are suggesting he goes PT to help with stress and because he basically isn't delivering and they need to cut costs owing to whole economic clusterfuck. But then we won't be able to afford DC counselling (or our house, bills etc). Which makes him more stressed and worried, which makes him less able to function and, well you get the point...
Has anyone had a depressed anxious 11 year old and actually helped them? If there is an ASD diagnosis, will that even help?
And if we can't help DC2, how do I help DH to function, as he will spiral for sure if he loses job. Looking at counselling for him too, but weekly sessions for 2 people is £600+ a month which we don't have...