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To ask whether you could give up your foremost passion?

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AuldJosey · 27/04/2019 00:20

In order to maintain your health?

Physical analogy would be no more sky dives as you've already broken 4 limbs.

Think having to not experience anything strong in the emotion department in order to keep you stable. You know that when you deny yourself this, you are better, but the expense to you is huge........

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Flyingfish2019 · 27/04/2019 01:13

Yes, we do own dogs. Now back to my question: do you have children?

RainbowMum11 · 27/04/2019 01:13

Ok, so to go along with the post:
I have DC so therefore I will do everything I can to protect them.
Have endured incredibly life changing events which have started to affect me in a major way, but DC is my absolute priority - my breakdown & recovery will be centred around them.

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AuldJosey · 27/04/2019 01:13

2 people have answered. Not 'many' people.

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Contraceptionismyfriend · 27/04/2019 01:16

5 people actually. Many.

Shamoo · 27/04/2019 01:17

If you think that one thing is what makes your life worth living but it is also known to be bad for you, then it is an addiction, even if not in the classic sense. Whether it’s an unhealthy relationship or an obsession with an activity that is bad for you or whatever.

And yes, outside of those sorts of addictions most people would say they would give it up. But it’s easy to say when you aren’t addicted!

JaneJeffer · 27/04/2019 01:17

In such circumstances you have to think what would Rick Astley do?

PissOffPeppa · 27/04/2019 01:21

It would depend. But broadly, no I wouldn’t. If it was something that didn’t harm anybody else, I would keep doing it.

It reminds me of my mother in law. She was very ill and was given a strict diet to follow, which cut out all her favourite foods. Her attitude was “I’d rather have a shorter life filled with things I love”. She died shortly afterwards. Probably would have had a longer life if she’d eaten what she was told, but it wasn’t the life she wanted to lead.

ReanimatedSGB · 27/04/2019 01:21

Well, if it's drugs of some sort, what you need to do is sort out a clean, reliable supply. There's a lot of idiocy around drug use (at least, the sort of drugs that have been designated illegal) when the main problems associated with them come from the illegaility, which means no quality control and no reliable supply.

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AuldJosey · 27/04/2019 01:22

This is bad for me,but not in a usual sense. I've never heard of anyone dying of it for e.g.

I just want to know whether I'm stupid in trying to stay alive while enjoying this or to remove this and maybe stabilise.

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AuldJosey · 27/04/2019 01:23

@PissOffPeppa I like the sound of your MIL!

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AngeloMysterioso · 27/04/2019 01:26

My happiness doesn’t depend on one thing, so yeah, I probably could give up my foremost passion, because I have other passions.

JaneJeffer · 27/04/2019 01:26

I think if you are worried it could kill you and you don't want that for yourself then yes give it up but if it's an addiction you will need help.

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AuldJosey · 27/04/2019 01:30

Ok, FFS before you contort yourselves like rubber bands!

The thing is music.

The problem with me is that I feel it. So I feel sad, happy, excited, angry etc. just by listening to music. I have a psychiatric diagnosis of EUPD and I've noticed myself over time that music can change my mood dramatically (to suicidal for e.g.)

So in order to stabilise myself, I'm simply wondering whether I should shut off music altogether (I listen every waking hour), in order to stabilise myself.

I can't imagine a life without music but at the same time, I recognise how a song can hit me in the soul and utterly change the humour I'm in.

I didn't want to say what it is as I'm sure you don't understand quite what I mean.

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JaneJeffer · 27/04/2019 01:32

I do understand to some extent. I don't have your depth of feeling. I couldn't live without music.

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AuldJosey · 27/04/2019 01:38

That's my question Jane.

Am I better off not feeling anything extreme or am I denying myself life by denying myself the one thing that moves me..

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JaneJeffer · 27/04/2019 01:39

Can you just stick to upbeat music or does that make you too euphoric?

AngeloMysterioso · 27/04/2019 01:41

Ooooh, I don’t think I could never listen to music. Apart from anything else I think it’d be impossible to avoid it altogether unless you wear earplugs for the rest of your life.

Would being very, very careful about the music you listen to be helpful? If you know certain songs or subjects trigger you? Perhaps someone could help you compile “safe” playlists and regularly update them so you don’t get bored?

Are you on any medication?

Klopptimist · 27/04/2019 01:43

Are you able to compromise? For example, by not listening to the radio as you cannot control what they play. Avoid the 'depressing' bands when you feel unstable (as much as I love Pink Floyd, they can reduce me to a gibbering wreck if I listen to certain tracks when I feel bad). Make playlists of more suitable artists/tracks for when you feel vulnerable.

Having said that, I do understand that moods are impossible to predict, especially when you have a PD. But on the whole, no, I would not give up music.

Orangeballon · 27/04/2019 01:50

I don’t know why you were not more explicit from the beginning, this was you having some sort of attention seeking game.

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AuldJosey · 27/04/2019 01:51

I have play lists. But when I'm feeling slightly down I tend to find songs that would have you slitting your throat. When I'm well, I can listen to music and not 'feel' it so much. Or I've more going on I suppose, so I don't focus solely on the music.

At the moment I'm not the best and I have listened to this at least 30 times this evening. I get obsessive about songs until they lose the emotion for me.
It would all be fine I'm sure if I didn't have the EUPD diagnosis.

I'm sure most people live for music. The difference for me, is that it can move me - by that I mean it can completely change my mood.

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AuldJosey · 27/04/2019 01:52

Sorry, forgot link

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JaneJeffer · 27/04/2019 01:52

I don't agree Orange. The OP was afraid of being ridiculed that's all.

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AuldJosey · 27/04/2019 01:53

Orangeballoon maybe - is it any skin off your nose?

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ConfusedOpinionsHere · 27/04/2019 01:53

I have EUPD. If you cut out the music, the underlying problems will be triggered by something else and this could be destabilising. You need to do a lot more groundwork before doing something so drastic. Talk to your keyworker (or whatever) and see if you can do some desensitisation work and make a plan going forward. For now, maybe make up a "safe" playlist that doesn't trigger you and use that.

PlanBea · 27/04/2019 01:57

I gave up my foremost passion for my health. I taught aerial arts, and after developing chronic pain (unrelated to doing this), I can't teach or perform any more. It was my job AND my hobby.

It sucks, but it sucks less than the alternative of increasing my pain and potentially irreversibly injuring myself or bring a danger to others. I've just had to find new hobbies. And I've thoroughly enjoyed some of them!