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Don't know why I'm posting on here... I don't know what else to do

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cantdothisanymore · 22/06/2007 21:43

Need to keep busy.

Have lost my mind.

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cantdothisanymore · 22/06/2007 22:46

I know, I know. You are all right. I do know that. It does help to see you say that though.

Thank you.

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divastrop · 22/06/2007 22:47

this one
was a few weeks ago but had me pmsl for hours when i felt like crap

Dior · 22/06/2007 22:48

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cantdothisanymore · 22/06/2007 22:54

divastrop, that is a good thread. Thank you all for your support and providing some distraction. I at least feel a bit calmer now.

Thank you x

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Dior · 22/06/2007 22:55

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divastrop · 22/06/2007 23:04

i have to go now too,take care,i will check this thread in the morning.hope you are feeling better.

madmarchhare · 22/06/2007 23:07

Managed to get a look in on the pc. Pleased to see you are feeling calmer now.

Its always good to know that when you feel like this that other people have been there and come through the other side. Have faith in yourself.

Work through it all and look forward to building a wonderful relationship with your son in the future when things are better for you.

vixma · 22/06/2007 23:24

suicidal women will most likely kill themselves and this is not you. If you want help there is help out their, however what have you done today, I have had a pain in the arse day...and I would like it if I didnt have to do things for other people and get smaked in the face for it....literatlly.

madmarchhare · 22/06/2007 23:33

what?

KerryMum · 22/06/2007 23:45

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mummylin2495 · 22/06/2007 23:46

cant do this anymore.i am thinking of you .i know who you are and have emailed you.

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cantdothisanymore · 22/06/2007 23:51

Thank you MMH.

vixma, I'm sorry, I have no idea what you are talking about. I'm sorry if I said something that upset you. I'm confused.

I am going to stop posting now.

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Dior · 23/06/2007 08:11

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Judy1234 · 23/06/2007 09:26

cant, you haven't entirely lost him. Many parents share children. When you're a bit better it is very likely indeed you will share more of him on a very regular basis. It sounds as if you have done the right thing for him. The assumption that it is always wicked that men have their children living with them and children aren't with their mother is very unfair and wrong. Both parents hugely miss their children and need to see them and sometimes it's better children live with one and not the other.

I hope you're feeling a bit better today. Mornings are usually better.

SSSandy2 · 23/06/2007 10:33

can't , how are you feeling today?

KerryMum · 23/06/2007 12:29

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ktmoomoo · 23/06/2007 12:31

hiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii how are u today

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cantdothisanymore · 23/06/2007 15:09

Hello all...

I'm so sorry for rambling on at you all so much last night. I feel quite now but it really helped knowing that you were all there. Without wanting to sound dramatic, I don't know what I would have done if I hadn't been able to sit here and talk to you. Strangely, a friend sensed something wasn't right and turned up on my doorstep & sat with me for a while.

thank you so much for popping back to see how I am. I'm sure Xenia is right - I know some Dads, probably most of them, miss their children as much as mums do. I just know how my DSs father chose to walk out on him and, despite my begging for him to be involved in his life, he took a back role and barely saw him until all this happened. But that's my problem to deal with. I think its great that he and DS are now able to see so much of each other.

Anyway, the other thing Xenia is right about is that mornings are usually better. I have no idea why, but they are. I have a busy day today so will hopefully keep a better grip on myself.

Thank you all xxxxx

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mummylin2495 · 23/06/2007 16:16

well done and thankyou !

lissie · 23/06/2007 16:17

so glad to hear youre feeling a bit brighter x

Dior · 23/06/2007 16:26

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divastrop · 23/06/2007 20:44

hi,glad to hear you are feeling better today.hope things start to improve for you soon xxxxx

madmarchhare · 23/06/2007 21:12

Ah thats good. Sometimes, focusing on one day at a time is what you have to do. It will come right you know.

Talk to your therapist about things that might help when you are having crap moments

naswm · 24/06/2007 15:57

cantdothisanymore - I am so sorry I was not around for you on Friday when you needed it. I was too wrapped up in my own mind. For which I feel very guilty. Sorry. (But, I suspect, that if I had been on the pc, I really wouldnt have been any good for you considering the state I was in. I was harming and drunk and crying.)

You know that you and I share more than one common bond. I wish I knew what to say you. If I knew, I would say it to myself. But, maybe you can glean some comfort in knowing that I amd here and feel the same as you? even if we are many many miles apart. I cant say that it will get better. I wish I could. But as long as I am around I will support you as much as I can. You can email me as often as you like. You can shout and scream whenever you want. Phoning isnt really an option, unfortunately, but I can be on msn when you need me to be.

I think of you so much. I wish I could take some of the pain away. I may not be able to do that, but I can be your friend. And I will be for as long as you want me to be.

Nx