Anxiety support, Hand hold or chit chat come say hi #3

[Fairydust26]

Can you believe the last threads full up?! We had a great support network going on the previous two so come and say a big hello and join us.

How's everyone this evening?

Took my DC to nursery today, still have to stay so he gets used to the staff, altthough I just stayed in the parenting room for a couple of hours. Had a wee coffee and just relaxed. It was bliss!

He's still awake now though 🙄 And I have work at 10am tomorrow. Hoping he'll go to seep soon so I can finally watch American Horror Story!

A parenting room is s great idea. I hate when parents stay in the classroom as the child doesn't settle but as a parent I understand their anixety completely. Having a room where they could sit and I could pop out (ratio allowing) or they could observe on CCTV, although a lot of creches here don't have CCTV in the rooms.

Is he asleep now? If not try a little brandy on the gums, It'll send him right off...I am joking don't do that. Not that you would anyway.
Stroke his cheek and nose with your finger, that used to send my son and a lot of babies I looked after, to sleep.

The parenting room is a good idea. It gives me a chance to relax as well for a couple of hours, which doesn't happen very often!

He didn't fall asleep until about half 10ish. But many people have noticed that since he's started nursery I seem a lot more relaxed, but it could be the medication I'm on as well. Probably a combination of the two. Sertraline has definitely, without a doubt, helped in that respect. It's taken a good 3 months, but I am so much better than I was.

I feel strange today. Not exactly anxious but not settled either. Went shopping with my mum and sister today, I enjoyed it but all day my heart was racing and my skin was tingly. Like my body was telling me I was in danger. I have no doubt that if it wasn't for the medication I wouldn't have been able to stay out shopping. I had to keep taking deep breaths and tried to drink lots of water.
I wonder if too much sugar is the reason. I also didn't excersise today as I have a bad knee.

Oh gosh, I know that feeling. I used to also get random butterflies in my stomach, but it wasn't caused by anxiety. It was the strangest thing, same feeling you get when you're really excited/happy about something if that makes sense? Or if you're at the peak of a rollercoaster about to go down, but also a bit unsettling at the same time. I still have the same feeling from time to time.

Hope your knee gets better. Knee pain is awful.

I think I'm starting to see the benefits now of medication. It took a while and I never thought it would work. Even today when I had a very hectic day, usually I would get all shaky and panic, but I felt like I could think about things more rationally. Part of the panicky bit was still there, but nowhere near as bad as it was, and probably not noticeable to anyone else.

Yes Bippity that decribed it better. Very strange.
I am going to book an appointment to see a physiotherpist. I don't think I am running correctly. They might give me advice too.

Great you are starting to feel better. Great when you can more or less control the feelings.

I keep meaning to do that too, keep forgetting. Still struggling with the stairs and stuff, but it's better than it was.

I need to slow down again. I think it's an age thing or maybe because I've been like this for so long I can tell when I'm starting to do too much before I crash. But I feel like I'm in control of it at the moment.

Had about 3 hours sleep, (not that it bothers me) but I wanted to get to work an hour early to get stuff done. Since I've been back I've been whizzing around doing house work, I feel more productive on less hours sleep.

Thinking about increasing my hours at work too. At the moment I'm only working about 23-25 hours over 3 days, but I'm thinking about increasing it to 45 hours to try and get some more money before Christmas.

I know this is me going to the other extreme and my partner has told me to slow down, but if I begin to struggle, I know I have a crisis team number I can ring. But I should be fine.

I'm already looking at Christmas presents online. Someone please talk me down please to buying this 🙈 crystal skull vodka It's so pretty! And I know my relative would love it.

Wow that is gorgeous but pricy. Don't buy it yet, see if it comes down in price on Black Friday.
I got a code for pre sale Bon Jovi Tickets tomorrow. I really hope them get them. Can't afford them but don't care.

That's a good idea. I love buying presents for people. I've already got about 5 tabs up on my phone on ideas of what to buy. My DP looking at me disapprovingly It's only 7 weeks away! I like to be organised. Only problem is, I know I'll forget what I'm doing. Can't stay focused on one thing.

I love Bon Jovi! You only live once, enjoy it

One thing I've always lived by, obviously it's different for everyone and I am thankful I have a job and get paid weekly You can always make more money. That's what I always tell myself. I know not everyone is the same position though.

I think that way too. Or o put it on the credit card and pay a bit off at a time. I used to take DS on hols and it would me a whole year to pay them off the the memories we have are priceless. Worth it all. Then again I have a job, pay is Shite but I am lucky, I have a roof over my head, heat, electricity and a little disposable income.

Hi all, have had anxiety for years, mostly manage OK, it comes and goes. Feeling wobbly today but no specific reason. When I feel like this little everyday things become hugely stressful and I just want to climb under the duvet and hide.

I guess it's just nice to know we are all in this together.

I'm the same Iblinkedandiamold I don't have a credit card though, but my out goings are relatively small. I'm lucky to be a home owner, in this current climate. Looking to find somewhere else and I look and think they're asking how much

I live in the central of Edinburgh though and unless I move a lot further out I'm not going to even get a bog standard 2 bed terraced house flat for less than 300k

Hi LoveBeingAMum555 Have you been to the GP? I know the feeling of wanting to hide under the duvet. Have done it many a time.

BippityBoppity87 deffo wait for Black Friday nothing better than getting something you want at a bargain price!.

Welcome LoveBeingAMum555 😊

What is anxiety like for you

@BippityBoppity87 I have lived like that all l my life: when I was a girl people thought I was shy

I have severe death anxiety too but I reckon it's normal

Meeting someone I met online today for coffee, only been talking a short while but still. I am so nervous.
On the plus side, got my Bon Jovi tickets today.
I have typed in Bon Jovi at least 50 times over the last days and still my phone changes it from Bon to Bin.

Iblinkedandiamold how did it go?

Went well. He seems nice, although he did to leave without paying. He ordered food and we had tea for two. I actually forgot about paying unroll the woman chased us to the door. [
Anyway I might him again and see. We did talk for over an hour, very little pauses no awkward silences.
I just don't know if the paying thing was a mistake or something else.
I am not someone who thinks men should pay. If I had food and he didn't I would've paid. It was an awkward moment but kinda funny.

I'm glad your date went well Iblinkedandiamold Call me old fashioned, but it would have been nice if he had paid on a first date, or at least gone halfers (that's just me though, and my little personal hang ups) If I met them again, then I would pay.

Second date on the horizon?

Yes second date on the horizon. Had a nice time, he seems nice. Being able to chat to someone for over an hour is a good thing.

That's good. I can't wait til I get paid on a Friday, went to the cash machine today "insufficient funds" i thought this would cause my anxiety to go through the roof, but nope, I'm fine and dandy, which is suspicious as I never usually react that way

I'm terrible with money though, absolutely awful, so it probably didn't come to any surprise.

I think my anxiety is gone, which I don't think is probably a good thing as it increases my urge to act recklessly.