Anxiety support, Hand hold or chit chat come say hi #3

[Fairydust26]

Can you believe the last threads full up?! We had a great support network going on the previous two so come and say a big hello and join us.

Hello. I wonder if I can join you?

It's almost 3am and I'm awake. Again. My sleep patterns have been atrocious for months as I find I hard to switch my brain off. I'm anxious by nature but worrying about Brexit is starting to consume me and I feel quite close to the edge with it all, to be honest. I follow the Westminstenders threads on here but I'm going to try and stop because it's frankly scaring me too much.

I'm a carer for an elderly parent who lives a long distance away and I'm eaten up by worry over what will happen to them if there's a chaotic No-Deal, and how I'll cope. Just for good measure I've had a massively stressful couple of years with a major life event hanging over me, which is ongoing and out of my control. So, all in all, things aren't great. I have a partner but he doesn't manage to be very supportive so I suppose I just feel very alone with everything, which doesn't help.

Sorry to blurt all this out, but from reading this thread I feel I'll be understood! Might come back a bit later if that's OK.

I find the headspace app quite good when I can’t get to sleep. Just helps me settle a bit and block out some of the intrusive thoughts.

I had a really good weekend feeling positive and “normal” but last night and this morning I feel like I have been pushed back down again. One step forward two steps back

@BiasBinding I could have written your post myself! Brexit is giving me huge anxiety as a EU citizen living here, plus I am having life challenges, deaths in the family, job worries= my anxiety has gone through the roof. Almost every single thing I feared for my life is coming true. I am thinking that if I survive this set of circumstances I will be so strong! If I survive. I have recently started taking sertraline (day 4 today) which is helping with sleeping, I do not seem to have these terrible vivid dreams I usually have. And starting to sleep through without waking up a little more. Keep posting as it does help. This thread is a great support.

@Sirzy I am sorry you feel you are going backwards, this moment will pass and you will soon be moving forward gain. Set backs are so awful though.

to everyone and thank you, MonnaLiza - it must be especially difficult for you as an EU citizen. I think a large part of the problem for me is struggling to see basic common sense and normality evaporating so fast....it's like the worst, most absurd fears you could have are actually coming true. That's hard for anyone to cope with.

I also find that the anxiety fluctuates, though, and I do have times of feeling more resilient. If the sleeping gets really bad I take a Kirkland Sleep Aid pill, which are amazingly effective. Everything looks a bit better after a good night's sleep.

BiasBinding looks like No DEAL is upon us.... eeeek! (panic).

Brexit is a massive worry here too. Ds is on multiple meds so the idea of shortages scares me

The shortage of medication available is very worrying indeed!

How’s everyone doing today? Feeling a little meh not too sure why, maybe the gloomy weather is a factor😐

My father is on multiple meds as a result of having a kidney transplant last year. A shortage of meds is worrying, but I’m not the one who worries about it in our family, it’s more my parents who do. Don’t get me wrong, I do care about my dad! I just don’t spend a huge amount of time thinking about it. Anxiety can be weird, worrying loads about some things and not at all about others.

I am having a bad day :( Found out I am pregnant and I am worrying about something happening to me and how would my 7 year old cope. He is very much a mummy's boy. I am now thinking I don't want to carry on with this pregnancy. All this because I was watching a tv program and a women younger than me said she collapsed at 5 months and her heart stopped 😭 Luckily she is ok but boy I felt myself go all hot. I haven't got my 1st midwife appointment until next week.

Raindancer

Hi can I join? I’ve recently left my kids’ dad and he has just vanished from our lives. We’ve had to move house and I’m completely on my own with 2 year old twin boys. I’m trying so hard to cope for them but my anxiety is getting the better of me and I’m ending up having panic attacks in the bathroom whilst they sleep.

Hi @Raindancer411 how are you today? I really wanted to respond but not quite sure how. I am sure you know, rationally, that pregnancies are safe these days but i also know that when you are anxious rationality goes out of the window! In my first pregnancy I was convinced that my baby was going to have Down Syndrome even if my test results were 1/10,000 - that was the first question I asked to the paediatrician "has my baby got DS?" - he did not of course.

I had a horrendous day yesterday. Ate like seven wolves and was unable to leave the house. FFS, why do i do this to myself, why am I so non resilient? I really wish i wasn't this sensitive, this fragile.

Morning @DaveTheGhost & welcome. You have come to the right place :)

Found this thread after posting on another anxiety one , just had chance to read a few of the posts. Hopefully will be able to support others and find some support for me. When I get abit more time , I'll try and post a little more detail. Hoping you all have a good day.

Feeling very icky again. Worse than last time :( I got my first midwife appointment so going to ask if they have any MH support as of my anxiety. Like you said it's safer these days but I cannot programme my brain to accept that 🙄

Sorry first appointment next week so only got a little while to wait

Sending a massive unmumsnetty hug to our new and old posters. It’s a comfort to know we’re not alone dealing with anxiety and that we can come here to help one another .

Hi can I join?. I’ve always struggled with anxiety, so much so that some days I can’t leave the house. I’m a mum now to 2 girls and I feel so guilty that some days we can’t go to the park or do what they want and we just have to stay in and do stuff inside. Would love to talk to others who are similar

Of course TilandPop welcome

I'm waiting for my telephone appointment , it's next week , given me something to look forward to. Had a good day yesterday , today less so. I find it difficult to work out why anxiety comes on like it does. I'm trying to pick up on triggers but sometimes I can't think straight . On good days the anxiety can seem like a dream and I think why does it get to me I'm fine. Then it kicks in and I'm struggling. The exercise has been useful I'm trying to stick to it , so far I have done it most days even if it's 15-20 mins. I've started some mindfulness meditation I find it difficult because it shows up how much stuff I think about and how often those thoughts pop into my head.

Pickpick101 I too find triggers difficult to find. Obviously there are some that are known but others just happen randomly, it can be very frustrating as your on high alert all the time waiting for the next one. I’ve had a good few days.

How’s everyone else doing this weekend?

HI I'm exhausted from lack of sleep due to anxiety - can anyone share any natural remedies to increase sleep? I do plenty of exercise but whenever I wake up I can't get back to sleep due to massive work/life anxiety - generally wake up at 2 or 3 so am exhausted (Can't go to the Doctors as we know one of them so don't feel it would be confidential).

holte I find guided meditations helpful when I can’t sleep. They occupy your mind with something other than your worries just enough so you manage to drift off. Or you could try something herbal like nytol (think it’s called that) , I haven’t used it myself but know others that have and have helped them.

Fairydust26 , yesterday was fairly okay didn't eat much though. Today brain is in overdrive . Anyone else struggle to eat properly ?