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Anxiety support, Hand hold or chit chat come say hi #3

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Fairydust26 · 16/10/2018 22:38

Can you believe the last threads full up?! We had a great support network going on the previous two so come and say a big hello and join usSmile.

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BippityBoppity87 · 17/10/2018 00:12

Thank you for the new thread Smile

vikingwoman · 17/10/2018 01:49

Thank you Fairy - sorry to hear you're struggling. Do you have any support in RL to rely on? Hope you feel better soon Flowers

Fairydust26 · 17/10/2018 09:57

vikingwoman yes my Dm and Dp are great it’s just hard to let them know sometimes but I’ll get through it I always do eventually. How’s everyone else?

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Stilllivinginazoo · 17/10/2018 11:21

Thank you for the shiny new threadfairy glad you have RL support.not easy sometimes reaching out tho is it?

MirandaWest · 17/10/2018 11:26

Hello Smile

I’m posting here now and will try and come back and introduce myself later on Smile

Fairydust26 · 17/10/2018 12:25

Welcome MirandaWestSmile

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moonkin · 17/10/2018 15:34

Having an extraordinarily bad day today so thought it's finally time for me to quit lurking and say hi. Hope there's space for one more newcomer on here. Smile

Fairydust26 · 17/10/2018 15:56

Of course moonkin welcomeSmile

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moonkin · 17/10/2018 16:31

I was wondering, does anyone have any experience with coping with anxiety/OCD without medication? Tried it a couple of years ago but am not quite keen on getting back on it if I can find an alternative solution.

My primary problem is that my mind tends to take completely innocuous things/actions and blow them way out of proportion. For eg, I can tap on one "wrong" thing on my phone and the whole device becomes "tainted" in my head. What this essentially means is that I'll spend the next few hours/days reformatting it tens/hundreds of times until it feels "right". Same with replaying every conversation in my head multiple times to ensure that I didn't say anything "wrong". Completely ridiculous, I know. Confused

Currently tempted as hell to erase and reset all my devices because of god knows what to "un-taint" it, but I really can't afford to be stuck in that loop right now.

My apologies if none of this makes any sense btw. I guess this post here is just my attempt at distracting myself from it all.

Sorry. Hope you lovely people are having a good day today.

Stilllivinginazoo · 17/10/2018 19:11

moonkin
Another OCD/anxiety veteran here
The key is try create calm at some point every day to draw on when your OCD kicks up(meditate/7-11 breathing etc) if you don't practise often it won't work!!
If it's your phone for example,practise the breathing until you feel calmer then ring someone who gives you a feel good factor.this helps reinforce the calm rather than the anxiety related OCD thoughts.when you get off the phone congratulate yourself that nothing"bad" happened and the "taint" has passed?that's what I would try.always try end the task with a positive congratulation as it build confidence and self esteem
I'm unmedicated(had give up citalopram after developing migraines that literally left me blinded,and couldn't get on alternatives so stuck it out)I'm not going to lie it requires lot practise and self regulation and this include keep on top self care(eat properly and get enough sleep)not easy if you have children/busy life
I'm not a paragon of virtue,I screw up quite often but I have skills to pick it up and go again now
Some days it's too much and I have to let the thoughts happen and concentrate on self care and try again later/tom

Not sure that was much help,but hello and welcome!!Smile

vikingwoman · 17/10/2018 19:30

Welcome Miranda and moonkin Smile

Luckypoppy · 17/10/2018 20:23

Just lurking for a bit if that's ok?

vikingwoman · 17/10/2018 20:42

Welcome Luckypoppy Smile

uncoolnn · 17/10/2018 20:44

Hi everyone 👋 hope it's ok to join, seems like a supportive thread 

Fairydust26 · 17/10/2018 20:46

Of course Luckypoppy join us when your readySmile

Feeling much better tonight hope things will start to settle down now fingers crossed. How’s everyone else’s evening going?.

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Fairydust26 · 17/10/2018 20:47

Of course uncoolnn welcomeSmile

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Dancer12345 · 17/10/2018 20:48

Hi all! Feeling a bit rubbish today so joining you all. Flowers

mogloveseggs · 17/10/2018 20:52

Hi!
Hoping it’s ok that i join?
Tired and stressed which makes me very jittery. Trying to write a job application and just have brain fog. Needs doing tonight as have to hand it in tomorrow. I really want the job as well Sad

Stilllivinginazoo · 17/10/2018 21:57

Welcome everyone!

Iblinkedandiamold · 17/10/2018 22:10

Thanks for the new thread Fairy. Welcome new people.
Had an annoying day at work yesterday. Had to ring a parent for something minor, I rand the emergency contact phone number which was not the mother.
This person was confused as to why I was ringing. I explained they were listed as number and appolgised.

Rang mother who was annoyed with me. The other person had clearly rang/texted her before me. She said "I am the mother you ring me first) I explained the other number was listed as contact in Emergancy.

All the other forms had the parents or whoever listed in that section.
This is after school and this child goes downstairs with his sibbling, ( have a letter from the larent saying it was okay, God forbid she'd have to get out of the car and walk upstairs.) we are in a school building, I don't know who picks them up. The parent could be at work for all I know.

Sick of being spoken to like I am lower than them. I have qualifications, not my fault she didn't fill the form in right. Stupid woman.

Rant over.

vikingwoman · 17/10/2018 22:33

Welcome new friends!

Blink I'm sorry that person treated you so disrespectully. I've worked for an organization for many years that is service-oriented and have had my share of this. I've developed quite a thick skin and it rarely bothers me anymore. And would you believe growing up I was so shy I didn't have the courage to pick up our home phone until I was twelve?! What works for me is two things: to remember a person's reaction is NOT a reflection of you. Second, to presume they're have a crap day and decide to take it out on someone...namely, you. Not nice of course, but it reminds me that it's not about me at all. I'm competent. As are you!Smile

Fairydust26 · 18/10/2018 17:42

Welcome Dancer12345 & mogloveseggsSmile

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MirandaWest · 18/10/2018 20:57

Hello again - thank you for the welcome Smile

I have suffered from anxiety for many years but mostly manage it. For the past few months it seems to have been managing me and I finally went to see the doctor a couple of weeks ago. He was fairly useless - gave me details of a counselling team as would be quicker than NHS (true) but he didn’t say it was a paying service.
Spoke to my manager at work who suggested I tried a service offered by the place we’re affiliated with and that is a) free and b) quicker. Had my first counselling session today. Not sure quite whether it will help much but I said a lot anyway. I have been successful with CBT before but my mind seems resistant at the moment. Not quite sure what this counsellor will do tbh but will see.
Manager is trying to make things less stressful at work and banning me from doing extra work at the weekend (we do all work from home) but it is mega busy at the moment and I feel bad about other people doing it.
Dh is away at the moment which I don’t like but he will be back tomorrow which is good. Although he’s off again on Monday

BippityBoppity87 · 18/10/2018 22:38

Hi everyone!

Really anxious about tomorrow and I have a medication review at the gp later on in the afternoon. What does that entail exactly? I've never had a medication review before! And this will be the first time the GP has seen me (as it was the psychiatrist who prescribed the medication)

BippityBoppity87 · 18/10/2018 22:39

And my knee is still agony. Paracetamol isn't helping. Do you think the GP will prescribe me something stronger if I ask?