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Raped and have no one

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Youdontbelieve · 28/09/2018 23:32

I was attacked and raped Wednesday night, someone i knew but not well.
I have no family or close friends, police were great to start with all female then soco came yesterday and had 2 males question me over and over, they didn't believe me,.
I went for examination and the doctor was so amazing but got taken home by a police officer who kept asking me if I actually may have be mistaken and agreed to sex but 'not that kind of sex"
I may be wrong but as a woman who's just been raped and abused you don't put them in a car with a man, police officer or not

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plasticpotato · 28/09/2018 23:36

XXXX

I'm so sorry.

Where are you? Where's your nearest Rape Crisis Centre?

plasticpotato · 28/09/2018 23:37

You can talk here & will be listened to

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Youdontbelieve · 28/09/2018 23:41

I'm in Hertfordshire and the number I was given is only open till 9pm
Honestly I just want to give up now, the det inspector said that it takes months and months and then rarely gets a conviction

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1in4FrogsIsALeapFrog · 28/09/2018 23:42

I am so sorry to hear this. Where are you? I think it’s important for you to get the right support and look for rape and assault support near you. My very good friend was raped and went through a very similar situation where she felt she was being interrogated and second guessed all the time but please know that there are people out there who will listen and who will help and support. You’re never alone, although you may feel it sometimes, you never are x

plasticpotato · 28/09/2018 23:46

You can ring Women's Aid freephone 0808 2000 247 - they can signpost.

You aren't alone X

1in4FrogsIsALeapFrog · 28/09/2018 23:49

I’ve just found this too - it’s victim support and it’s 24/7 - 0808 1689111

BackToTheFuschia7 · 28/09/2018 23:52

I’m so sorry OP Flowers

We believe you. I’m sorry the police are adding to your trauma. It’s not good enough.

The rape crisis helpline is only open a certain amount of hours each afternoon but the Samaritans can be contacted at any time, on any day. Of course there will always be support for you on here too, but appreciate sometimes you need to hear a voice during a crisis, rather than just words on a screen.

TheHandmaidsTail · 28/09/2018 23:53

I believe you. I'm sorry you're having to deal with thisThanks

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beanaseireann · 28/09/2018 23:55

Is there anyone in RL you can talk to.
If not ring the Samaritans OP

plasticpotato · 28/09/2018 23:58

WA will also help signpost, they are there to help. You aren't alone.

I believe you too.

If you want to talk here, we are here to listen.

Ollivander84 · 28/09/2018 23:59

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BackToTheFuschia7 · 28/09/2018 23:59

Please don’t harm yourself Youdont

You didn’t deserve this and the feelings of crisis are a completely normal reaction to such an awful trauma.

Do you feel able to call the Samaritans?

nameynamerson2018 · 29/09/2018 00:02

@Youdontbelieve, please please keep talking here. I know how soul destroying it feels to have gotten so far as telling people (for me, it was my parents aged 18) and for those very people meant to protect you, to then not believe you.

Please don't give up! You are worth more than that. A terrible, awful thing happened to you but it does not need to end you. You are still so very important.

BewitchedBotheredandBewildered · 29/09/2018 00:04

You are right.

The way you have been treated is wrong.

I believe you and if you have no-one to talk to Women's Aid or Samaritans will help you.

I'm really sorry this has happened Flowers

mrscloppity · 29/09/2018 00:04

I'm here.

I believe you.

Please don't do anything to harm yourself. We're all here, in support, holding your hand.

Liesmyparentstoldme · 29/09/2018 00:04

I believe you. I am so sorry to hear what you're going through.

Don't touch the pens. We're here to talk/listen

BettyBooper · 29/09/2018 00:05

I'm so sorry that this happened to you. You have done so well in reporting it. Sending you home with male police officer was insensitive at best,(fucking dickish move at best, actually) but don't let that detract from what you did (which was brave and awesome). I hope you are okay. I am fucking cross reading your posts. xx

BettyBooper · 29/09/2018 00:10

Are you okay @Youdontbelieve?

winegal · 29/09/2018 00:15

Another person here that believes you and cares about you. You are important and you matter!

Please get in touch with the contacts pp have mentioned. You are not alone. Giving you so many virtual hugs xxxxx

RJnomore1 · 29/09/2018 00:19

It was not your fault.

You are not alone.

You are though incredibly brave Flowers

Gigglebrain · 29/09/2018 00:32

I’m so sorry youdon’t . I believe you, I understand your pain. You have already been so so brave to go and report it.
Sending you love and hugs and lots of understanding. Xxx

hayleyfx · 29/09/2018 00:34

OP I’m so sorry for what you went through. There are so many people who care and you can talk to. Please phone the contacts already posted and remember how brave you are for having reported this. We believe you. We care. Please don’t hurt yourself. Are you okay? Hugs Flowers

Magik1 · 29/09/2018 00:40

I'm so sorry OP for whats happened and what you're going through right now. I believe you. Please don't harm yourself. Talk to someone from the contacts pps have suggested and/or talk to us. Sending you virtual hugs too

SoleBizzz · 29/09/2018 00:43

I believe you..

We care... we are here... we will not abandon you