How do I just not care what people think?

[Ysanne114]

Exactly that really.
I care so much what people think of me.
An old friend has been round telling people things about me that aren't true and it's really affecting me.
I suffer from mental health problems anyway.
Now I'm so paranoid about what she's telling people, I'm avoiding certain situations and sometimes avoiding going out at all
It's such a horrible feeling :(

Why is this person spreading malicious rumours? That doesn't sound like much of a friend. Have you got anyone friend or relative in real life to talk to about this and get some support? Someone that may help you contront this person and get them to stop? That does sound tough to deal with and completely understand it making you feel anxious, that's a pretty normal reaction to someone saying not very nice things about you

I think in your situation I would just try to put this person out of my mind and get on with things and then if I came across the people who had heard the rumours I'd set them straight. Easier said than done I know.

I do have other friends to talk to about it, and my partner, but I think they may be fed up of me going on.
It really still affects me and how I cope with things.
I don't particularly won't to confront anyone about what's been said. I just feel it puts them and myself in a really awkward position.
I'm just really fed.up of trying to avoid certain situations I may bump into them.
I just want to get on with things and just not worry about what others think of me.