Never told anyone this before but I'm desperate and it's ruining my life....

[embarassedandmortified]

I've developed a horrendous problem since having children..... there's hair growing on my nipples!

Lots of it....and it's not fine.

I feel like a freak, feel like I can never let a man near me ever.... want to crawl under a rock, fall asleep and wake up with the issue gone.

I'm gutted..... I'm not normal. It's got to be the biggest turn-off for a man.

What can I do? Anyone else out there or am I the only freak on Mumsnet? does electrolysis work? I'd remortgage my house to resolve this.

dg we all have irrational things that make us feel terrible and perhaps feed into things that we already feel about ourselves. im hairy all over top to toe (literally) and this doesnt bother me, but the (slightly) knarled look of my hand drives me mad , i hate it. the things we feel dont always make sense

I am not interested in how old you are. I am merely saying that life is downhill from now on babe so hw are you going to cope with it?

It is gravity and hirsute-ness all the way...

Crap spelling!

DG ~ I have to say I don't think you have been fair at all!

I have a few blonde hairs on my chin and they really get me down.

I can completely understand how OP feels and I think it's unfair to undermine how anyone else feels. If she feels it then she does. Not your place to make her feel stupid about it.

Just pointing out that it is ludicrous to say it is ruining her life. If it really is ruining her life, then she has my deepest sympathies and my sincerest suggestion that she seeks therapy for her state of depression.

DG - I'm not depressed. Honestly you are pretty weird about this!

Its ruining my hope of finding a partner....and that's important to me. Not THEE most important thing, but important none the less.

Don't treat me like a naive child. I've had 2 kids and have a million stretch marks....that's expected....sagging....thats expected.... wrinkles... thats expected...

this isn't and can be quite shocking.

I am being weird?

P M S L !!!!

Maybe my posts are coloured by the fact that I can think of major problems I or others are suffering that really are ruining lives.

I can't BELIEVE you have the cheek to suggest I'm seriously depressed and need help! I need help to remove excess hair!that's it.

Almost tempted to reveal who I am. But I'm not going to.

Littlelapin - lol oops! depressed about this.... not clinically depressed.

Dumbledores Girl - you mentioned earlier in this thread that you have a phobia? I would have thought that you would understand the OPs feelings MORE as you yourself experience irrational fear of something.

Everyone has sensitivities to things - I agree that no-one live can be ruined by hair, only what that person Thinks and Feels about the hair. Telling someone that they dont feel the way they do because someone else doesnt think its 'valid' seems to be rather harsh.

DDG I'm surprised that you're being so judgemental about this. Many people might find your phobia ridiculous but you know perfectly well that it's only too real to you - and that I and many others have done our best to offer support when your husband was away. Why not be kind to the OP instaed of ridiculing her?

So why post under feeling depressed then? Why not post in chat or health?

Look, I am going to bed. I am not sure if my nips are shaved but dh won't mind (I have never known him mention them even, let alone run screaming from the marital bed because the odd hair exists).

All I can say to you, and I hope this help alleviate your fears is that no man who would be put off by the odd hair is worth being with, so I am sure it will not prove a barrier to you finding a new partner. Good luck with it.

HEAR HEAR you 2!

off to search for the ridiculous phobia thread

PLUCK with good tweezers (Tweezerman Tweezers definitely worth the investment, they do a good job)

I assume this is fairly normal

pluck away - have no fear!

DDG - hmmm... slate me like that because I posted in this section?

Good Night!

I am sorry if I have caused offence. I would not wish to do that.

But I am not sorry for feeling that this problem can not surely be ruining the poster's life. Honestly darling? Is it? Honestly?

Whereas, yes, I do have a ridiculous phobia I make no secret of. And I know it is ruining my life, so I guess I know what a ruined life feels like.

littlelapin - I was only kidding.

At the moment... DDG yes it is. I know it wont ruin my entire life... but its there... everyday.... every morning when I get in the shower.

DDG - sorry I didn't mean that yours is ridiculous - I just meant that some people might think that. And that we all have irrational fears and worries so I thought that you of all people should be more understanding.

I can't see how feeling an irrational dislike of nipple hair is much different to an irrational dislike of vomit, or indeed spiders in my case.

They are irrational that is the whole point of a phobia.

The fact that nipple hairs/vomit/spiders are commonly found is neither here nor there.

TBH I'mm surprised at you DDG. You ahve had some great support here on MN over your phobia, I am sorry you can't extend the same support to someone else in need of it.

Yup... 'My irrational fear is better than your irrational fear'. How does that work?